How can I stop become a victim in every place I move to?
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change one aspect of yourself (or more). why did you think you were a victim? maybe they made you a victim for a certain reason
One of the best ways to prevent yourself from being a victim, is to show confidence. Often times, people who make you feel bad about yourself are what we call "bullies", and they like to prey on people who don't seem to have a lot of confidence. Try to be social, make friends, and appear confident.
Confidence can help in situations like this, and it is always important to remember that you are not to blame for other people choosing to target you. If you feel victimised wherever you go think about ways that you may be able to appear more confident, simple things like straight back, head held high, maybe even smile. This gives people the impression that you know who you are, and what you want, those who shy away in themselves may appear an easier target for bullies.
If appearing more confident does not sound like something which may relate to you, try considering ways in which you can increase your security around you. Do you have friends or family nearby you could talk to about this? Perhaps think about filing a complaint to the council or local police force? All these people are here to help you, make the most of them.
One word . confidence.confidence .confidence. learn to walk with your chin up high because you deserve it. Surround yourself with positive people who support you. Make lists of things which are great about you. Do things which increase confidence:a sport,a blog ,community service etc
adapt with surrounding. try to mingle or observe new place's behavior. don't just shut yourself from other
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 3:08pm
It begins with you. If you believe that you are the victim, you will always feel like the victim. If you know you are so much more than that, believe it, and it will radiate from you. If you believe it, so will others. So, keep your head up, be that friendly neighbour, be that considerate roommate, be the hard-working employee. Be who you know you are, and people will reflect this confidence with respect.
Believe in yourself. Wake up in the morning, tell yourself that you are stronger, and be stronger. There is no need for you to tolerate being a victim and it isn't your fault, it is their own fault for trying to victimise others. It is wrong to victimise other people. Just be strong and don't change yourself because of anybody.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 7:11am
you have to be confident, try not to be afraid, and make good friends who will stand by you. People will try to make you a victim but you shouldn't let them.
you cannot stop that...its the other people that make you a victim..its them that should change..but that wont happen...
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