How do I break up with someone I am codependent on, but is toxic and abusive?

Look at both of your lives. There are two choices, if it does not bring the best out of the two of you, if it harms and endanger your physical, emotional and social health and capabilities, sit and talk about breaking up because love should be easy and understanding. It doesn't have to be painful or toxic or abusive. Your next choice is to sit and talk heart to heart if both of you are willing to change and save your relationship. Speak honestly and voice out your reasons and your doubts and if you really love each other, you can still fix it. I hope love wins.

I would suggest to learn what is making you dependent on the individual, and finding other ways to get those necessities. It is imperative that you leave this individual for your own safety. Any possible housing for people who get into abusive relationships, contacting an attorney to see what you can do legally, talking to family members to see if they can offer any help, and research to find all the possibilities is important to do. When speaking to family, first I would find out what the relationship with the family is like, and take it from there. Not just family, but friends as well. There are so many options, and I would let them know that they are not alone and to never feel alone in this.

Recognize your choices. People sometimes feel that they do not have choices in the relationship, but we all have the freedom to love someone because we choose to and not through dependency. Be also firm in leaving. Sometimes we often become codependent, we become so engrossed in someone else's care that we neglect our own needs and become out of touch with our own desires, wants and needs. Talk to the other person, tell the person how the situation is effecting you and how important it is for you to keep boundaries even if it means ending the relationship with that person.