How can something that's so hard for me come naturally to everyone else?
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Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 3:15am
everyone deals in different ways. What starts out bad always ends up good so don't worry so much one day you'll look back and laugh about it x
We all feel like this at some point, sometimes what seems natural to everyone...behind doors took a lot of practice, patience and work. Of course , we rarely will see that.
Second, we all have unique abilities that come natural to us but hard for everyone else, i'm sure you have them too. It is possible you have not identified them yet :)
We are all different, the things you then find easy others might not. And they have the exact same question as you
You make yourself think it's hard therefore it's even harder. You make yourself think you can't do it. So you need to push yourself into positivity and say "I can do this! And I will!".
Everybody is different and has different struggles, something that comes naturally to you may be hard for somebody else.
Everyone is different. Don't compare yourself to others. You have your own rhythm. You'll find that you will also have things that you're better at ! Sometimes it's understanding others, or maybe expressing your emotions in art. And if you have to work twice as hard for the rest, it doesn't mean you can't do it at all. You just need to work harder. Just give it your best. You know what they say, it's 5% talent the rest is hard work. Work hard and you can do anything you want, even the things that don't come naturally !
Based of off the three learning theories as specified: behaviorism, Cognitive information processing and Constructivism. We are all different and our minds are programmed in different ways. Some people are great at mathematic, while others are fantastic readers. So, we all have strengths and weakness and being comfortable with this is essential to having positive thoughts about ourselves.
I agree with the answers here, we all are different. It's also worth noting that people may fake how natural they do something. Fake it till you make it, some may say.
Everyone has their own strengths, and that shows in our abilities. When I was on guard, it took me forever for me to get this one toss. Another girl immediately got the toss and it frustrated me. My band director told me to keep trying, so I did and I got the toss. Just because something doesn't come naturally doesn't mean that you can't do it. Keep pushing and persevere.
Everyone is different, just embrace what is good about you and ask people to help you in areas you aren’t as good!
Anonymous
February 5th, 2018 11:48pm
Because everyone is born different. Everyone’s life/path is different. We are not all the same, now there are somethings that most people can do but if u can’t do it then that’s ok because like I said MOST people can do it. But there are things that you, yourself can do that others can’t do. Now that does not mean that they are stupid or weak just like how when you can’t do something others can do that it does not mean you are stupid or weak. Everyone has there own strengths and weaknesses, and if your strengths are in other areas that most people’s aren’t in then that’s a good thing because it means your Unique. (Which is a VERY GOOD thing)
Everybody has different strengths and weaknesses. LIke, if you have curly hair, chances are you try to straighten it and vice versa. There will be something that you're good at, that others find difficult. It can take time to find out what that is.
We all have different abilities and different rates for learning or performing different tasks. Just because we do not learn at the same pace as another person does not mean that we are incompetent, however, and that we should give up.
Because everybody is different in their own way, and somethings are easier for some people than for others.
It is because if that something seems to be easy for them, maybe something that comes easy for you is really hard for them. It is about how our brains and minds are wired and shaped. We all grew up in different environments, have different genetic heritage or have different sets of skills or exposure to them. It doesn't mean we can't learn hard things, and share with others what comes easy to us. We can exchange our skills in this way too
Everyone is different. I cant sing a lick but i know people that can sing like a bird. If we were all good at everything then it be really dull. I am a massive nerd about most uninteresting random stuf.. but i try and own it. It is me and sometimes in my random box of knowledge i have a gem that can make people laugh. FInd your thing and Own it!
Anonymous
July 21st, 2015 1:53am
Short answer? People are different, that's all there is to it. If it comes naturally, people find a skill hard to improve. Rather than wondering why you cannot do something as well as the guy ahead of you, wonder how you can improve and overtake him. Best of luck,
Anonymous
April 24th, 2015 5:14pm
Everyone have their own talents and I'm sure you do too! I'm sure you have things that you find easy that we find it hard. If you want to improve, you can always try to practice it to improve your skill spit won't be as hard as it was before.
Everyone is made differently. You've probably heard all of this hundreds of times, but that is only because it is true. Everyone is different. So it may come naturally to some, but there are others that it may be hard. Don't think that you are alone! There is always someone else that is going through something like what you are. Find a group of people that have that problem and talk to them! It may help. Really!
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