Why am I so shy around big crowds, but when I'm with one friend than I'm fine?

social anxiety. sometimes people with social anxiety have trouble with crowds but are fine with their friends. this is common and is nothing to really worry about. it will get better over time. so I wouldn't worry too much. I have been through this and it is hard at first. I talked to people I trusted and it helped a lot. they helped me find help and a good therapist to talk to. I started talking to the school guidance counselor. she helped me find a way to cope with this. We tried meditation. We tried deep breathing when we had to go through crowds.

I also feel overwhelmed by big crowds. Sometimes the noise and presence of a lot of people makes us feel nervous, or self-conscious. It happens to a lot of people, so don't feel like you're alone! The bigger the audience, the more eyes it feels like are watching you. Obviously, most times that you're in a crowd, the people aren't really watching you. You just feel like they could be. Something that helps me sometimes is reminding myself that most people are too busy with their own thoughts to be worrying about me in a crowd!

Because when you get comfortable with someone or trust them u know you can be yourself unlike in the crowds u are scared of embarrassment, and You are probably an introvert and this is normal. Many people (introverts) are not inclined to deal with big and noisy crowds. They go for quiet places or certain people, and they even need some time alone every now and then. The fear of crowds or Enochlophobia is known by different names such as Ochlophobia and Demophobia. ... Enochlophobia is closely related to Agoraphobia (which is the fear of and desire to avoid situations wherein one believes s/he may be subjected to incapacitation, humiliation etc).

Well, it's either you don't know those people because they are total strangers or you're uncomfortable when they're around. A simple friend that you can trust and spend most of the time with makes you feel safe and happy because you know what their personality is like. Maybe you prefer one friend or by just simply being alone. Sometimes, being around many people makes us feel uncomfy because we aren't familiar with their faces. Our friend is someone who supports you and makes sure that you're okay. On the other hand, strangers are just, well, strangers. They don't know who you are and neither do you, so your life is none of their business.

Social situations involving lots of people can sometimes be intimidating. With a lot of people present, it can feel overwhelming because there are many people with many different perspectives, which can sometimes make us feel more self-conscious about self-expression than when we are only with one friend. This is because, one-on-one, it can be easier to explain yourself and your feelings knowing you'll have the time and the forum in which to explain yourself fully if there is a complex subject or a misunderstanding. Crowds can sometimes tend to cater to more confident and charismatic individuals, which can sometimes lead to people who are more reserved, introspective, or introverted feeling slightly shy or less involved. Some people also simply prefer close one-on-one connections because they are easier to manage, tend to be more emotionally intimate, and lend themselves to better understanding of the people involved.

That is Social Anxiety, I have it too being in big crowds seems scary you don't want to embarrass yourself, with less people there is less people to be scared of, and with a friend you can trust them more I completely get this I get scared to do lots of things in front of crowds and because I have this I believe you have Social Anxiety as well many people have it and it isn't something you should feel ashamed of, but you can get past it by trying your best to put yourself out there more!

I understand your situation, and I believe it’s completely normal. In my personal experience, I am also a shy person around big crowds and sometimes I may even want to be alone instead, while I’m loud and much confident with my friends. Remember that this definitely not a problem, Just remember to be confident in yourself in front of anyone and do not let anyone judge you or let you down! If you are down, remember to take the courage to reach out for support! Our listeners are always here to help you. Thanks for reading have a nice day.

Hi there! It sounds like what your experiencing is a common symptom of social anxiety. Being shy is a common thing, especially around a crowd you might not know. It's your brain trying to protect you from saying what you might feel is the wrong thing. Being around one friend wouldnt stir this reaction out of you, because you both know and might be comfortable around them. Dealing with big crowds is naturally an intimidating thing, so its understandable as to why youre feeling this way!. Maybe try being around a friend/companion, anyone who makes you feel more comfortable during these situations. The extra-person often gives a sense of security

This is not unusual at all! Big crowds are filled with many people who you don't know and who don't understand your personality or characteristics. It makes natural sense that you will feel more comfortable with one friend who understands you well and who you have spent a lot of time around. The more time you spend around someone, the more comfortable you will tend to be around them. When you are in a big crowd, try to enter that crowd with the mindset that you are probably not going to interact with these people again, so you can be yourself without fear of judgement.

It is very normal to feel this way. We often feel overwhelmed when we are surrounded by so many people we may or may not know. On the contrary, one friend would be more relaxed. I would recommend listening to yourself and finding out what your boundaries are. If being shy around big crowds is something you would like to overcome, you should aim to become more confident in yourself. Focus on yourself. Find what it is that is making you shy. That way, you can target these aspects. Assessing these aspects is helpful to make you comfortable, or not shy, in big crowds.

