How to stop hating yourself after cheating?

You should think possitive, even if you did it. It's already done, you can't do anything about it, you can't change past.

Distract yourself. Don't fill your mind with hurtful memories or ideas, etc. Read books, watch movies, do anything you love that will make you happy and take your mind off things :)

everyone has his own mistakes, you may cheat on someone and your friend may not, but be sure that he has faults that you don't have, everyone makes mistakes, but be sure if you do it a lot to try to solve the problem because it is not normal to be a cheater in general. try to not tell your beloved about it if you are sure that it is your first AND last time, you will avoid having useless problems, it is important to you to forgive yourself because even if your beloved has forgived you, you may keep in hating yourself if you haven't forgive it yet.

Remind yourself that you are only human and that everyone makes mistakes. The key to life is to make mistakes and to learn from them.

Forgive yourself for doing what you did and learn from your mistakes. The idea is to learn from your mistakes and never repeat them and only move forward for the future. Heating yourself will not change anything, but will prevent you form moving forward.

Through your journey of self forgiveness, it is important for you to not let what you have done completely redefine yourself. YOU ARE NOT YOUR MISTAKE. Do good things. Help people. Find something to do that gives you a sense of reward, and let it heal you. Be the person you want to be through your successes, not your mistakes.

In my experience, I have cheated before.. I hated myself for doing it after awhile I had lost both of them and with time I worked up the guts to apologize to both of them for what I did and life moves on and I knew I couldn't just stay for my entire life hating myself, so since then i have never cheated again and I stopped dating for awhile.

You made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes, but learning from them is what makes all the difference. Re-frame painful and regrettable experiences as learning opportunities. Everyone experiences painful things at times, but finding opportunities for personal growth can help you move past the hurt and regret. The first step, I assert, would be identifying why you felt the need to cheat in the first place, and progress from that point.

One thing that sometimes is easily forgotten is that we are only human therefore we will make mistakes. When you struggle to find happiness within your relationship or with yourself personally leave someone feeling like there in a horrible place. The first thing to do is to cut yourself some slack. You are only human and you are going to make mistakes. You are a person in the world who is trying to manage insecurity and unhappiness in your life in a way that allows you survive and cope with it. There are so many ways people choose to have an escape from their own realities such as drinking, gambling, taking drugs or having affairs and so forth. This does not make you a horrible person, it just means you human. You are not alone in the world, there are so many people who are also having affairs or have cheated on their partners and sharing the same feeling of guilt you are. Know that you are a good person who just made a bad choice. Everyone makes bad choices, that is inevitable but that does not mean that we should be condemned for the rest of our lives.

there is no way to change the past. what's done is done. all you can do is learn from it. learn to forgive yourself. we are all human and we all make mistakes. terrible mistakes more times than not. but we practice progress and we learn to move on.

Cheating is wrong. But we humans are not perfect, sometimes we end up doing things we regret latter. Most important thing is to realise and identify our shortcomings . Once you do that you are already a better person. One should always try not to repeat mistakes they make and learn from ones which are already made.

You move on. Don't stop and beat yourself up. Keep moving and think of the present and future, not the past.

Forgive yourself, remember that we all make mistakes. Ask forgiveness from the person you've hurted and promise that you wont do it again. If the person you've cheated on gives you second use it to make up for what you've done. If you're not given a chance then all you can do is to move on and learn from your mistakes.

Cheating is a difficult situation to deal with. While every relationship will process this even differently, it is important to forgive yourself. While your significant other may not forgive you, it is crucial to realize that you made a mistake and you can better your life to prevent that mistake from occurring again. Hating yourself will only bring you back to an old routine.

If you cheated, why are you with the person you are with? Find the person that you don't want to cheat on. That special person that you can't even think about doing anything against.

Cheating is simply a symptom of either a problem in the relationship or a problem in your maintaining a commitment to that relationship. These are very common problems and feelings of guilt and shame that you have will only interfere with the process of recognizing the problem amd taking the right steps to solve the problem. Most of the time the root of the problem is not really you but your upbringing or your spouse's upbringing that lead to problems in creating and maintaining an emotionally intimate relationship . Guilt and shame will only prevent you from discovering these root problems and solving them. Hate the problem not the person and get rid of that - dont hate yourself.

