Can’t let go of ex, know they weren’t right for me but I still obsess about it and feel totally in love him , how can I let this go??!!

When you begin to think of your ex, try to shift your thinking to something that is positive and still present in your life. An example of this would be: I really miss my ex, but I know that since we've separated, I have noticed that I have more time with my friends and family and I am building stronger relationships with them. It can be difficult to do all of the time, but when we remember the positive things in our lives, it helps us to focus on those rather than the negative aspect of a relationship ending.

When a love story ends, our brains trick us into thinking only the good moments of that relationship. We tend to "forget" the flaws of that person. Try to think why it ended in the first place, try to think about why that relationship could never work and it's not good for you. Put yourself first...you deserve better and I'm sure, deep down inside, you already know it :) Distract yourself, chat with others, meet other people...new beginnings are always amazing and magical so enjoy the process, but in the meantime love yourself and be the best version of yourself.

First you have to acknowledge that you are trauma-bonded to him. You have made a beautiful image of him in your mind, but sadly, reality is very different. Due to this conflict, you still cling to him and desperately want to believe that the image of him is the real person. In order to let go, you have to think of all the reasons why he's not the right person for you and understand that if you continued the relationship, you might end up in a lot of trouble. In a good relationship, both partners need to be on the same page. To let go of him, first you need to break all sorts of contact, including stalking him on social media, or else you'll find yourself going back to him and initiating a discussion. Hence it's best to go cold-turkey. Secondly, you need to re-evaluate what you need for yourself and what parameters are needed in a good relationship. Since he wasn't good for you, identity the bad qualities in him and tell yourself that you'll recognize them as red flags in your future partner.