This happens to me too! You are probably comfortable with that friend and have anxiety around people you don't know very well... very normal, but if it is affecting your everyday life, I would suggest seeing a therapist or doctor! There is nothing wrong with reaching out for help. Going to the doctor and seeing a therapist helped me so so much. My anxiety was so bad I would have breakdowns before entering a restaurant or going to church, partied, etc. If you are experiencing severe anxiety, get help! If it is just more about being uncomfortable, work on different mental exersises or hobbies. Some of this comes with age and expereince too. Sending light :)

It is hard to say. Let us break down it a bit. When we listen to someone one to one, we listen to the person, try to understand what that person meant, and if the need is we speak. On the contrary, when we are in front of a group or big crowd, we could be bombarded with words and ideas. We might not be able to respond to them well, or what if our argument sounds stupid? Or what if we are misunderstood? The fear of making a fool of ourselves makes us shy in front of big crowds. ideas to come out of it could be slowly increasing the number of people we converse with if one person tries talking in front of two and slowly in front of a group. Also, try to make peace with the fact that we will commit mistakes and we might be considered stupid but it will not be the end of the world, so the best it is to face our fears and walk forward.

One friend is sometimes all you need to feel safe and comfortable. Being with a true friend feels like home. When you're around a bunch of strangers, it can make you feel small and unsure, but with a friend, you will feel confident and secure. When I was in my freshman year of college, I felt isolated and didn't want to leave my dorm room. My social anxiety was something that held me back from enjoying my college experience; however, when I met my best friend, I hung out with her almost every day! We have been friends forever!

Feeling like you fit in and are accepted by one person is one thing. since it is just one personality that you need to be compatible with versus an entire crowd of different personalities you may feel a greater expectation of being relatable to everyone versus just that one friend. Introverts are that way too, some people just flourish better in a smaller crowd, its a little more intimate and personal when there isnt a ton of people around allowing you to be yourself rather than spend your time conforming to what you think an entire group may expect of you.

It sounds like you could be experiencing some social anxiety. It tends to make you feel anxious and shy around crowds if people, especially busy places. Especially if you find your fine with one friend, you tend to feel a lot comfortable with a single friend than a crowd of people. Personally myself I suffer from social anxiety too, for me it means that I start to get anxious and have panic attacks if I’m in really crowded places especially if there’s lots of people there. Just take every day as it comes and take it slowly going out in crowds until you start gathering enough confidence to do large groups/crowds.

Hello. I want you to know that a lot of people also feel this way. You feel like that because you trust your friend, and so you can relax and be yourself when with him. Try to forget the big crowds, everybody is going through something, so when you accept that, maybe you can relax and let yourself go. When you realize that everyone have their own battle to fight, it gets easier to deal with larger crowds without feeling shy. Start by trying to deal with smaller crowds, and when making progress, you can pass on to bigger ones. Im sure it will make it easier to deal with!

You might be a bit of an introvert! This means that you mentally recharge by having space and time to yourself. Introvertedness is often confused for being shy or antisocial, while they’re actually quite different. You might recharge from being around this friend, but it might be overwhelming to be around larger groups. What are some ways that you relax and recharge? Maybe you like to draw, or take walks, or curl up with a book. I would suggest trying to find more downtime. You can also work your way up to big crowds. For example, next time you’re with a big group, challenge yourself to get to know just one new person. Even if it’s just a simple ‘hi how are you’. Over time, you just might grow comfortable enough with big groups to fit in better than you ever thought you could! Hope this helps :)

I guess, in my experience, I have felt much better with a friend around in big crowds because I feel like I looked less alone and would always have someone to talk to and thus look and feel less awkward. Also, with a friend around to talk to, I have felt less focused on other people, what they're doing, how they're coming across, how I'm coming across in comparison to them, and how I must be being viewed by them. Also, it's just nice to feel less alone, like you have someone by your side whether it's fun or not.

Anxiety could be a likely cause. It can make you hate being in big crowds although you feel okay around a friend. Usually being around someone you trust and feel comfortable with will keep your anxiety from coming up as bad. Large crowd, especially if you don’t know the people in it, can drive someone‘s anxieties you the wall because they’re surrounded by people they don’t know and can’t as well control what will happen. It’s common for people to get shy or nervous in big crowds like this.

With a friend in real time, you know you're being listened to and understood, and, importantly, seen for who you are. In a crowd, it's much easier to see faces as anonymous, and easier for people to make assumptions because there's not the same personal connection. It can be scary to be in a crowd - you feel that all eyes are on you. Ironically, it can also be an isolating experience. Being nervous in a crowd is absolutely understandable, and it's a fear that's extremely universal. You don't know what to do, because there isn't a natural place to gravitate to. You're a person with so much to give, and people will be able to see the real you. You aren't alone in being nervous in a crowd. It's completely natural. Just do your best, and you wouldn't feel pressure to be perfect in a crowd. When the crowd dissipates, you are still you, and you still have that friend waiting.

