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Things no one tells you about Self-Harm: Trigger Warning
by Jenna
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more Everyone mentions the same things when they talk about self-harm. This is what I wish someone told me about self-harm before I fell into its tight gripping claws. 1) It's not only the cuts/bruises/burns/scratches that you have to hide. You have to hide the bloodied tissues, the used band-aids, the band-aid wrapper, and the thing you used to harm. 2) When you shower the dried blood drips out of your band-aid and down your body creating little dark red, almost brown, colored streams. It scares you at first because you think it's opened again. 3) It becomes an addiction. It becomes the only thing that helps. 4) It eventually doesn't help anymore but you keep doing it in the hope it will. 5) Your body will scar and at first, you will like it but eventually, you get sick looking at them. 6) On a bad day, you run out of space. 7) Your band-aids will soak through your jeans or top after a shower and make an obvious square or rectangle patch. 8) They start to smell bad if not looked after. 9) You constantly think about them. 10) Your sleep will hurt and every move you make will too when they are fresh. You act as you like it. You don't. 11) People will never take it seriously enough. 12) They itch like mad whilst they heal. 13) You eventually get frustrated if it has no effect. 14) You don't cry when you do it. You feel nothing. Not. A. Thing. 15) It's so so so hard to escape it. 16) It isn't beautiful. It isn't a fairy tale. It won't help you find love. It is a monster that ruins lives. Please think of all these things before you hurt yourself. You don't want to. I sound like a hypocrite because I do but trust me, you don't want to fall down the dark hole that I and many other people are already in. Put down your fist, blade, lighter, cut your nail short, and get help.
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Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Monday
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
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SHA #4: Calming Affirmations for Difficult Moments
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 March 22nd
...See more Hello all,  Group Support organizing the month of Self-Harm Awareness Week,  the focus will be on discussing general awareness, and support, and celebrating milestones and small steps. This will be an opportunity for all of us to come together and extend our support and compassion to all who struggling with self-harm.  Life throws its curveballs, and sometimes we feel like we're drowning. You might be feeling overwhelmed and lost, and in those moments, the urge to self-harm might arise as a way to cope.   When you find yourself in those moments, having a set of affirmations can help ground you and bring a sense of calm. Affirmations are powerful tools that can shift your mindset and provide comfort in difficult times. Here are some affirmations you can repeat to yourself when you feel overwhelmed or tempted to harm yourself.  * "This feeling is temporary. I will get through this."  * "I am worthy of love and support. I will reach out for help." You deserve to feel safe and cared for.  * "I am strong and capable. I have faced challenges before, and I can face this one too." You are more resilient than you think. * "My pain does not define me. I am more than my struggles." Pain is a part of life, but it doesn't have to control your existence. You are a complex and worthy person. * "I will focus on what I can control, my breath, my thoughts, and my actions."  * "There is help available. I will find a healthy way to cope." Self-harm is not the answer. There are healthier ways to deal with difficult emotions.  * "I am worthy of healing. I will take steps towards feeling better today." Start small, with one positive step towards self-care. * "I deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion, especially by myself. I choose to be gentle with myself in times of distress." * "I am not alone in this. Some people care about me and want to support me through this struggle." * "My worth is not defined by my struggles or mistakes. I am inherently valuable just as I am." * "I have the power to choose how I respond to this situation. I choose to respond with love and understanding towards myself." * "I acknowledge my pain, but I also acknowledge my capacity for healing and growth. I am worthy of healing." * "I forgive myself for any past mistakes or shortcomings. I choose to let go of self-blame and embrace self-compassion." Please know that affirmations are most effective when repeated regularly and with conviction. Find the affirmations that resonate with you the most and make them a part of your daily self-care routine. If you are struggling with self-harm, please reach out for support. You are not alone, and there is hope for healing. We are all here with you to listen to and support you.  If you have any affirmation that you use, please share it with us here. Also, let's discuss and share our experiences with affirmations during overwhelming moments. All thoughts are welcomed.  ------------------------- Other posts in the SHA series:  SHA #3: Role of Acceptance & Validation [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/General_2451/SHA3RoleofAcceptanceValidation_325495/] SHA #2: "Safe Plan" for people with self-harm issue [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/InformationandResources_1079/SHA2SafePlanforpeoplewithselfharmissue_323303/] SHA #1: Do you think self-harm defines you?  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/General_2451/SHA1Doyouthinkselfharmdefinesyou_324983/]
