Why am I so shy around big crowds, but when I'm with one friend than I'm fine?

It's simple. You are an introvert, just like me. We make up about half of the human race, and without us, our species would be doomed. You may find that although large crowds frighten you, you feel that you are better at actually connecting with your friends 1 on 1 than your extroverted peers. You will find that you are also a lot better at being comfortable being by yourself, and enjoy focusing on independent endeavours. It's perfectly fine to prefer hanging out with smaller, quieter groups of friends, or have 1 on 1 interactions. You can still work on your confidence in large settings if you want, but understand that as an introvert, it will naturally drain you more, and that's okay because you have your own strengths.

Sometimes big crowds can be overwhelming. Its easy to feel like you're alone in a crowd being judged because a lot of people look around. It's also extremely easy to lose someone you're with in a crowd which can become scary! Big crowds of people can also feel claustrophobic. Being with one friend can be more comfortable because it's less noise and you already know them! Sometimes the noise of everyone talking can be overwhelming as well. It can feel like you can't even hear yourself think. However, with one friend it's easy to avoid the tension of a big crowd and to feel more comfortable to familiarity!

I'm struggling with that too, but I figured out where my source is coming from. When in bigger crowds, we don't really know who those people are. I mean, you could know their names, but you don't know what they think of you, what they're thinking right now, if they're even listening etc. When being with a friend feels totally comfortable and you prove who you are by being yourself. We're different around different people so the way I see it, when in crowds it's just too hard to choose who you want to be, which one of your ''characters'' you want to show them and it frustrates you, yet you can't escape it and that's when the shyness appears.

It is not always easy to be around large crowds feeling very uneasy because of the unexpected things that can indeed happen. When you are with a friend things do seem to be a lot better because you at least have someone that has your back that will help you to stay away from potential dangerous people or even from certain situations that may be developing that you are not aware of. Many times having a friend is indeed a lot of helpful especially if you are very I'm familiar with big crowds. But it's okay to open up a little bit and have a little Fellowship with other people around you. The most important thing is to relax breathe when you feel overwhelmed and pull away if you feel you need to from large crowds.

This trait is really common in people with anxiety or depression, and sometimes people with no mental illness at all. When you're with one friend, it's understandable that you feel safe because they know you well, and they won't judge you for what you say or what you do. When you're in a big crowd, there's a lot of unfamiliar faces and people and that might trigger you to be shy in fear of judgement. Not everyone is comfortable in big crowds, and that's okay. It can be really intimidating to be around tons of people that you don't know.

That's exactly how I am... and I've wondered the same too, very recently I think I figured it out why. It's how comfortable you are with the people. Let's say you are with 5 people, now, you are comfortable with all of them when it's one on one you can be yourself around them without being shy but with all 5 at once you feel shy, its because you dont have the same level of comfortable-ness? around all of them it varies person to person,so its difficult for you. Think about two close friends/siblings/cousins around them you wouldn't feel shy because you feel comfortable around them equal amount of it from both of them.. I hope that helps to understand yourself ...

This sort of anxiety is pretty common. With one good friend, it's a close relationship where you don't worry about impressing them, or having anxiety about a specific action. Or it's easier to focus on one person, without sensory overload. In a big crowd (a party for example), it's a lot to take in at once. With one person listening, it's easier to see rationalization where you tell yourself it will be okay. But when it's multiplied, the stress also multiplies.

This could have multiple reasons. It might just be a personality trait that you have, you might be an introvert or you might be kind of shy. You probably get overwhelmed by big groups of people which is very understandable, there's a lot of people out there that experience the same problem. However, it feels really uncomfortable and it makes you feel anxious, it might have to do with anxiety or most likely social anxiety. If you think that might be it, please consider professional help because self-diagnosing isn't the right thing to do, it's important to get a professional's opinion.

For most people, not necessarily everyone, they feel small when they are surrounded by many more people and have less confidence, or feel exposed in some way. When you are with a friend, you feel more comfortable and confident and, most likely, feel a sense of protection.

Its okay to become shy kind person it shows that you're kind and simple person, i understand when we're close to someone's then the person isn't afraid to talk.,but its fine to talk with one person if you're not comfortable with others. Try to overcome about this if you wanna do something in future as business person or entrepreneur...You can build your talking skills via try to express thought with parents or relatives to get rid of shyness to talk with people's try exercises to put an effort about shyness...And Don't forget to track your records about what and how Many people you tried to talk with

Have you ever heard of introversion? What you describe fits exactly to the problem of introverted people. The opposite of introversion is extroversion. When you get more energy in a big crowd of people you are extroverted, when you get more energy when you are alone or with only one humen you are normally introverted. You can search on You Tube for videos of introversion, there are very much. Also there is a # on this website. I have the link for you. Here it is: https://www.7cups.com/~introvert I hope I could help you. I wish you best luck. Hope to see you again.

