How do you deal with the temptation to contact your ex?

I just try to be in the moment, and not think that I have to go for the rest of my life without contacting him. I just think, just get through the next hour, and then you can contact him, and then when the hour is over I do it again, or I do it day by day, but the main thing is that I don't assume I have to be strong for the rest of my life. Just a little bit at a time.

Do you really want to contact your ex? They are your ex for a reason, remember? It doesn't matter who ended things, if the relationship was good they wouldn't be your ex! This is what I do; I write a list of all the bad qualities of my ex and I keep it where I will always see it. That way I am not tempted to call them because of the "good times" we had.

I don't. I directly contact them. Because if you still want to contact them means you still have feelings for them. It's okay to not be in a relationship but you can still be in contact.

Arrrghh this is a tough one. It's so hard! I know what you mean! I just try REALLY hard to remind myself that the best thing for me now is not to talk to them, and that I will probably feel worse if I do. Sometimes I have a friend confiscate my phone. And you know what? Sometimes I break and contact them.

Personally, I struggle with this often. I was in a relationship for four years with a person who was emotionally manipulative, psychologically and physically abusive, and overall, took me away from much of my life, family, and friends. Somehow, though, I still find myself analyzing our past relationship, finding a fault of my own, and second-guessing my decision to cut him out of my life for the better. It's easy to get caught up in feelings of "what-if", and second-guess your initial judgment to call it quits - time and distance not only makes it difficult to remember a person, but also feelings and scenarios. Your negative reactions slowly push further back in to your mind, and eventually, only good memories spark up when you imagine your ex. The best thing to do is to take a moment to re-evaluate your ex, your relationship, and yourself. What was the relationship like? Honestly. How did you feel during the relationship? In comparison, what kind of person are you version the kind of person you were? In comparison, if you are in a new relationship, how do you feel versus how you felt? Did you and your ex have any tangible future together? Did it work, truthfully? Imagine your best time together. Now, imagine the very worst time. How do they balance? Was it worth the ratio? I always forget how toxic he was until I really think about all of our worst times alongside the good times that plague me. I force my thoughts to those of his abuses, rather than our spiritual connectivity or other good qualities of the relationship. I also realize how much better of I person I have become since exiting that very distressing connection, and finding my now-boyfriend. And finally, I compare the man who loves me now and how he loves me to the way that my ex treated me on the daily. If you find yourself seeing them solely in positive light? Maybe it is time to reconnect.

Put it this way: It's an ex. There's a reason why you two separated. Keep that in mind every time. Also, think about your self worth. Does he/she deserve you?

Think about why you broke up. Think about how much you cried. Think about how he made you feel. Think about all of that, don't contact your ex honey. The future is knocking at your door, don't let it because the past is calling.

I just tell myself that I don't need any negativity in my life. I want someone that will care about me and love me, will treat me the way I deserve to and I will not settle for less than that.

If you are experiencing the temptation to call up an ex just think " What will I benefit by calling him and what would I feel if I got heartbroken once again. By asking these wuestion it allows you to really be honest