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Is it hard to think critically about something you love?

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Last Updated: 07/01/2024 at 3:09pm
Is it hard to think critically about something you love?
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Anonymous
July 2nd, 2016 6:50am
It depends on the "something". I do think it can be hard sometimes, as really thinking critically on something you love may uncover some flaws or other issues you don't really want to think about. But I think it's good, because once you come to terms with those issues you may either realise that the something is not for you, or you will be able to love it even more and with a more holistic view of it :)
Anonymous
August 1st, 2020 3:32pm
I think it can be very hard to think critically about something/someone you love. Everyone can be different so this may not be the case for everyone! I think for me the reason behind this is that, because you love it/them so much, you don't want to think of anything bad or possibly something that could diminish your love for them/ it. Your emotions can take control of you and push down any criticism or critical thoughts that you may have. This is my theory, it may not hold much truth for others but it has for me. Thanks, I hope this helps!
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Suryansh
October 22nd, 2020 2:33am
Hi There! Dear we all are humans and our brain works all around the clock except when we sleep. We see millions of things from our eyes in the whole day and we think so much about everything. Our imagination as above and beyond and endless. We think about anything so critically if they are so close to us. That is so obvious to feel that way and your feelings are completely valid. Even I too would feel the similar way if I would have been in your shoes. Dear whosoever, we love so much, it is truly normal to feel deeper and deeper about them, what we have to do is believe. We have inner feeling of exploring new things and this is only possible when we think about it deeply to get all the facts and related things so if we love someone, it gets obvious to think critically. Thinking critically could also be so positive many times. So I should say your feelings are valid and understandable. Hope this helps you. Have a great day ahead and take care!
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glowingTouch43
February 22nd, 2018 12:24pm
Yes, sometimes we don't want to think much about whom we love or what we love. Maybe we are so used to to that person or thing that we tend to become blind and not even consider thinking about it.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2018 8:00am
Yes but it's not impossible. You can recognize you enjoy something and and still think it's problematic. You can condemn criminals without losing track of things which deserve our sympathy. It's not contradictory to feel like you love something or someone despite of the person who they are or your opinion of them. In fact, I'd even go so far as to say that if you can't think critically about something or someone, you don't really love them and have just impressed some sort of ideal into them. Love isn't about delusion or thinking something is great and perfect. Love is about recognizing and appreciating things as they are, but knowing how you feel all the same.
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Remina
July 15th, 2016 9:39am
Sometimes. When you love something, you're more often than not quite bias. It's hard to see beyond the rose-tinted glasses. This can be both a good thing and a bad thing. But yes, to answer your questin, it's not easy to think critically about something you love.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 2:36am
Yes it is hard to think critically about something I love because they are my loved ones and deeply care about them
Anonymous
June 9th, 2018 10:20pm
Yes, it can be. Sometimes your emotions and love make you blind to certain things that you rather not think about. However, for some and about some things, you might find it easy to think critically.
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violetdreamer07
July 1st, 2024 3:09pm
Yes, it can be hard to think critically about something that you love. Often your love or passion for something can cloud your judgement a little bit and it can become difficult to find flaws in these things. This can be caused by your positive experiences or your feelings of love. Sometimes your emotions can cloud your judgements. But remember that this is completely normal. All humans are susceptible to emotions. This is what makes us human. If you want some help thinking critically about something, getting a trusted person's experience could help especially if they don't share the same kind of connection with the thing.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 12:35pm
Sometimes it is. You just have to have the right mindset. When you have that mindset, it can and sometimes can`t be hard to think critically about something that you love.
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intelligentBeauty89
April 5th, 2018 3:25pm
Yes it is hard to think critically when emotion is involved. Love can be biased. Seeing things critically can help provide a new perspective.
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Caringheart23
April 5th, 2018 4:43pm
It can be because you're very invested in it with positive feelings towards it. What might help is opinion of people you trust. They can help you to realise what's the truth.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 7:03pm
That ca be true for some people, when you're totally in love you fail to see or think critically about something/someone you love because your heart tends to focus more on their positive traits than the negative ones. But it can also be harmful in some cases because not everything meets the eye.
