Me and my ex have been apart for almost 5 months now. Im afraid our relationship was toxic in the first place. we've been together 2 times and i want him back again. Should i let it go or keep trying?

It is toxic to go and go back, it is not healthy, maybe you should take a long time to know if things change, maybe it is custom and not love.

Realizing that your relationship was toxic is the first step. Sometimes when we are in love it can be blinding. I was in a relationship for two and a half years and I thought It was in love, but in reality it was very toxic. Do whatever you feel is right in your heart, whether that is trying more or letting it go. Just remember that your happiness should come before anything and your mental health is more important than anything else. Do not let others push you into something that you don't want to do. Follow your heart and do what feels is right.

Sometimes the people we want are not the people we need in our lives. You said that you think it was a toxic relationship.. as well as on-and-off. The best thing you can do for yourself is to think about whether or not you will be happier in the long run if you continue to see this person, whether they bring positive value into your life, or if you just want to make it work because of your history together. Letting go of an ex is hard and can take time to get over but staying with an ex that you believe is not really good for you is harder, especially if the things that initially pushed you guys apart do not change.

Hello dear, You already mentioned that the relationship was toxic. So is it really worth it? And you've broken up with him and patched back again like for 2 times. May be its a signal that it doesn't workout between you & him. Sometimes holding on does more damage than letting go. Besides toxic relationships drain your energy and peace. Why being in a relationship when all you get back is stress and confusion? Moving on could be hard but it is the best you can do at this stage. ×Best wishes and good luck× (And why do you want him back ? )

I see that you are feeling unsure of what desicions to make. It's often hard when you've been together before and you want to be together again. You are the expert of you and you can take your time into thinking the best way to do this. All of us at 7 cups are here for you. We are always willing to listen, as you truly do deserve to be heard. Take care of yourself and care for others. The answers will come soon enough. Sometimes relationships can be a blessing and a curse at the same time, but what is important is that you don't let it get you down. Love Grace

If you know it was toxic and you're already split, it is best you don't go back to them. As much as you want to, it's not worth it on your end if you're just going to be putting yourself back into something you're not happy in and being vauled as a whole. It might feel like there's no one else out there for you, but trust me, you'll find someone else that will treat you better. Being in toxic relationships really make us look more, and understand more about what we want in a relationship and what we want of ourselves and how people see us.

Its suggested to talk and set the ground rules, so that if at all you face any unwanted situation in future, it will help both of you to handle the situation properly and without hurting both of your feelings it will make sure that your relationship is also maintained with all the respect and love for each other. ALso in any relation it is most important to respect the relation and personal space of your partner. if this is maintained then it will help grow your relation and minimize the stress between both the partners. This is tried and tested.

I'm proud of u for identifying the red flags. Though it is very tempting to get back, it wouldn't be healthy. Remind yourself of how bad it was for u each time u broke it off and got back in. It must have been exhausting and overwhelming. it's time to take care of yourself and put yourself first. Give yourself some time to work on yourself. When you heal from the past, you will be ready to heal and move on. The right now might be hard and lonely but soon it will be worth it. You will meet the right person for you in due time