Is there any flaws in me that ruined this relationship?
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There were probably flaws in the other person as well. A relationship involves two people, and one can't take the blame completely.
Anonymous
December 7th, 2015 1:31pm
No there aren't flaws in you that ruined the relationship it was just that you guys don't work out things properly
In my thoughts, NO. I tried to have an ex back one time after he left me. He discovered the grass is not always greener on the other side ( that's his problem ) and I discovered myself after a while and was doing just fine without him.
A relationship is a two way process. There can never be flaw at one side but both sides would have flaws that may have put an end to the relationship. It happens for the better because at every breakup you get close to finding the one you really love.
In a relationship it takes two hands to clap. Both parties are involved in it and both parties has to want to make it work. There is no one person to be blame if the relationship does not work out.
There's flaws on everyone. No one is flawless, you just have to find that someone who doesn't care about those flaws and love you for you.
Your flaw is your belief system. People who become easily jealous are those who are insecure about themselves. For several reasons, they follow a belief system that claims that they are not worthy to be with their ideal partner. They fear that when they enter a good relationship, they will eventually lose that partner. What we fear causes us to attract the very things that we are trying to avoid. If you believe that you are unworthy, then that is how you will project your behavior.
Jealously is strengthen by the fear of losing someone. Jealousy can cause people to behave overly controlling towards their partner. They may set limits on who the partner can and cannot interact with. In many cases, eventually the partner will grow tired of the controlling nature of the jealous person. The partner will then breakup the relationship and move on. In this case, the very result that the jealous person had tried to prevent had indeed occurred.
You need to be honest with yourself, and recognize your own self limiting belief system. Take your failures from the past and learn from them. Use those lessons to strengthen yourself. Life involves a series of failures. Those who succeed the most take past failures and use them to reshape themselves into a stronger version of themselves.
There could just be a problem with the other person in a relationship and they need to work on themselves
Everybody has flaws.
It's just human.
I'm sure you have notice that your partner too has flaws.
Be someone who loves everything about you. Even your flaws.
Relationships take a lot of hard work & compromise.
Explain to your partner how you are feeling.
While you continue to grow as an individual, the answer may become clear to you through experience.
No human is perfect so ofcourse you will have flaws too. But a relationship is between two individuals so both of their combined flaws would ruin it. There is no need to blame yourself. Just see what you did wrong and learn from it :)
Relationships end for various reasons all the time, it doesn't mean that there is something wrong with either of you, it just means that you weren't meant to be each other and that they weren't the one you are meant to spend you're life with.
The only good reason to have a flaw is if you pretend to be someone you aren't. The person you are with should love every bit of you. So if it doesn't work out, then you have to realize that you just weren't their match.
No love, of course there aren't. A relationship is not something that can be ruined by something like that, most of the times it's nobody's fault it happened. Those that at the beginning were seen as attractive traits become insufferable, but in reality you haven't changed at all.
Anonymous
April 30th, 2015 9:12pm
There are flaws in all of us. It may not have been your flaws that ruined the relationship but a combination of both yours and theirs.
I don 't know you personally but I can tell you with certainty that everybody has flaws. We are human and we are not perfect.
Jealousy has ruined my last two relationships. When I see my boyfriend talking to other girls, something snaps in me and I get so angry. Why can't I learn to relax and trust my boyfriend?
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