Why am I so shy around big crowds, but when I'm with one friend than I'm fine?

It’s called social anxiety, you most like don’t know anyone in the crowd when you’re alone. So you feel uncomfortable, but when you’re with a friend, it’s not that bad. You may still get the feeling but not to that big of a fret.

Being around big crowds can often make someone feel out of control and over stimulated, whereas being with one person give you control and security. Which is rightfully accepted.

For many people, the main reason we are shy in big crowds is because of the constant feeling of judgement from the public. When with friends, they are people we know that know all about us.

For me, it's because being with someone close almost makes me forget about the rest of the world. I don't feel so anxious and self-conscious when I'm with someone. Like, if I'm alone, I feel more vulnerable, and if I'm with someone close, I feel safe. It's almost like I blend in rather than being alone and sticking out.

It can be uncomfortable to be around a lot of people who you are unfamiliar with because there is a fear that the people around you won't understand your behavior or your personality, but with a friend, everything you share with them is more personal, and since you've already bonded with them, it eliminates the process of making first impressions. Plus, you don't feel as overwhelmed around your friend whereas larger crowds tend to make you feel as though your input is minimized.

Sounds like it could be social anxiety. You may not be comfortable around all of those people and your one friend may be the person you are comfortable with.

Our friends or the people around us who make us feel safe are usually easy to shine around. However, when in big crowds you don't know who is there or what anybody is thinking or plotting, you may feel like people are judging you or like anybody could be potentially dangerous. This is common, and it seems like you're experiencing some anxiety.

Some people are more introverted and prefer a smaller group. Another thing is that you probably aren't as close to every single person in a big crowd as you are with one friend or a few.

You might be experiencing anxiety or stage fright. A lot of people feel this way and it isn't rare. You could also be comfortable with your friends but not with a large group of strangers.

Well when we are with friends, we feel more comfortable to be ourselves because they accept us for who we are. With crowds, that's a whole other story.

Crowds, especially of strangers, make many people uncomfortable. Taking deep breaths and focusing on the people you know is helpful in crowds.

Personally, I am like that too! It is natural for me to be funny and outspoken when I am with a friend, but when it comes to being in a crowd, I tend to clam up and not voice my thoughts as much. This could just be the way you are - sometimes, introverted people feel much calmer and safer when they have space to breathe and when they can feel like they are more of an individual. It is certainly hard to feel like you're being seen when you're a part of a large group of people, but if that's within your nature, it's certainly not something you could or try to change! Feel comfortable being yourself and when you can, occasionally let go of how scary it is to not know if people can see you or not and understand that people definitely can.

Usually being with one friends gives you a feeling of familiarity. Being in a crowd with a bunch of strangers can feel overwhelming and and unfamiliar. You're surrounded by people who don't know you and don't understand your boundaries. Having at least one friend with you gets rid of that feeling. Most likely this person has known you for a while. This usually means that they understand your boundaries and understand what makes you uncomfortable, unlike everyone else surrounding you. It also gives the feeling of comfort, because if something were to happen to you while in this crowd, you'd know your friend would be there to help you with it. Meanwhile it's very unlikely that a random stranger in the crowd would. All around, being with a friend helps with almost any social situation!

When you are around big crowds people usually feel shy because they’re alone and in need of Simone’s company. When I’m all alone I feel like everyone is starting at me and talking about me but when I’m with a buddy I feel confident and always good about myself. When I’m accompanied by someone I feel like I can act myself and do and say anything. I think to get over the shy part something I do is I use dark sunglasses and I feel much more powerful and as if nobody is even looking my way, I hope this helps

Being around a large group of people can cause fear and shyness. Most likely it is caused by the fear of rejection by a large group of people as you see yourself to be outnumbered. While talking to a friend, someone you trust, you feel protected because you have a familiar bond with that individual. By being with them you feel safe from the large group of people. Being with someone you trust allows us to go outside of our comfort zones because we know that if we get into trouble we can always go back and be in that safe space with our friend.

I think that this happens a lot because you feel protected by your friends. Imagine there are two groups of deer. One of the groups has a solitary animal, maybe two. The other is a herd full of life with many members. Which is a wolf more likely to leave alone? Many times, a crowd of unknown people can be nervewracking. When around friends or a group of those you know, though, you feel distracted from the crowd and/or protected by them. Don't feel like your fear is invalid just because it isn't felt al the time. That is totally normal.

This of course is only my answer and it is not in any case the only right one(if I may be so bold) I would say you are an entertainer at heart, you like chilling with your friends and probably enjoy making them happy, you may be someone who makes friends easely and so the thought of having to entertain such a crowd puts pressure on you, so what you may call being shy may be beeing frightful that you are not going to be good enough for everyone, wich you shouldn't have to try to be,and tho we don't know each other I aplaude you for wanting to (if this applies)

I can really relate to this kind of shyness; I used to feel it often. Whenever I was in a large group of people, I would feel pressure to act in ways that would please as many people as possible (or, at least, not displease them). Learning to become more aware of that need and practicing easing up on it gradually helped me feel more relaxed and comfortable in large groups. Although I still feel some shyness in that particular situation, I find that just giving myself permission to be aware of it--and not fight it--helps me start to relax and feel more comfortable, more like the way I feel with one person (like a friend). This technique feels a little awkward at first, and it takes some practice (and a bit of courage!), but it gets easier the more you do it. I hope that helps.