Perhaps you feel safer in the company of one trusted friend, and large numbers of people, make you feel more anxious, and that can cause you to withdraw. One friend gives you time for equal communication, that is time to talk, and time to listen, and helps you form a better bond. Whereas in crowds, there can be lots of competition to make yourself heard and accepted, very daunting! Even if you know most of them, if some appear to gel together more than you are able, you may feel left out and alone, that can be a very uncomfortable feeling. If you are able to socialise with one friend at a time, and comfortable with that, I would think about sticking to that for social interaction.

I think that many people are like that. Talking to friend makes you feel safe, while many unknown people can seem threatening. Also, if you are an introvert, crowds can overwhelm you because your mind tries to focus on many things at once. When you're focusing on one person only, you calm your mind. I also find that when I am in a big crowd, I feel better when I'm listening to music. When you have to speak to a big crowd of people, try to focus on one or two people who you know or seems nice. If you are unsure if you are an introvert or have social anxiety (the two are not the same!!), there are reliable tests online too.

I think this is a very normal feeling that a lot of people have. It's easy to feel overwhelmed when you are surrounded by a lot of people, most of whom you might not know, and the perceived 'threat' of being judged increases. Your friend is your friend for a reason; you might have a lot of things in common with them, you will likely feel comfortable around them and you will hopefully not feel judged by them. All of this can make it feel easier to have a conversation one on one with a friend as opposed to a large group of people.

The reason is because you're more familiar with your friends. You've been around them for quite some time and they know things about you just like you know things about them. The information learned can go in a number of ways from being personal to deep and dark and so on and so forth. As our relationship grew in this friendship so has your trust. That is why you are able to let your guard down around your friends and be yourself. In big crowds this is different because these are people you do not know and you do not trust so you can't be yourself because they are strangers. In some instances you feel like they may judge you or some other it kind of reflects on how you may feel about yourself, your self identity.

Social anxiety can cause people to feel shy around others. It’s also a common thing to be shy. You’re in a huge group of people that you may not know. It’s your brain trying to protect you from accidentally saying the wrong thing, like where you live.

You may feel shy around big crowds because there are so many people present compared to that one friend you feel comfortable with. When we are in crowds or a group of people, there could be more eyes on us at once where we can't keep track we feel like our every move is calculated, and everything we say matters because we have to worry about more than one opinion. In that case, subconsciously it can be "scary" or maybe stressful, maybe we feel anxious, overwhelmed, embarrassed more easily if we make a joke and not everyone laughs or no one does. It can add more pressure to us, but just about everybody else can feel the same thing. Some people are more immuned to bigger crowds or speaking up and not being shy, it can be genetics or because they are so sued to being talkative, we all have our individual personalities. We have to find the good qualities in them. Being shy or quiet isn't necessarily a bad thing at all. Like for me, for ex., I am afraid I could mess up my words, slur, choke-up, and I think about it so much it does mess me up sometimes. But, what helps me is not to put that thought in my head when speaking, and take a pause when I don't know what the next word will be, or think of what I will say before saying it if it doesn't already come naturally. All in all, we all have mixed feeling when talking in crowds or expressing ourselves freely especially if there are strangers there or people we could compare ourselves too, or we want to make a good impression. It is completely normal, but just like us observing, we are interested in what the next person is going to say as we like to connect as humans and communicate, and have a good time. Being shy is very common, and it can be looked at as cute as well! This is my input on that.

There could be many different reasons why you’re shy around big crowds. When you’re with one person it can be a little bit more intimate and you can feel more safe. When you’re talking to one person you feel heard and you’re able to speak back and have a cup proper conversation. In big crowds it can become overwhelming with noises people hustling and bustling And overhearing peoples conversation can be overwhelming that you might feel that you can’t participate. If you took a step back and looked and saw that a big crowd is just many people also feeling this way usually. It may help you through your shyness.

