My ex and I had been together 4 years this year. We raised my dog together. I don’t want to get back with him he hurt me beyond repair. I don’t want to feel like this anymore. But I do love him-what should I do?

There can be two ways as you said you love him - one is to talk to him about your problems so that it can be sorted out. Another can be that you understand loving always doesn't guarantee compatibility factor. Imagine loving a flower you saw in a garden. Will you pluck it and take it with your home even if it dies? No right? Sometimes the best you can do to show your love is to let it be like what it is supposed to. You can be happy by seeing him happy from a distance or you can see both of yourself going down and down in relationship in case not able to get the problem sorted. The final decision is yours! 😊

Take your dog and live a happy healthy life without him. Sometimes we have to sacrifice ourselves. I have always sacrificed myself for others happiness. It's a way to reach a point of selflessness. You don't fight for love, you are love. I love in selfless way, you need not that, if it that does not need you. I love seeing others happy, even if they6 may never be a with me. You must not be jealous in the end. Infact you must wish them well and let them live. Love with the heart and not the mind. I have been bisexual for a long time. If there is one thing I have learned from my sexuality. Nothing is forever, there is always a better man. I just know my love is strong and forever, if they can ever accept me.

Give it some time. If it's really beyond repair and you don't want to get back with him then you would need to grind through the heartbreak. The feelings you have are normal, you're hurt but you won't feel this way forever. With time and when the emergency state your mind and body are in right now is over you will start to see things a bit more clearly and you will still be sad probably but you will know that you can move and and that you deserve better. So if it really is something you don't want or should forgive him then give yourself some time to get over the initial heartbreak and then work on your healing. It does get better. You will feel better soon.

Perhaps allowing yourself to feel the sadness and pain will help you realise why you broke up with him and that your relationship was bad. You can always talk to people around you about the problems in your relationship to help your brain grasp the idea that he wasn't good for you. Maybe spend some time with friends or family members doing activities you enjoy. Find a new hobby to distract you or meet new people for example. You obviously shouldn't blame yourself for anything and you should be proud that you were strong enough to end something toxic. If you don't have people you trust, you can always talk to people here 😇