I was in a relationship for eight years and she cheated on me. I'm having a hard time moving on. What should I do?

Know that you have given your 110% to make it work out. The rest is out of your control. You did your best be proud of that and learn from the past to have a better future.

Love yourself as much as you can. Love is about calm and you deserve that, always. Try to find yourself and to establish what do you want and how you can get it. Getting over a relationship is a tough moment in life, but if you find yourself in the process you did not lose everything.

Take it one day at a time. Just like moving to a new country and starting a new life, this is doing the same thing essentially. It will take you some time to adjust, but every day it will get easier and easier. Try to focus on other things such as work, hobbies, friends and family. Be understanding towards yourself and towards the process that you are going through, and rest assured that the emotions that you are experiencing are normal. Feeling heartbroken and sad are signs that you are in touch with your feelings and that you are healthy, and one day when you meet the right one for you, those healthy attributes will serve your future relationships very well.

Focus on yourself. Do not make it seem like it’s your fault because it’s not. Spend time with friends and family and look out for yourself. Refrain from thinking badly about yourself. Focus on what you love doing and pick up a hobby you missed because of the relationship. Do not take it out on her. She made a mistake and if she was not willing to help you then leave her for good. I hope this helps you and that you have a good day. Remember it is not a reflection of yourself. Stay positive and happy as much as you can.

A therapist can also be helpful in helping you to heal the wounds the cheating has caused you. It also may be helpful for you to rediscover yourself and remember what makes you, you. After an 8 year relationship, it can be hard to carry on normal life without that person because they were such a constant in your life. Taking the time to focus on yourself and learn new things about yourself can help so much. Please remember that, although it may not feel like it right now, you are so worthy of love (especially self-love), you are irreplaceable, and you are important to the world.