Im still depressed after a year of a break up. It was long distance and she got with a guy after two weeks of our breap up. It still crushes me from time to time. How can I get over this?
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Last Updated: 07/27/2020 at 4:58pm
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Break ups can be hard for a lot of people. My first suggestion would be to on follow her on social media. That way you won’t be tempted to look at her posts and compare them to your previous relationship. Also, give yourself time to grieve, self-care is crucial during times like this. It’s OK to cry, it’s OK to be hurt and upset. It’s also OK to pamper yourself a bit. Learn how to love yourself as you would a partner. Go out and do things you like to do, reconnect with you you were before you were in a relationship with this person. You will slowly find yourself starting to heal. It will take time but you will get better. Good luck and I hope this helps.
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September 3rd, 2019 9:58am
Always remember its not your fault. Breakups are hard but at times necessary. People move on and heal differently. Know that you tried your best and gave your 110% while it lasted and you have nothing to regret. Best to not get to involve with her updates and her life as much as you can until you have healed and moved on.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2020 4:01am
You could maybe spend time doing things that you enjoy and with people that you enjoy being with. It's hard to see people moving on without you but if you don't move on yourself, you'll be left in the dust. If you don't feel like new relationships, hang out with friends and even family, they'd appreciate the sentiment. At some point, the feeling will be another part of you that you accept and you'll see as a turning point where you got better or maybe even improved! Keep going because it's not the end of the world for you.
Give yourself time to heal, talk to yourself every time you need it, explain to yourself what happened, it'll make it clear how you should feel. Its the first step. Talk to yourself explaining why you need to let go. Also the 5 by 5 rule. Which helps alot. If its not gonna matter in 5 years, it doesn't deserve even 5 minutes of your time. If she's alright, you deserve it even more. Be okay, focus on the things that matter, check out positive pages, listen to people who bought themself out of the same thing, their journeys and how you can grow better, good things will come your way!
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