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Tanyia Hughes, Adv Dip Psy
Psychotherapist
I have been through a lot in life too, which helps me to be able to empathize with situations, thoughts and feelings that we have. Sometimes, it's not easy just being human.
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You can try with music. Music and art in general helped me a lot and could be the same with you. If this doesn't work you can focusing on the things you have and not on the things you have not.
Try not to think too much. Try to Pray, Meditate, Breathe, and/or read a good book. If you still worry, try to avoid negative self-talk. You need to speak to someone that will listen and/or support you without judgement. You can watch tv and avoid watching the ones that will "Trigger" you.
Anonymous
January 19th, 2016 1:58am
Worrying. it's complicated. To stop worrying you must first find when the worrying began and investigate what was happening in your life at that time. did you have exams? an argument with a loved one?
once you have discovered the source of your worrying, you can trace it forwards, making sense of why you have been so worried all along. you mend and fix what made you so worried and upon reflection, you will most likely realise your worrying was all about nothing, as your troubles are fixed and now you are relatively worry free.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2021 3:37am
I know that worrying is hard for everyone. I personally overthink about almost everything and I need to find ways to not get as anxious all the time. I find that finding a group of friends who will always support me through everything helps me a lot. They are always there if I need to rant, give me comforting words, and it calms me down. I also love to listen to music to get my mind off of anything. Music is one of those things that I will find peace in, especially if the songs include messages that I personally relate to.
Anonymous
March 22nd, 2021 11:38pm
"Replace the Worry with Winning"
I realized a long time ago when I was fairly young, if you dig something up, it is only a matter of time before the hole you created is replaced by something else. The tricky part is, if you are not attentive, the later may be "heavier" than the former. Let me explain.
Many of us experience some kind of mental or emotion heaviness; well, if you're human. This heaviness can be worry, anxiety, or depression. The list goes on. While all of our heaviness comes from their respectable places removing them is only the beginning. I can tell you from experience, the only true way to stop, let's say worrying, is by replacing it with something more light and positive.
When my children grew up, and were no longer living under my roof, I found myself constantly going over what it would be like if they were mugged on their way to a date or hit crossing a busy New York street. Once I #1 realized these thoughts were becoming unhealthy I #2 decided to block them by #3 imagining the date, the road crossing and everything else was successful. I made the decision to "Replace the Worrying with Winning".
Anonymous
July 17th, 2018 6:36pm
Take deep breaths, meditate, listen to calming music, tell yourself it going to be okay, think of something else
I was taught a technique called worry time, where I'd set 5 minutes to the side in my day or when I was anxious to write all the worries that were on my mind, I'd then see a different perspecive of them when they were written down. I'd look at them and try and put them into two catagories; hyperthetical and practical worries. Hyperthetical worries are worries that you cannot do anything about now (e.g "In 2 week's I have a operation I'm really anxious" although it's something very reasonable to be worried about, there is absolutely no point dwelling on something that is out of your control.) and practical worries are worries you can plan for and write down a solution then let that worrying go.
Personally, I tend to analyze what exactly is worrying me, and from there consider my rational stances concerning the situation, as well as my moral ones. Nevertheless, if I'm concerned about something I inevitably have to do in order to sustain self, I would calm down and prepare myself to bite the bullet. This feeling of determination will eventually overpower the feeling of worry.
Anonymous
October 11th, 2016 2:07am
First take some deep breaths. Then try to understand that stressing and worrying isn't going to change anything! Everything is going to work out in your favor, so smile sunshine because I along with many people believe in you.
Anonymous
March 29th, 2016 5:32am
focus your mind on something that doesn't worry you
Use your time wisely. Relax and give yourself time to do what you want and do things that will calm you down, make sure that these things aren't stressful. If you're worried about your health, ask for advice from a medical expert. Avoid self-diagnosis; it will only send you into a tailspin and you are more likely than not to be wrong.
I believe that exercise and eating well has truly helped me with my anxiety and my worrying. Living in a healthy environment and putting the right foods in your body can change the chemicals in your brain to release positive energy.
Put your mind off it; Do 'Mood Boosts' under the 'My Path' bar, meditate and take part in things you like! Surround yourself with people that makes you happy, and don't bottle anything in (:
A lot of people worry about lots of things. Just remember if the worrying is doing harm to your health or self then it is unhealthy worrying and you should seek some help. Always remember that worrying gets you no where, cause no matter how much you worry it isn't gonna change a thing.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2015 3:30am
It is hard to stop worrying because new things pop into your head, but you have to try to stay positive even though it is hard.
The important thing is to stay calm. You can do this by listening to music or reading a book etc. That can help to distract your mind from worrying. If you're worrying about a situation you're going into (e.g. a presentation) just take some deep breaths before hand as this can also help to calm your mind.
You may be able to decrease your worrying if you look at yourself, realize what it is you need, and take care of it. If you are anxious, what are you anxious about and why? Is your fear unfounded. If not, what steps can you take to prevent it from happening or to be better prepared. If you cannot prevent it, then worrying doesn't help anyway. It may seem overused, but the serenity prayer addresses this issue head on (paraphrase): I must seek the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Try distracting yourself! Maybe find quotes that you love and leave them around your room/office :)
To stop worrying, you have to try and not focus on the topic you are worrying about. You have to try and focus on something else.
"Don't worry, be happy." As cliche as that saying is, it is true. Focus on the things in life that provide you with the utmost happiness. Look at the big picture instead of all the little details.
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