I'm also in that same boat-- I do not do well with crowds myself. I thrive best in smaller groups. It could be the energy of the larger crowds is overwhelming and thus cause sensory overload. At least that's what happens for me. I find that I prefer a smaller circle of people in order to feel safer and more comfortable. Knowing that, I try to keep to situations in which I know I won't be overwhelmed and then in cases I cannot avoid crowds, do my best to minimize the time or find ways to push through best i can

It is okay to be shy in big crowds. It usually occur in introverts. You are just improving your values and comfort areas. It's really okay and you don't have to feel guilty for this according to my experiences. Introverts like to spend time alone and they're shy when they meet new people. They usually get used to it when you meet them more and more. It is okay to be shy in big crowds. It usually occur in introverts. You are just improving your values and comfort areas. It's really okay and you don't have to feel guilty for this according to my experiences. Introverts like to spend time alone and they're shy when they meet new people. They usually get used to it when you meet them more and more.

May be you are feeling over conscious. Please try to be confident. May be you are afraid about others judgement or may be you are too afraid about what others might think about or may be you think that others may not like you. Yiubare comfortable with one friend because you are not conscious here. He or she already knows you and never was judgemental about you. Please get loose of these negative thoughts. Love your self they way you are and least care about others. I'm sure everyone likes people who are string and bold and confident. Good luck!!

Because you can’t manage the crowd. You can focus on two, three companions and find your place among them but as soon as a crowd shows up you do not know anymore where you belong. Just try to be yourself, always. Be true to yourself, do not try to find any place but where you already stand. Speak because you want to speak not because you want to be heard. Act for your own good and not to appear good in the eyes of someone. Know yourself. And I highly suggest reading the book 'Quiet' by Susan Cain, you will understand a ton about yourself if you feel like this:)

that just may be what you think, if you are an adult you are not the only one who is shy around crowds, crowds make people feel lost like they will lose something or lose the people who are around you. a lot can go wrong in big crowds, theft, harrassment, you may hear things in a crowd that you think someone is trying to send your way. i am a bit afraid of big crowds i know this because i havn;t been using public transpertation that often. i always think the worst. a big crowd of friends at a cottage having fun is no problem, because i feel comfortable around my friends but when people i don;t know come around i get anxious. one on one with a friend is not as exciting as a big crowd, make it an adventure.

Because you want someone to be there for you to back you up in case something goes wrong, they are like your support and foundation to help you be more confident.

You're probably shy around big crowds because you don't know anyone and then you're fine when you're with one friend because you know that person, so you're comfortable.

It sounds like you might be experiencing social anxiety or be an introvert. Feeling shy or overwhelmed in large crowds of people is common to experience for someone with social anxiety and is nothing to be ashamed or worried about, plenty of people are introverted or have anxiety. Being with one close friend at a time rather than a large group is less stressful and makes you feel more comfortable because there is less pressure being with only one person. Sometimes spending individual time with each person before being with them in a group can help you warm up to all of them in a group but it’s different for everybody. I hope this helped clear some things up

You might just be an introvert, but it can also be a symptom of social anxiety. For either it’s very common to be uncomfortable in large crowds, especially when you are around people you don’t know. Yet you can be completely fine with either just a couple of people, or around people you’re close with. I am an introvert who has anxiety and I feel the same way. I’m completely fine at family get togethers, or when I am around my close friends.. but I avoid places like town, and I can’t go to things like festivals for example, because I don’t do well with crowds, especially of strangers

Answering the question is easy for me as I am exactly the same in crowd situations I can be really self aware and shy however it is much more relaxed in a one to one situation. I think this is quite a normal responce. Maybe if it concerns you do a course for public speaking. Just for fun. This would build confidence and make new aqaintances along the way.

I'm the same way! This is a really common thing for people who are introverted and/or sensitive. I highly recommend the book Quiet by Susan Cain, it helped me understand my introversion and sensitivity a lot better as well as the ways much of society is structured to make introverts feel different or less than. Personally, I have mostly let go of being around big crowds. When I am around big crowds, I make sure to have a buddy with me so that I also have the comfort of one close person in the midst of the overwhelming chaos that is my experience of crowds.

I consider myself to be a quieter introverted person and can relate to this. I think for some people it is normal to feel drained around larger groups of people as a lot of the time they are competing to talk over one another, I find that coming back from a social gathering I need to recharge my batteries and have some alone time. 1:1 you can focus all of your energy on the person you are talking to and get to know them on a personal level without feeling over whelmed. Some people are just better at listening than talking. I know I am! I am also not a fan of small talk and you can't really get to know someone well when being in a big crowd. Don't worry you are not alone!