If I told a counselor that I constantly have thoughts of hurting people I love, but would NEVER act out my thoughts would I have to be committed?

No not at all. The only reasons a person can be involuntarily psychiatry hospitalized would be if they were a danger to self or others or unable to care for themselves. Having thoughts of harming self or others would not be a reason to hospitalize as long as the person can contract for safety convincingly...by saying they don’t intend to act on the thoughts. As long as the person is sufficiently rational and in control of their behavior (not acting recklessly, endangering self or others), then their would be little reason to question their commitment to safety. We all have fleeting thoughts about various things in life, but that doesn’t mean we have to act on them.

I would say no. they are only supposed to commit someone if they have specific plans to hurt themselves for others.

I'm not an expert, but I don't believe so. For minors, if they say something like that, then their parents have to be notified. For those over the age of 18, if you make it explicitly clear that you would never act on these feelings, they shouldn't be able to do anything about it. However, I don't know all of the laws.

Even if you showed your counselor with evidence that you hurt others at times it is unnecessary to make a scenario of an event when they can work it out with you based on information you had given them.

Our thoughts are affected by our feeling. There are times when certain feelings and thoughts arise as a response to our situation or the way people treat us. We're not always in full control of what pops up in our thought. But we can be in control over our actions. There's a saying that hurt people hurt people. And that hurt can be even deeper when done by someone close to us. Because the last person we expect to do us wrong is the person, we care about. But also, the person who can hurt us the most is the person we love the most. Because we care, and their actions matter to us. If we're telling someone we're committed to doing something, then we're bound by that commitment. But even if somehow, under certain situations, we lost it and were unable to maintain that commitment, we shouldn't be too hard on ourselves. What we need to do is to reflect and continue to improve ourselves to do better.