Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?

There are so many reasons why people fight over trivial things. I've found that usually when something else is going negatively in a person's life, they tend to take it out in other ways. They displace their emotions. Sometimes dealing with that particular situation becomes too difficult or frustrating and the way to vent would be to argue over things that don't matter whatsoever. On the other end of the spectrum, maybe there was just some miscommunication taking place. Either way, communication is always key in order to figure out what is wrong (what the problem/issue is) and how best to fix it!

because we care for each other and our heart is sensitive to the behaviours of those who we love since we have given them the power to hurt us

You fight over the small things because you never expressed how you felt, so you pent up anger or irritation on the small things. And then you explode.

because those "small and stupid things" could mean a lot to one person but mean something completely different to another person.

Because we often fight to be RIGHT, but in truth, there is really no right and wrong. So we are causing suffering on ourselves fighting over small and stupid things. However, there is really no small and stupid things as well. Everything is based on perspective. ;)

Many people expect perfection. The world is not perfect. We must understand that. If you feel that things aren't going as you want it to be, it us best to talk to someone about it.

Sometimes the small and stupid things aren't as small or stupid to the other party. Other times there are underlying issues being triggered by the smaller arguments.

Patience and taking time time to understand each other may be all that you need. Disagreements are bound to happen and as a matter of fact, if handled well, it makes you to know more about yourselves. Disagreements occur between siblings as well not to talk of if you are from different backgrounds or homes. But the key is asking yourselves, "do you want this to work?" Then you have to learn how to sit together and talk issues out so "this" can really work. Thank you.

Because these small stupid things don t always appear to us as small and stupid and for the most part they re a result of something thats been building up in our mind for so long..and that small stupid thing is only the needle that pops the balloon.

Sounds like you are both under stress and outside pressures. Communication is key. That and a good nights rest.

I think we fight over small things because it's hard for us to show and tell someone how we actually feel and what's really bugging us. So we take our bottled up emotions and express it through small trivial things.

Maybe because they are symbolic of a bigger issue to you. Maybe you feel like you don't have enough control in life (could be due to someone somewhere else - like your boss at work) and you feel like you want to exert your power at home, to feel at least somewhat in control of something.

When you learn someone, you see their bright sides, and then, the more you are with that person, the more you see little flaws. Those flaws are like surprises, so this is why you will tend to overreact to those things. I think if you are arguing on small and stupid things, it's better than arguing on BIG things hehe.

There are many reason the little stuff could be getting to you. You could just be feeling stressed or there is a big issue in the relationship that you're avoiding so use little things as an outlet

There's some inner conflict between you and said person. You two need to sit down and talk things out.

Little things usually are signs of bigger problems. They are small signals of a problematic areas that we need to work on. Usually we get these subtle indicators from the Universe and if ignored, then they either start building up or growing in size. For better or worse, we usually only focus on something if it is deeply disturbing us. Therefore the signs grow in size until we notice them, often starting off as little things. And sooner or later we shall look at them and at what they are actually trying to tell us.

Because we don't see the world in perspective and don't (want to) see the larger picture. We are confined by our own mind, and the confines gets smaller and smaller every time we miss on the larger picture, which happens pretty often. My thought? Expand the horizons of thinking, because the world is a big place, and life is too short to worry about small things.

Because we, as humans, basically live for doing so. It's unfortunate and I hope that as a race we can find a way to change this.

People can get really distressed with life sometimes, routine and general issues we face day to day can get the better of some people, the best thing to do it to take a step back and consider what they are going through, everyone has their own issues, you can talk to them and tell them how you feel and that you're tired of fighting over small things, tell them that you're there and willing to help with whatever issues they might have, but most of all, give them space, and don't be invasive, they might just need some time to themselves :D

Because that's the way we vent over something. It can be anything like not being answered to on the phone, or something else. Then we go all guns blazin' over something not worth the time. It's just about a bit of realization, that we are losing control, and take a few minutes off... sip a mojito or something and come back fresh to reduce such mishaps by a major degree.