Is it normal to be so afraid of people that I can't even get on the bus without feeling anxious?
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The word "normal" is the biggest lie I have ever seen. What is normal for some is absolutely crazy for others. As a person with AvPD, I find the concept of human interaction alien. I don't understand it, I cant do it, and I fail when I try. In the eyes of a regular person, this is incomprehensible. But if I was in a room filled with people like me, it would be the norm.
Generally, I would say that this anxiety is not normal, but it all depends on why you feel this way. Other experiences in your life may have altered your temperament, and in turn make this kind of behaviour expected. Some people are also naturally more uncomfortable in these places than others. I for one absolutely hate getting my bus. Is this normal?
Define "normal".
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 2:01am
Yes, it is normal to be afraid of people that you can't get on the bus without feeling anxious, but for some people it is not
Yes - I used to get this happen all the time, i found taking a deep breath and convincing myself it wasn't as bad as i thought actually helped. Its all about training the brain
This isn’t a typical response to getting on the bus, however it can be common in people with phobias and anxiety. It can be a struggle to overcome this, but you can overcome this one step at a time. It’s not necessarily normal, but there is no shame in this. If you can seek out behavioral therapy or talk to a counselor about this fear they may be able to help you overcome it.
It's not normal, unfortunately. But I believe it is a symptom of social anxiety which a lot of people suffer from, so I don't think you should judge yourself harshly about that at all. Maybe there is something else that is provoking this anxiety, understand yourself and reflect more to better understand why.
Anxiety is a completely normal part of life, everyone experiences anxiety to some degree. However, when it becomes so severe that it is interfering with activities that are considered "daily" or "normal", it may be time to look for help.
You are normal, you are valid.
You deserve help.
This seems like a common sign of social anxiety. It is normal to have these feelings with anxiety, but it can be very embarrassing or sometimes scary.
However, please contact your GP to seek advice on how to treat and manage your anxiety, if you haven't been clinically diagnosed yet, please contact them for an assessment.
It's not normal, it's sign of social anxiety and you need to reach out for professional to help you.
Many people feel the same way about being out in public or on public transport. Have you checked out the self-help guide on social anxiety we have here on 7Cups?
everyone feels different about something. in your case you are not alone there are lots of people who feel this way about people.
It isn't your fault, but, no, it is not normal. unfourtunatly, that is an anxiety issue and it does happen to some people. i am so sorry you are feeling that way! You can always message me, or anyone of us. We are here for you. i recommend if this continues to seek professtional help.
All feelings are normal, and valid to feel. It is unfortunate to whoever feels this way, and I used to be this way myself. Normal? Yes. Easy to handle? Not always. I will always stress the utmost importance of self-care, so try to identify what makes people so intimidating. Check out the Anxiety help guides up top, and talk to someone. Fear is normal, but crippling fear is detrimental.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2015 5:08pm
Social anxiety is quite common I think. If you have Asperger's or Autism that might also play a part. Hope you find a solution. I suggest talking to doctor in the first instance who will refer to a counsellor/psychologist. It can really help you talk things through.
Many people feel anxiety in the way you're explaining now and it's not abnormal, as well as massively treatable. A doctors appointment to discuss this might help you a lot.
You probably have an anxiety disorder. It's normal for a person to feel that anxious if they have an anxiety or panic disorder. I'm not a doctor or therapist, so I can't diagnose a disorder, so I would suggest asking a trained doctor or therapist/psychologist. Asking a trained professional like that can get you help with your fear of people (you should might also try asking about "social phobia", it's an anxiety disorder some people can get.)
Not normally but would depend on the situation.. if person was armed and looked dangerous then normal to be fearful.
What is "normal" for you is not based on anyone else's experiences but your own, generally. Have you always felt pretty anxious around your peers? If yes, then this is something that you can consider relatively "normal" for yourself. That being said, if it's "normal" for you to experience anxiety, that does not mean you're doomed to a life feeling consistently anxious. There are many coping methods and options available for anxiety, whether it's a personal or medical approach.
Anonymous
April 29th, 2015 5:58am
It is perfectly normal to feel this way. However, if you're looking to get over your anxiousness try turning to a close friend or family member for support. Tell them how you feel when you get anxious and how often it happens. If they understand they will help you figure out ways to control it. If the problem comes up and they try and force you into social situations tell them that it doesn't help.
I'd definitely say it isn't unusual or uncommon, but I don't know if I'd word it as being normal. At least my psychologist wouldn't phrase it that way. It is a very common sign of social phobia though, so perhaps look into that?
Anonymous
April 4th, 2015 12:28pm
It is, I feel that on the Subway. I always try to focus on something else then. listening to music, texting someone, reading a book. Avoid thinking bout or noticing where u are, that helps me.
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