Why is he ignoring me after breakup?
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PhilosophicalSailes
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Feb 9, 2018
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Every guy has his own UNIQUE reason why he chose to ignore you after a breakup, nobody can decode that for you no matter how many times you try to analyze it. The best way to go about the situation is to not dwell on 'what if', 'what happened', 'what about' and/or becoming a cyber-stalker. If he chose to cut contact with you, that means its time to take the power back and focus on your self.
I know this sounds counter-productive because often in a relationship, we tend to focus on others before our selves, in a break up we want to fix the thing that is broken but this is the time to stop living your life on someone else’s schedule and finally do something that has been long overdue, that's to love your self!
Put the phone down and take your moment to mourn, nobody can tell to how long this should last, then when your ready, get back to being a person you are proud of because when he does return, which most of the time they do out of curiosity as to why you haven't reached out in a while, you will be the glowing embodiment of what originally made him love you in the first place.
And when that moment hits, YOU can decide if he is worthy to be in your life again, worthy of your love again, worthy of your happiness again.
You got this!
Anonymous
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Jun 11, 2016
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He's ignoring you after the breakup for many reasons. He might have problems going on in his life. He might know he's no good for you, so he's letting you go so you can find better. He might not care about you as you think. He might find you annoying. He might be scared that he will catch feelings for you if you talk again. He might be busy. He might be depressed. If you want to find out why he's ignoring you , you're best asking him. If he refuses to answer you after you ask;you should move on. He doesn't want to talk about it. Find a rebound or a hobbie. :D
Anonymous
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Jun 16, 2016
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I'm sorry to hear about your breakup. I hope it was amicable. Perhaps he's hurt and that's the only way he knows how to deal with the emotions he's feeling. How does it make you feel that he's ignoring you?
Anonymous
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Jul 9, 2016
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He is a bastard. Trust me he is so not worth it. You deserve so much better, Trust me you will be okay!
Anonymous
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Jul 2, 2016
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He has either moved on,on he feels emotionally weak to face you because he still has feelings for you .
purplepen
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May 16, 2016
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He probably can't emotionally handle the pain and sadness he caused you so its easier to ignore.
Gracia182
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Jul 2, 2016
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Maybe it's because he wants to distance himself from you. You are not jst another person in his life. You were special to him.
Anonymous
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May 14, 2016
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He might be too upset to discuss the breakup, Sometimes we tend to ignore those we love because we are simply hurt and heart broken ourselves. Just give him time and he will come around, He may just be coming to terms with how the situation is going. Time mends broken hearts.
JustTryingToHelp1031
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Jul 13, 2016
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Some boys have a hard time dealing with their emotions. Especially if they lost someone they cared about. Some boys tend to hide their emotions instead of dealing with them. They think acting like you don't care is easier than admitting that you miss someone.
KitPrince
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May 21, 2016
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Maybe he needs to clear his head. Speaking after a breakup isn't always the best thing even if we believe staying friends is the better choice. Finding a hobby, finding something new to enjoy is the better option. Spend time with friends and family, treat yourself, whatever you enjoy doing best. Maybe after all blows over dies down and feels a bit more calm and relaxed and not as a crashing wave it'll be easier for you to both talk again.
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