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lovelypumpkin
April 11th, 2018 8:00pm
No. You can think deeply and critically about something you love. If you cannot, it may be a type of obsession.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2018 10:28pm
For a lot of people, yeah it is. People forget that you can love and appreciate something, like a film or a song, whilst also recognising the things you don't like about it, and that doesn't mean you have to throw away the positives. Appreciation and criticism can exist in the same space.
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Joyfulsmile
April 26th, 2018 10:26am
critical thinking is not that complex...Critical thinking is the opposite of regular, everyday thinking....Without critical thinking, it’s easy for people to manipulate us and for all sorts of catastrophes to result.
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NRomanoff
May 18th, 2018 5:01pm
No, it's not. Its easy to be critical, but whats hard is being the right amount of critical. Criticising myself is hard, but its good to know that a small amount of critique helps me be a better version of myself.
Anonymous
May 31st, 2018 7:55am
yes, often when it comes to thinking rationally or critically about things you feel strongly about or love, it can be very difficult and often challenging.
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Pugcanisegosum
June 7th, 2018 11:30pm
No, but it would depend on the kind of love you have for that object. Is it just a caring kind of love? or infatuated? Or is it unconditional. The more you think about something the easier it is to think deeply about it especially if it is unconditional or caring type of love.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2018 7:19am
Yes. It becomes hard to criticise anything/anybody that you love/like. It’s because of your belief in that thing. Breaking up a pre-notioned belief is very difficult thus it becomes hard to criticise it.
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snugglyPineapple44
August 25th, 2018 7:40am
Absolutely! I find it's very difficult for me to think critically because when I love something, I don't want to see the flaws or faults in it too much since I worry it might "ruin" what makes the thing I love so much. I also find that thinking critically can be quite challenging since there's so many potential angles you can think critically from! Depending on what you're criticizing, or why you're criticizing something can also make it varying levels of difficult. So for me, I struggle a lot with this. :( I'd love to get better about it though.
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KurtCups711
August 11th, 2018 1:48pm
It doesn't hurt to get an objective second opinion. Sometimes, in the case of addiction it can be hard to separate what is healthy and what is compulsive. I'd find a good friend to ask about it.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 4:06pm
love is simple yet complex. it's very intricate yet it is also very simple. from the experiences I've had, love is something that's very personalized and no one can speak for the other. i believe that you can decipher this only when you find out the meaning of that specific person/ object to you.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2018 5:08am
It’s not hard, it’s a part of being human. Thinking critically means you care for the thing that you love.
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HeyMaxley
July 21st, 2018 8:08am
I'm not a perfectionist, but I guess you can say I'm cynical. Doesn't matter if it's something I love, like Cinema Sins says, nothing is without sin.
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sevysnepthesnek
June 28th, 2018 12:03am
From my own experience, I think critically about the things I love when I am questioning myself. I don't want to be blindly in love with something or someone, I need to reassure myself that they have flaws, and that I need to be okay with that. If I'm not, then I am not in love with them, I am in love with the idea of them.
Anonymous
June 15th, 2018 7:21pm
Not at all but sometimes we convince ourselves that we love some things even though if we were being honest we actually do not. Sometimes though you are stuck and have to work on getting unstuck. (FYI work doesn't continue to feel like work when we absolutely love doing it even though other people might see it as work. It won't feel like work to you. It will feel more like play or fun or enjoyment.)
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intelligentMist75
June 22nd, 2018 2:23pm
I think if you really love something you would be able to think about it from many perspectives but it may be hurtful to see any negatives about the object
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goldenApple91
August 15th, 2018 3:36am
I think you always know the downside of even something/ someone you love but you overlook it hoping things will be better. Anyway love covers a multitude of sin.
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TBruce07
July 8th, 2018 12:11am
Personally don't love a lot of things. Therefore it is easier to take the time to think about things which do mean dear to me. It does take a good deal of will and courage when judging something that you love which is why it can be scary and often overlooked. Overall I think that love is weird and things take time so it can be hard. :P