Accept that you cheated. Then accept the fact that you no longer can change whatever you did before. If you keep on hating yourself because of one thing you did in the past, you allow that thing to affect you now and the coming days of your life. Do not let it affect you more than once.

You need to accept what you have done, You made a bad mistake, But we all make mistakes and the only person who can make you stop hating yourself for that mistake is yourself, You need to make yourself understand that "Yes I made a huge mistake...and I won't do it again" But mean it this time. You have to forgive yourself first before you can stop hating or blaming yourself for what had happened.

I need to accept the truth and the thing that I have done was my past. However, we all know that we cannot change the past. We just have to let it go and learn some experiences.

Guilt is a feeling that is very hard kick, think about the situation and why it happened, usually temptation can come because there are already problems in the relationship.

I cheated on who I think, is the love of my life, I told her, she gave me another chance, I never cheated again but a few months after she broke up with me because she says she doesn’t think can never get passed it. I hate myself for what I did, she was everything I ever wanted.

Know that you are not a horrible person. You are a human that has made a mistake. If your partner is still with you, and knows, spend time building trust. If your partner is still with you and doesn't know, tell them. If your partner left, take your mistakes and use them to be a better lover in the future.

Well I hope my answer is helpful When you cheat it must be an awful feeling and you will be blaming yourself...but don't forget we are all human And we make mistakes and we have to know that every problem is not impossible to fix do the right thing thing you know would be best to help your relationship to me being honest would be the best thing I would do and find a way to redeem myself which would be a process but by being honest to myself and my partner I know that we can fix any problem

First off, I hope you know that we all mess up at times, but those little mess ups in life is what makes us all HUMAN! That's right! Every mistake, mishap, or mess up we've made is what helps us grow stronger... and it happens to everyone! What I love to do is affirmations! Telling myself that I am loved, cared for, supported, a good leader, filled with potential, and okay to mess up helps me a lot. You are deserving of love and respect no matter what because out there, you mean the world to multiple people and this is a perfect opportunity to move forward and know it's okay to learn and grow!

Having a full control of ourselves is a nearly impossible mission. We make mistakes, we make decisions we are not proud of. However, no one is completely good or evil. If you cheated, it was a bad action, but does not necessarily make you a bad person. You need to re-evaluate the reasons why it happened and prevent the conditions that could create that from happening again. You need to act positive to the world and compensate with kinder actions. Regret will get you nowhere, only active action will.

It's hard to accept that you made this mistake, and some people may even make you feel like you deserve every negative thought you're giving yourself. You're only human. Learn from your mistake, take in what it does, and forgive yourself. To forgive yourself is to let go.

If the person you cheated on was a great person that loves you truly or were bound to love you then you don't stop hating yourself. Ever. Its an awful thing to do to an innocent person. Why be with that person if you wanna cheat? You would deserve to be hated to do something like that.

I think that acceptance is key with this. Whatever you did or didn't do has happened. It's in the past now. While the feelings, and thoughts continue there has to come a point where you need to forgive yourself. Maybe talking with a listener or counsellor may help you beyond this?

Accepting that the cheating did happen - accepting the situation is the first step. Knowing that at that moment you did all you knew....you are different now and if the same situation came up you most likely would not do the same thing. This is growth. I know as I also cheated and looking back I can't believe I did that however the me 'now' has learned and would do things differently. Now you must remove the word 'hate' and replace it with 'love'....no matter what you did you must learn to love yourself through anything. Whatever 'mistakes' you feel you may have done love yourself through it. Bring love into the situation. Bring love into your heart. You are not a bad person. No one is perfect and we are not meant to be. We are just here learning and growing and the key is learning to love ourselves through all we do.

I would like to suggest a couple of things that could help: 1. The first is that you aren't defined by a particular event in your life. So you shouldn't hate yourself for it. Even the best of us make mistakes. You could promise yourself to not make such a mistake again. 2. Another thing that could be acceptance. By accepting that you did it you may be able to forgive yourself for it. 3. Try detachment. Think about yourself from a 3rd person's perspective. What advice would you give to someone who was feeling the same way. I would like to say that hating yourself for cheating won't erase it from occurring. The best thing is to move on and forgive yourself.