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By recognizing the feeling and do it anyways, even though it's hard. I just got up on that stage and to be honest, the fear wasn't that big anymore after a while.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2014 10:32am
Focus on yourself and all that pertains to you in the current situation, such as your lines. Don't give the crowd any thought; act as if you are in rehearsal.
That is very difficult, but can be overcame, as I used to have it as well. What you need to do is something called 'self hypnosis'. It is when you tell yourself positive things, and you tell them to yourself so much, that it becomes true, and you believe it. It will only work if you believe. You should say things like, 'I like performing on the stage', avoid saying things like, 'I'm not scared of the stage', as 'not' is a negative word. Good luck! :)
Being prepared helps a lot. Deep breaths and mentally telling yourself comforting statements like "I can do this" "It's okay" etc can help. You might google Grounding Techniques for ideas of how to reduce intense anxiety. Experience and practice. Practicing in front of small audiences and working up - yourself, your teddy bear, a mirror, a friend, three friends, etc... and having positive experiences to remember are important. If it's really really intense anxiety and also shows up in other parts of your life and is making daily life difficult, you may want to see a therapist or psychiatrist as well for further support and advice.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2014 5:06am
Being really well prepared for a performance can help a lot. Taking deep breaths and thinking calm thoughts and images. Looking at a space on the wall above the audience rather than directly at them. I also know a person that claims having to pee helps with stage fright! They say that nervousness and having to pee feel similar so then all of it can just be dismissed as pee feelings. Haha, so whatever works for you, just be careful not to have accidents!
Practise in front of the mirror. So you know what to expect. Or perform in small groups of friends you can trust or family members. You also have to slowly build up your confidence.
I personally would seek out someone in the audience - usually a friend - and use them as a focus point. I would sometimes scan over the audience but I would come back to that one person so that I felt like I was performing for just them.
Practice.Best oraters are nervous before they get on the stage.The best way to minimise that is practice your content, know what you are speaking, be confident, speak in a loud ,clear voice and even if you fumble, don't panick.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2015 12:48pm
Think positive, don't think that everything's gonna go wrong. Relax your body, have some confidence on yourself. Be prepared, exercise. If you got an audience think of them as friends, not as some people who will laugh at you. Read what you're gonna say out loud, read it to yourself. Allow yourself to make mistakes, give up the thought that everything's gotta be perfect.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2017 2:36am
To be honest up until now, I've never conquered public speaking, which goes under what you're saying. But I can say that I've improved a lot. I think it's better not to think of what will be the reaction of your audience when you're performing, though you have to acknowledge it, because you will just feel more pressurized. Focus more on your act and how will it(message) deliver to your audience. How do you want your act to impact others? If you'll stutter and shake from nervousness then how can you deliver your message to them.
Anonymous
September 5th, 2016 2:04am
Thinking beforehand that whatever will happen will pass by anyway, no matter what goes wrong. So just do it and don't think twice about it.
There of course, is the age old trick of pretending that the audience is a bunch of potatoes. You can also put yourself in their places, and realize that if you mess up, they're not going to care!
Anonymous
February 8th, 2016 6:50am
Shift the focus from yourself and your fear to your true purpose—contributing something of value to your audience.
Stop scaring yourself with thoughts about what might go wrong. Instead, focus your attention on thoughts and images that are calming and reassuring.
Refuse to think thoughts that create self-doubt and low confidence.
Practice ways to calm and relax your mind and body, such as deep breathing, relaxation exercises, yoga, and meditation.
Exercise, eat well, and practice other healthful lifestyle habits. Try to limit caffeine, sugar, and alcohol as much as possible.
Visualize your success: Always focus on your strength and ability to handle challenging situations.
Prepare your material in advance and read it aloud to hear your voice.
Make connections with your audience: Smile and greet people, thinking of them as friends rather than enemies.
Stand or sit in a self-assured, confident posture. Remain warm and open and make eye contact.
Give up trying to be perfect and know that it is OK to make mistakes. Be natural, be yourself.
first : think you are one who is more capable than anyone in the audience.
second : think you are the best person in the world to do what you are going to do on the stage now
third : once you are done with thinking the above two, just stop thinking anything else, and go for it :)
Anonymous
September 21st, 2015 12:22am
Practice - know the piece or lines or steps inside and out. Be confident - you know this well, and can perform beautifully. Accept and move past your mistakes - if you become nervous and miss a note, that's okay. (In all likelyhood, no one noticed.) Try to practice this acceptance of mistakes beforehand, and assure yourself that no matter how this particular performance goes, you are still the same talented person that you are off the stage.
Anonymous
June 29th, 2015 6:58pm
For me, I overcame stage fright with practice. It was something I wanted to do, so the first time I was up there, I forced myself to do it. Whether it went well, or not. And over time, I got used to it. The anxiety still lingers, but I push myself forward, because I never know what opportunities it might open for me.
Deep breath, shoulders back and wing it. In the final analysis the only criticism that really counts is what we think of ourselves. Just do you best.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2015 3:38am
I think the best way is to practice. I used to have really bad stage fright and I still do to some degree but as I've grown older, I've been forced to do more public speaking and as a result, I've grown less scared.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2014 5:09am
Pretend that you're performing in front of people who you don't care about. Practice. do things to loosen up and laugh just before you go on. Let go of your fears. S'all good.
For me, I cannot simply brush off and forget that there's a room full of people watching me. It's harder to cope if you're constantly avoiding eye contact with the audience. In my opinion, scanning the room, getting an idea of what kind of audience you're dealing with, and establishing eye contact actually makes things less scary.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2015 2:52pm
Try to remember that everyone has something they're afraid to do, and that many people do get anxiety when talking or performing in front of others. It's best to acknowledge your fears and accept them, but not let them hold you back.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2015 4:10pm
Look above the auidences heads, focus on something at the very back of the room, it's worked for me since I found out about it:)
For me personally, I preform a bit at school as a musician, and I used to get very shaky hands and that was almost the worst case scenario because I play piano.
I overcame that fear bit by bit- before preformances, I'd practice and go over everything a few times to put myself more at ease knowing that I could pull it off. Backstage, I would fiddle with something to keep my hands busy. A pen, my hair, the hem of my dress.
The thing that really helped me overcome stage fright was performing more though. I would preform (at school as a high school student) at about 20 venues a year, and gradually I got used to being on stage with numerous eyes following me.
I still do make mistakes, and I can even make mistakes when there's only one person in the audience. However, I have become more at home on the stage and have developed a better stage presence that makes my performance more enjoyable for both myself and the audience.
The best way to overcome stage fright is to face it head on. Facing your fears is a terrifying task, but starting small, like with a close group of friends, or even practicing talking in front of a mirror or your pets can make you a bit more comfortable talking in front of crowds.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2014 7:56pm
I've found that the best way to overcome stage fright is to look out over the heads of the crowd without focusing on anyone's faces. It helps me concentrate on my lines and I don't have someone to look at directly and have to gauge their expressions.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2019 3:25pm
The best way to overcome stage fright is to slowly reach that stage. Start with maybe in front of family then friends then your class (if you’re in school). You can’t just start with jumping onto a stage, build yourself up to that point. Working with other people in group activity’s could help as wall. Helping others is a great way to get overcome stage fright. There are so many ways to overcome it you just have to pick a path you feel comfortable with and don’t rush it. Take your time. If you rush it, it may not help.
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