Am I wrong for preferring to be alone, even when I have the opportunity to spend time with my peers?
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There is nothing wrong with seeking solitude -- especially so when one is an introvert (introverts generally thrive in solitude and generally become very "drained" after partaking in social gatherings of any kind). If, however, one's solitude begins to contribute to or cause depression, it is then that greater exposure to social gatherings may need to be reconsidered.
Why do you think that? It is totally ok if you like to spend time by yourself. It can be a great way to find who you are and what you really want to. It is very important, so when you feel like starting to spend time with others you are a better person, and you can be a better friend to them.
Not at all! Alone time is much needed. Sometimes you just need some space and time for yourself to get everything situated. :)
Anonymous
May 27th, 2015 3:29am
No. Sometimes we need time to ourselves to work on our hobbies, meditate, reflect, and learn about ourselves. We are the most important person in our life.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2015 12:13am
Absolutely not! It's totally okay to not want to spend some time with others. Spending time alone can be extremely beneficial, and some of us really need it to recharge. There's a lot of pressure to spend time with others, however if you're feeling like you need that alone time, take it. Listen to your needs, and follow them. They're important!
Every person is unique and they enjoy different things. If it makes you happy to be alone, then be alone.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2016 3:14am
There is nothing wrong with preferring to be alone, that just shows that you have self confidence! And plus, you should do the things you prefer.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2019 6:49pm
No one is ever wrong for wanting to be alone. Alone time is good for one's mental health - it is good to be able to be at peace with being with yourself and working on being at peace with the fact you need to make yourself your first priority. Not everyone enjoys the company of others and is more introverted and there is nothing wrong with that, no matter how many extroverted people may say it is wrong. I would say make some time for peers and family and friends at least on occasion however since completely isolating yourself is also unhealthy.
I don't think it's wrong to prefer solitude. Socialization is important, but so is knowing ourselves and being comfortable alone.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2016 9:21am
No you are not wrong to prefer to be alone. Some people are just more independent than others. Try occasionally being with other people because in life you are with other people without a choice so try and ease your way into it
Anonymous
August 24th, 2015 8:20am
No way! This is totally normal! Sometimes you just get sick of everyone and need to get away for a little bit, I think this is fine to do :)
Some more social people can make you feel like this is a problem but it is absolutely not. We all have different personalities and needs and for as long as you really do feel happy in your own company, there is nothing wrong with that.
I don't think you're wrong at all! Some people like keeping to themselves, and some like having plenty of friends around them. Everyone has a different level of socialization and varied personalities they like to interact with :)
I think some of us are just naturally inspired from the inside out. We enjoy the comfort of others but also take pleasure in enjoying our own space. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to spend time alone; if anything, alone time can help us to think and focus on areas in our lives that we might want to improve on and perhaps find ways to enhance personal growth.
Anonymous
July 28th, 2015 8:30pm
No, of course not. It's your life and if that's what you enjoy, as long as it doesn't harm anyone, go for it.
Not at all! It being with other people is socially draining, it could mean that you're an introvert. If it's not draining but you just prefer time alone, then it's simply that: a preference. There's nothing wrong with it, as long as you're polite when letting others know that you'd rather be by yourself.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2017 2:33am
Absolutely not. Some people are energized by spending time with others and some are drained by it. You may just be more of an introvert and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that as long as you are happy and feel fulfilled. The only time there is a concern is when you are isolating yourself due to possibly depression.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2017 2:09am
I don't think that there is anything wrong with you for preferring to be alone. I think that it is important to socialize with your peers every once in awhile, but there shouldn't be a problem for choosing some alone time to yourself. Sometimes, people especially those who are introverted, are content with solitude.
Of course not! Many people-such as myself- prefer to have some alone time as well as social time. Wanting to be alone is not (and never will be) a bad thing. If you feel that you need that social interaction to be healthy but don't want it, you should probably talk to someone about it, yet wanting to be alone sometimes in no way makes you bad or 'wrong.'
Anonymous
December 5th, 2016 9:30pm
No, there's nothing wrong with that, you are most probably an introverted person who prefers time by themselves rather than being surrounded by people.
Anonymous
November 14th, 2016 2:56am
Hello, I think that everyone is different, some people prefer the company of others and some are introverts, and that's totally fine! I'll suggest you don't isolate from the world for a long time, that I'll harmful for your health.
no sometimes you need your space. in excess it is not good. try to balance those different times. if your lonely, get out! try to learn when you need what
No, everyone prefers different things, it is perfectly okay to enjoy spending time alone. Does not make you wrong or anything, just makes you, you.
Not at all! As long as you're happy and safe, there is nothing wrong with taking time for yourself! We all need a break from the people we surround ourselves sometimes, especially if you're taking time to do something you love.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2015 10:36am
You aren't wrong for preferring that! You're simply an introvert, and there's nothing wrong with that at all. It only becomes a problem if you're alone time begins to make you feel lonely or isolated, and that's when it's a good idea to spend some time around others. Finding a healthy balance of alone time and socializing is important, and everyone's balance is different.
Everyone has times when they prefer to be alone. However, being alone too often can lead to isolation which can lead to depression. I am often alone when I go out, yet I make a conscious effort to reach out to others because it helps them feel better, and I feel better, too.
Well its not wrong to like being alone, it is juss your personality type, and there is nothing like bad personality, every personality is good in some way. But avoiding socialising even when necessary is not healthy, after all we are humans and we have to depend.
Sometimes, I think a little alone time is a good thing. Of course, I also know that too much of anything isn't good.
I think it's absolutely normal for one to want to have some alone time, but perhaps you could occasionally socialise with you peers. Whenever you feel comfortable to do so, of course.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 6:37pm
No , I think it's fine that you save time to be just with yourself , I do this often like just stay by myself :)
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