Why can't I force myself to go to class?
Anonymous
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Sep 23, 2017
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When we are struggling, sometimes we do not have energy to do things that others might take for granted, such as get out of bed, shower, get dressed, eat, sleep, or definitely go to work/class. When we fight with ourselves, such as trying to force ourselves to do something that has a pattern of exhausting us or causing us stress, it can make it even more difficult to do the thing. Going to class is important but your health and mental health are even more important. It sounds like you are really trying, and that's all you can expect from yourself. Celebrate your effort! You gave it a shot and it didn't happen, that's okay. It doesn't mean you will feel like this forever, or that it was your fault, even if you consciously decided not to go to class. Going to class or work can be a form of a self-harm if we are not in the right mental space, so it is totally okay to take a day off or more as needed as long as we try now and then and avoid making it a bad habit. People with chronic anxiety, chronic pain, depression, past trauma, and many other afflictions find it very difficult to do things others take for granted, and may end up blaming themselves even though it is ultimately not their fault that they are feeling too low to complete tasks or meet responsibilities. There are preventative measures you can try to take, to try to feel more rested or more optimistic when it is time to go to class, but those thought techniques take time to instill, so have patience with yourself, reward yourself for even trying, and don't push yourself too hard. Some ideas might be rewarding yourself for getting out of bed, rewarding yourself for getting out of the house, rewarding yourself when you get to class, and a huge reward at the end of the class day. Any step you take towards your goal of getting to class is worthy of celebration! You're human and humans feel things and struggle sometimes. You may be interested in reading about the Spoon Theory, a theory that uses an analogy to describe why people with low energy or low motivation have such a hard time with things that other people maybe don't. Good luck to you and treat yourself to something delicious, just for being aware of this issue and wanting to change it.
genuineHero
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Dec 21, 2014
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In my case, it was because I was really anxious and I thought of all the worst case scenarios that could happen to me when I go to class.
Honey
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Nov 25, 2014
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Sometimes, it can be hard to find the motivation to go to class or work. Depression or stress can cause you to rather avoid extra pressure. In addition to seeking medical advice, such as a therapist or a psychiatrist, it is important to keep your personal goals in mind. Instead of thinking of personal goals as long term goals, focus on personal goals for the day. The goals can be really simple, such as 'Today, I will eat breakfast, take a shower, go to class, and come home for lunch'. It might be easier to tackle smaller goals than large goals, and the wonderful thing about small goals is that they lead to large accomplishments.
Sarahsky25
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Sep 15, 2016
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It can be hard to force yourself to go to class for many different reasons. A common one is anxiety. Classes can make people very anxious due to tests, presentations, classmates, the teacher, etc. For me, for example it is difficult to go to class because I feel like there are many expectations that I have to meet and that makes me very anxious.
Anonymous
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Dec 17, 2016
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When I was in college, my depression really became a prominent issue. I skipped classes, I stopped hanging out with my friends, I could hardly get out of bed most days. Forcing myself to go to class wasn't an option for me, my number one priority was selfcare. Taking a shower, getting enough sleep, making sure I went outside, talking to a friend, and getting help for myself. I saw a therapist and ended up getting on medications that really helped me on my journey to healing. This and taking care of myself got me back on track and going to class!
Anonymous
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Dec 1, 2015
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In my opinion people make their own choices, but they're heavily influenced by their emotions. It sounds like anxiety/worry is stopping you from being able to, so maybe you need to find some way to help yourself with this. :)
Rileymargarettt
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Oct 6, 2016
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Sometimes school can be a hard thing to motivate yourself into. Just think of all the future benefits it holds. Also taking a day or two to yourself to mentally relax is never a bad thing just know it's not forever.
Erynn
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Dec 14, 2014
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Well, sometimes it's just hard. It could also be a symptom of a bigger problem, like depression. Only you know how much your life is being impacted by this struggle, but you may benefit from seeing a counselor about this if it persists. Things like goals, rewards, self-encouragement, and working on addressing and expressing other hard emotions and painful thoughts that surround these negative feelings may also be helpful in getting you back on track and motivated to go to school.
Anonymous
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Jan 4, 2015
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You may be experiencing a lack of interest towards school, or maybe you're just afraid of something school-related. You shouldn't force yourself, but you should try to better understand what's causing you to be so uninvolved and possibly attempt to change your feeling about it,
Anonymous
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Aug 22, 2016
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Because you might feel like whatever they are teaching you won't help you out in the real world. But it will get you somewhere. Don't give up.
LilSun
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Nov 3, 2016
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In my personal experience, classes can sometimes be overwhelming. Whether it's due to the amount of people there or any other reason. So it could be social anxiety that's stopping you from attending classes. Anxiety is something that can always be worked on, whether it's with a therapist or with the help of friends and loved ones who understand the situation you're in and are able to be there for you and let you know that it's completely okay to be anxious about things.
wonderous
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Dec 9, 2017
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Ask yourself honestly and with love, do you need, do you love that class and why are you at that class. Answer honestly and with understanding and empathy for yourself. If you are at Uni, maybe you are at wrong Uni... that is sometimes hard to accept...if you are in highschool, try to find a motivation to finish it by contemplating about more secure and relaxed life once you finish it. Try to coun't all benefits of going to class. Subconscious mind records everything that your conscious mind thinks and believes and tracks it down to implement more of alike thoughts and beliefs. Maybe you fed yourself with thoughts that this class is not important to you or is not too interesting or you dislike teacher... and so subconscious mind gives you a state of mind and body that refuses to force yourself to go... or, as I first said - maybe you are at wrong place and you crave a meaningful change that would bring you more joy.
Anonymous
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Oct 1, 2016
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We can't force ourselves to be involved in things we are not passionate about doing, maybe something is on your mind that you need to get off in order to go to your classes.
PriscilaOrellana
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Nov 25, 2014
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It can be "boring" but it's the reason of our success, no matter what you do, you like, you study... you need to be someone, you need to study for the life... for you.
Anonymous
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Nov 25, 2014
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Sometimes going to class can be extremely difficult, and the reasons can really vary. Maybe it's not about forcing yourself to go, but finding a reason to! :)
ElanortheFair
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Oct 13, 2017
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Although class and school is important your health is more so, especially if it is college or university. Life is short and it's important to care for yourself, if going to class is going to hurt you emotionally or physically due to abuse or bullying do not put yourself through unnecessary pain. You should never feel forced into education, learning should be fun and an experience you want to do, if you feel forced you won't learn or progress at all anyway.
RalphBG
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Dec 7, 2014
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If you don't want to go to class, and you continuously come up with negative things about class, then that's why you can't force yourself to go to class. A solution to this could be telling yourself that class is okay. Saying positive things about class, that is easier said than done, but I've tried it myself and I find it works for me. :) you tell yourself something so much, it can become reality. Good luck. :)
Anonymous
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Aug 31, 2017
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It sounds like poor motivation. Maybe try to set yourself up with a small reward system - if you go, you get something out of it. It can be something as simple as a small sugary treat or a nap later on or an hour of getting to chill without worrying about studying.
cardology
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Feb 4, 2018
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Going to class means having to focus, having to listen, to pay attention, and often times to socialise too. The classroom can be a setting for stress, anxiety and pressure. While the classroom is associated with these negative emotions, it might be much harder to convince ourselves to attend while we're going through a difficult time.
Anonymous
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Nov 2, 2016
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Perhaps you are not mentally or emotionally prepared for the stressful environment of a classroom, talk to your teacher about alternative forms of classroom participation
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