For me personally, being around one friend offers some familiarity. You know this one person better than you know a whole crowd and the emotional connection between the two of you may make you feel more seen or in a comfortable setting. For me, the prospect of going to a large event such as a party seems really fun, but when I'm there I find myself only wanting to interact with a friend. As I'm an introvert, fewer people around me let me have fun and express myself. Putting yourself out there may take work, but that is perfectly okay! We all pull our energy from different places and all have different needs.

It's probably because they give you a sense of comfort and security! There is a lot of anxiety being around big crowds, which is perfectly normal to an extent. Having someone with you that you've known and have a connection with will soothe some of that anxiety and shyness. If you are especially close to this person, like if you've known them for a while, or know them very well, or if you just feel very safe around them, it could surely contribute. It's a similar thing to having an item of comfort for young children, like a blanket or a stuffed animal.

Maybe it is just the fact you don’t have an existing relationship with people in a crowd and you are frightened of making a bad impression.It is quite natural because throughout human evolution there wasn’t very much need for skills to deal with other such issues. The opposite could even be said to be me true as a lot of people feel they have a fight or flight response to big crowds. With one friend you only have to connect with with them and there is therefore less at stake in the case of a slip up .

Maybe your introversion level is high, introverts in general find it hard to stand crowds more than a close friend or a single people since it drains the battery, i understand as i am an "Introvert" too and i find it hard to deal with crowds. When we are communicating or interacting with people as an introvert, we are spending our energy to that person, so the bigger the group, the more energy we employ. On the other perspective; the more people around, the more expectation there are. And sometimes the thought of a consuming amount of expectation around us is making us feel awkward and anxious and overthink that if they like me or if they're judging me. It not wrong to be averse to crowds, its just part of the personality. A case of social anxiety too can be involve as they show the same symptoms too.

Crowds are full of unknown, people you’ve never met, strangers, loud people, and it can sometimes feel like chaos. When you are with just one friend, it is a comfortable warm environment, and it’s just you and them. You are safe, you feel safe. There’s none of that uncertainty you feel in a crowd. Since you know them better as well, it is easier to talk and it is easier to be calm. Crowds are harder to trust. Probably the most obvious reason is that it’s much easier to manage talking with one person than it is to be with a large group. It’s overall more controlled.

I believe that it is because I feel secure when I am with my friends and know my friends' reactions. Therefore, I am relaxed compared me in crowds. It is also related the possiblity of making mistakes in front of crowds. It makes me frustrated if I say or do something embarrassing. I believe that people can get over it by making practices. For example, presentations, starting to be with small groups, and taking feedback from the audience. Also, imagining how I should talk before my presentations helps me to increase my self confidence and cut off my shyness

There is a lot of pressure when you're with a large group of people. In crowds, you may not know everyone intimately and that can create a feeling of being "spread too thin". I, personally, am a person who strives to communicate and maintain friendly relations with everyone I am around. With a lot of people, that is a lot more difficult to do. Also, crowds and large friend groups have high energy, which can be overwhelming, sometimes bordering on exhausting. With one friend, you only have to focus on them. If you're comfortable with them (which I'm assuming is the case because they're a friend) there isn't a constant pressure to please them. Being with one person is also a lot more "chill" than being with a lot of people.

First of all, it is very common for people to feel uncomfortable around large crowds. This is probably adaptive in some circumstances as well. Acknowledging that this is not an uncommon experience may first help to appreciate that there is nothing per se "wrong" with this emotion, but rather that the shyness is telling you some important information about yourself. For example, perhaps being shy in a crowd stems from a fear of being judged by others. What could that concern tell you about your core beliefs about yourself, or about the world, or about your values? Perhaps, for example, it demonstrates that you value harmonious relationships with others, or that you distrust strangers / that the world is a dangerous place, or that you are in some way "less than" those around you in the crowd. It could be all or none or some other reason. There may be may different reasons, though often shyness stems from a general worry that hits close to a core belief of being judged by others.

When someone is around big crowds, it is natural to be more shy than if you are with only one friend. Where you are with only one friend, nobody else is listening or can listen to what you are talking about. Therefore you can tell your friend whatever is on your mind. If you are around big crowds, you can't talk about everything what is on your mind and have to be really careful not to tell anything what isn't suitable for wrong ears. Not everyone is entitled to hear about your intimacy, your intimate issues, intimate struggles, etc.

Big crowds can be very intimidating for anyone with anxious tendencies. Friends are a familiar territory for us, and that safety of familiarity can relax us. In contrast, crowds contain people we don't recognize or particularly trust. Often, we can even perceive threats in places where there aren't any because of paranoia we have inherited from cable news or others who have experienced trauma while in a crowd. If the anxiety is debilitating, this might be something to talk to a licensed professional about. If it is manageable, however, try and use calming techniques such as mindful breathing or grounding to bring you back to reality.

With one friend, you can feel more comfortable since you have known them for long enough. Big crowds may have people new to you. For me personally, I am shy with big crowds because there are way more people who could be giving me judgement. Since you know your one friend well, you would not be as likely to feel judged by them. Big crowds can also be overwhelming since there are so many individuals there with you in the room. You may be fine with one friend because you are used to being around them and experiencing their presence with you.

This is a very common experience and I have been through the same thing with my social anxiety! It’s totally okay to feel this way. I used to think that I had to be like the super friendly and extroverted girl like in movies to fit in and have friends. I eventually learned that this isn’t the case! Being around big crowds can be nerve wracking, but spending one on one time with a friend gives you more space to open up and feel comfortable, without fear of judgement. This is just one possible answer for why you feel this way. Keep doing what makes you feel comfortable and know that you aren’t alone! 💕