How do I stop myself from texting him?
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Moderated by Joe Nelson, Licensed Clinical Social Worker Doctor of Social Work
Updated: May 6, 2020
TeaWithAFriend
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Nov 17, 2014
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Wait 24 hours before you hit send. If your experience is anything like mine, you'll be glad you didn't hit send the next day. Instead of texting, consider writing an email. Don't send it though for 24 hours though!!! In my experience, a text or any kind of communication sent in haste has been a (sometimes huge) mistake but I was never unhappy with my decision NOT to send something after I'd waited 24 hours. I've kept a lot of the emails I didn't send and some are downright comical after a few years have passed and, at the same time, painful to read. When I was younger, I was desperate to keep people in my life who I later would realize were not worth the time and effort. Nowadays I focus on doing things that make me happy instead of hanging on to people who clearly didn't hold me in as high a priority as I held them. Self-forgiveness is key.
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keely0
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Jan 9, 2016
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one thing i learned to do is, instead of texting him directly, keep a journal and write to him as you would be speaking to him.
peacefulNutella97
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Dec 13, 2015
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Close your eyes, take a deep breath in, and remind yourself that YOU DESERVE MORE. Texting him would make you feel better in the moment, but long term it is only going to hurt you and keep you from moving on. It is the moments when you put down your phone and remember how amazing and awesome you are that help you grow into a better person. You want to stop texting him for a reason, remember that reason and dont give in. Yeah, it is hard, but it will make you strong. Or, delete his number and past conversations so you physically cannot text him again.
insightfulTruth93
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Dec 13, 2015
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think about the THE VALUE YOU GIVE TO YOURSELF.....Don’t tell yourself that you’re powerless over this. By saying “how do I stop myself†from texting him – you’re acting like you’re powerless to the urge to text him..You just don’t text him. That’s it. Each time you want to pick up the phone text a nice one to your parents or a close friend..start a conversation with others who cherish you..Our mind is the most powerful thing in the world. Mind over matter, as what they say. Keep on thinking that you should NOT text him. When you feel the urge, use your mind to think about other things. It’s all about having the right mindset...
Anonymous
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Apr 15, 2016
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Understand that you cannot make someone care for you who just doesnt. You should try and have some self respect :)
Anonymous
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Dec 19, 2015
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don't stop. why stop? just go to the end and see what that's like. otherwise you won't stop texting him and your future ex's.
Anonymous
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Jan 20, 2016
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When the anxiety of texting him starts, you should remember the bad things he did to you, for you to stop. Also think he does not text yyou.. so why should you?
Righthere321
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Jan 21, 2016
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Keep busy! Keep active! He is not worth your text. Remind yourself why you shouldnt text him. You may miss him now, but time will pass and it will get easier. Someone much more deserving for that text you want to send right now, is just around the corner. Turn the page, that chapter of him is done. Do not text him.
Anonymous
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Apr 4, 2015
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Build up your self control. Delete his number if you have to. I'm sure you remember it by heart but everytime you feel like texting him, recollect why you stopped in the first place.
AnnieAndie
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Jan 16, 2016
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Stop. Breathe. Put the phone down and count to 100. If you still feel like texting him after, walk away from the phone and do something productive. Draw, read a book...anything to get your mind off of him.
Anonymous
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Apr 24, 2016
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This is a very broad question... but here's some perspective from my point of view. I was in a relationship for about two years, and I thought that my significant other at them time was the one I would spend the rest of my life with. I was naive and clueless because now when I look back and reflect upon this relationship I had... I've come to terms with the fact that it was very toxic. He just wanted to keep me there as his 'trophy' and my ex used me. I lost my independence and self respect. because of this. I had no voice, and I lost a lot of friends because I couldn't explain why I couldn't go out and be free. He was my only friend during this time so I depended on him a lot. Basically, this is a really broad topic, so I'd say in order to cut off contact, keep your chin up and respect yourself enough and have enough self-control to get out of that relationship. And even afterwards, have the strength to refuse his advances and keep reminding yourself that the relationship ended for a reason, and it was probably better that way... so, chin up lovely~ be strong!
cuddlyOrange72
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Jan 9, 2016
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Ask yourself: Is he really worth it? If yes, ask yourself why you think so. If you can't find 5 reasons why, tell yourself you deserve better.
Anonymous
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Dec 19, 2015
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The first thing that you have to remember is that the relationship you had is over and if he wanted to be with you, he would have already texted you back. The first thing, which you should do is the obvious one..delete that person from your contact list.Remove him from all social media.There is much in this world than relationships and being in a relationship with somebody.Take this time to improve yourself, take this as an oppurtunity to grow your talents. Work on that hobby you've been putting up for years. Go and hang out with your friends. Read books, write books. You dont know the power you have!! :D
beautifulDreamer1218
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Apr 19, 2015
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Block his number - it's only for your own good! Letting go is the best thing you can do. Becoming independent is the best thing to do for yourself - you do not need a guy. All you need is yourself :)
Anonymous
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Dec 24, 2015
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Remember the reason you stopped texting him in the first place. The situation was most likely a toxic relationship that was not positively affecting you. I don't recommend you rekindle that particular flame.
shiningCherry13
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Dec 16, 2015
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It is not very easy letting go of things. It is difficult especially when without your recognizing it, texting him had become a habit. There are two reasons to stop texting, one because you get abusive replies, two because you are never replied to and ignored. Either way it is you who lose your peace. So, think about it every time you try texting him. Some people are not worthy enough to lose your cool over, so just ignore them, stop sending texts, and it will definitely boost up your self-esteem.
Altdorf
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Mar 20, 2015
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Its hard, but if want to break from a relationship, you have to focus on yourself. You've seen your happiness for so long as intrinsically linked with him, and so refocusing your sense of value to yourself has to be your priority. Isolate some memories that don't involve him- and consider deleting your message history.
Anonymous
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Dec 20, 2014
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Honestly, you need to delete his number from your phone. And if you already have his number memorized, tell someone to hide your phone from you. I'm not even kidding.
CallieJac0b
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Dec 19, 2015
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I think you have to be your own motivation. I'm sure you want to text him. Saying all things you want or even have a normal chat. But focus. You doesn't make you feel good, does he? At the end of the day, it's your life. Don't text him. Don't make it worst. Let him go. Sometimes, it's the only option for us to be okay.
whimsicalBreeze39
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Jan 21, 2016
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Focus your energy on something else. Realize that texting him will give you momentary relief but can cause you hurt later. Keep your future self in mind.
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