Personally, I am like that too! It is natural for me to be funny and outspoken when I am with a friend, but when it comes to being in a crowd, I tend to clam up and not voice my thoughts as much. This could just be the way you are - sometimes, introverted people feel much calmer and safer when they have space to breathe and when they can feel like they are more of an individual. It is certainly hard to feel like you're being seen when you're a part of a large group of people, but if that's within your nature, it's certainly not something you could or try to change! Feel comfortable being yourself and when you can, occasionally let go of how scary it is to not know if people can see you or not and understand that people definitely can.

Crowds, especially of strangers, make many people uncomfortable. Taking deep breaths and focusing on the people you know is helpful in crowds.

It is possible that you have social anxiety, but it is also possible that you're just plainly scared of being with too many people because you might say something wrong or embarrass yourself. You're probably just more comfortable with one friend because there aren't so many people looking at you, so there are more people who could notice things you don't want them to notice about you. Of course, you know yourself the best, so I can't give you the best advice, although I'd recommend you to look up "social anxiety" on the internet and maybe connect with a therapist so you can get a proper diagnosis.

I believe it is because you are experiencing social anxiety, you are more comfortable with the one friend because you are familiar with him/her/them and are uncomfortable with people that you have not been friends with yet. It is okay to feel this way, people build up their social tolerance and social battery over time so just keep socializing and eventually you will feel more comfortable in crowds and be more comfortable with yourself in social environments. You are doing great and it will take time. Keep up the great work, we are cheering for you.

Besides the information on the internet that you can find to answer your question, it has a lot to do with your self image and control dynamic. That is to say, we would usually assume that one behaving like that was simply an introvert and seek to place them into a category with all the other descriptions attached to the meaning of the word. However, in most cases the person is not a true introvert if a desire to belong and present themselves to the world exists. In other words, in most cases today the issue stems from a desire to accommodate the world to ourselves in order to feel accepted and validated, and when the realisation that that's impossible hits the consciousness the self starts to retreat and introspect, presenting to the mind all possible qualities that the society perceives as flawed. Therefore to feel more comfortable and at peace with large crowds of people, the foremost goal is to be at peace with oneself and accept yourself as you are. From that point of self acceptance, you will learn to act in either scenarios efficiently.

I find it very overwhelming and overstimulating with all of the noises and different people in crowds. I also do not like all of the conversations going on back and forth. I hear that people with social anxiety can have trouble in crowds, and also people who might have obsessive compulsive disorder who are afraid of being touched and bumped into with crowds. Also people on the autism spectrum might not know what to say around other people in crowds and be unable to pick up on social cues. It can be easier if you are only with one person because you can focus your attention on only one person and you can think and formulate your own thoughts and have responses to conversations. You will have time to reflect back what the other person said, and form your own opinions and have things to share. The environment might make a difference and it can help if the other person is a good listener. I find that being a shy person that it is the quality of the friendship that is more important, rather than how many friends that you have. As you get to know one person, you will open up more and not be so shy.

I think it's just a matter of trust! When you're with that one person, you feel good because you can flourish -- you're not worrying about all the other things that might cause you anxiety. In a big crowd, there's lots of stimulus that can distract you or make you worried. I feel the same way a lot of the time, and knowing that I can rely on that one friend is a really good thing to know. I get nervous when I'm in school sometimes, just because I don't know all the people. Having a support group or circle of close friends helps because I always have something to fall back on!

It is actually very common to feel uneasy when you are dealing with big crowds, so you should not be hard on yourself about that. If you feel comfortable around your friends, that is very positive and you can keep that in mind. To overcome this problem, you could try doing small steps. For instance, you can try to have a conversation with three other persons, the next week with four or five and gradually try to expose yourself to larger groups of people. As long as you try to expose yourself in situations that include social interaction, you will notice difference in the way you handle things!

I think big crowds means a lot of energy, and it's easy to feel overwhelmed in them. Not everyone is geared towards engaging with big crowds. On the other hand, being with one person allows you to channel all your energy there and feel comfortable doing so. You don't have a 100 eyes looking at you and so it feels like a less judgemental space. I think it's good that you know what social scenarios work for you! But also don't be afraid to go out of your comfort zone sometimes (when you feel it's safe to do so), you might end up having some great experiences!

Hello. That sounds like you may be an introvert, which means that you gain energy from being alone or with very few people and when you are surrounded by many people you tend to exert all your energy, leaving you feeling drained. It is also possible you could be experience what’s called social anxiety. This is when you feel anxious or fear around large crowds of people. If possible try to avoid crowds by visiting places right at opening hours or just before closing, if you your feelings continue or worsen, you may want to talk to your family physician.