My ex has gone back to drugs but won’t admit it. It’s caused our break up because of the lies and let downs. I’d support him, and have for years, through recovery. What am I doing wrong for him?

Nothing. You are not to blame for your ex drug problems. You may be hurting him by enabling him that could be your ex problem always knowing that you are going to be there for their every need and every want always getting them out the bind that they are in probably even making excuses for them. The best thing you can do is love them. Take care of your self take up some classes on how to deal with this and stop being a enabler. The more that you do for some one that is on drugs the worse they are going to get because you are not helping them you think that you are helping.

First I would try and find out what is bothering him and talk to him in an emphathic way. also it is important to show that you care about their well being and at the sme time u are concern for their over all well being. But nontheless talking about the issue and figuring ways that we can used to control and provide and effective ways to communicate and to assist the client in realizing that we are there to listen and support them at the same time. Furthermore we can explain to the client the effect of taking drugs as well as its side effects mentally and physically in any way shape or perform.

You are doing absolutely nothing wrong. You are sweet enough to stand by the person you love and offer support to them for years now. It all comes down to your ex. Your support has not gone unnoticed, but addiction is a very real and scary thing. Maybe taking some time during this break up for yourself can be a good thing. Spend time loving yourself! Whether it be meditation, yoga, painting, watching your favorite movie, or even making a home cooked meal for yourself will do. Your ex may not feel ready to confront the problem and that is in no way your fault. During their time of figuring out what they are suffering from, maybe taking a step back and supporting yourself is the biggest help you can be.