I'm 21 and my girl friend broke up with me mid January on my birthday. Even though she said I did nothing wrong, I feel like I was incredibly toxic towards her, and dragged her down. How do I forgive myself?

First of all sorry to hear about the break up. You say you feel like you where toxic to the relationships I think the first path to forgiving yourself and moving on is to reflect on what happened during the relationship and truly understand What happened. I feel like then only you can take the steps to forgiving yourself and moving on. That in itself will also take some time. Although forging oneself will be the most important part because if you don’t forgive yourself you will be stuck in the past and won’t be able to move on happily. All the best. Peter

Forgiving yourself for hurting another isn't simple, agreed. Maybe start with working on becoming a better you, and figuring out what you could do in the future to prevent the same thing from happening, and then try again?

Always know that you gave your 110% in the relationship..It might not have been the best 110% but u did your best anyways..Whether the relationship works out or not is beyond your control..All you can do is learn from the mistakes and make yourself better in whatever you do..

I think you are already making the right steps towards recovery. You are recognizing that it was toxic and you made some mistakes. Owning up to them and becoming the you that you want to be is the best way to forgive yourself. All we can do as humans is move on and there are several different ways we can. You can choose how you would like to move on from here but the past can't be changed. Owning up and moving on, in my opinion, is the best forgiveness you can give to other and yourself. We all make mistakes and we all go through things, you can and you will get past this!

It's amazing that you are aware of the things that bother you. Hurt and feeling of loss sometimes may fill in guilt many a times. The power of acceptance is something one should adapt to. If you have a strong sense of realization, apologize to the afflicted person. You are only human and I'm sure you have learnt a lot in this duration. You need to stay strong. Implement what you learned positively. Focus on the positives in your life. Spend more time with your friends who motivate you. You don't have to beat yourself up so hard. It's alright. You will be thankful of your experiences in life later on

Firstly, I know you have probably heard this a lot but, I am honestly sorry for the break-up. You cant just forgive yourself out of the blue it is a process that consists of... 1. Accept responsibility for your actions 2. Feel guilty without dwelling 3. Amend your mistakes 4. Focus on what you learned and how you grew. Also, you can write her and yourself a long letter or text about where you went wrong and what you should've done. Somewhere in there you should put something about wanting her back but understanding and respecting her decisions. Thank you for accepting my support. I wish you good luck.