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I'm trying to hold on
by BlessedBird
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more TW for self harm and self injurious behavior. Please be advised. I'm trying to hold on, trying not to hurt myself or seek out unhealthy and self-destructive coping skills, but sometimes it's hard. It's like I feel a deep, gnawing sense of emptiness. I am working through the emotion, rather than just pushing away what I'm feeling. I know where upsetting me right now, and I know what's going on in my life. My therapist may not really understand, but I do. I know that I want to cope with the pain in a way that's familiar to me, a way that feels comfortable to me (in the moment) because it's like I'm gaining a sense of control over the pain. But I know it leads to more pain in the long run. Much, much deeper pain than I'm even feeling now. I can mitigate this by directly acting on what's hurting me right now. Self-harm is a displacement, it's a way to act on the pain and do something about it that gives me a sense of control, safety, and comfort. But so would directly acting on it. In this case, I'm combatting the sense of helplessness that leads to self-harm by doing what I can to heal from the grief and heartbreak I'm facing in my life, processing the feelings and sense of injustice done to me, and speaking directly into the pain, instead of dodging it with coping skills that don't work. I will overcome this, but God, I need Your help. Because right now, I legitimately feel tempted to self-harm.
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Struggles
by Pinkie15pie
Last post
 22 hours ago
...See more After 10 months of being clean i relapsed twelve days ago and now the urge to won't leave me the whole time I tried multiple things to cope with it but nothing seems to help, any ideas that can help me through those days??
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Relapsed...
by Blueeygirl44
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more 4/5 years clean and just did it again im so disappointed in myself idk what to do
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SELF HARM
by poopiedookie
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more TRIGGER WARNING (self-harm) The weight of my struggles becomes unbearable, as I yearn for someone to reach out and offer a lifeline. I wonder if it is my fault, if I am somehow unworthy of support and compassion. The stigma surrounding mental health issues looms over me, casting a shadow of shame and guilt. It feels as though society has turned its back on me, leaving me to navigate this treacherous path alone. In my darkest moments, I contemplate the possibility of a different outcome. What if someone were to notice the signs, to see through the facade I wear each day? Would they understand the depths of my pain, the battles I fight within myself? Or would they simply dismiss it as attention-seeking or weakness? The isolation becomes suffocating, as I yearn for connection and understanding. I long for someone to listen without judgment, to offer a shoulder to lean on when I can no longer bear the weight of my own despair. But as the days turn into weeks, and the weeks into months, it becomes clear that the support I so desperately crave is nowhere to be found. In this cycle of self-destruction, I am left to question my own worth. Am I not deserving of love and compassion? Is my pain not valid enough to warrant assistance? The doubts and self-blame only serve to deepen the wounds, pushing me further into the abyss. Yet, amidst the darkness, a flicker of hope remains. It is a small voice within me that whispers, reminding me that I am not alone. It tells me that there are others out there who have walked this path, who have emerged from the depths of despair. It is this glimmer of hope that keeps me going, that fuels my determination to find a way out of this cycle. I may be trapped in this seemingly endless struggle, but I refuse to let it define me. I will continue to fight, to seek solace and support, even if it means reaching out to strangers or seeking professional help. I will not let the indifference of others extinguish the flame of hope within me. For in the depths of my pain, I am reminded that I am not alone. There are others who understand, who have faced their own demons and emerged stronger. And with their stories as my guide, I will continue to push forward, knowing that one day, I will find the solace and support I so desperately seek.
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Twenty one pilots, songs. Trauma
by adventurousTangerine2513
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Tyler Joseph is very special to me. Because of him and his songs I survived lot of traumatic events. I was physically abused, emotionally abused, psychologically abused, bullied, betrayed. Is any one here who also got saved by his songs ?
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Things no one tells you about Self-Harm: Trigger Warning
by Jenna
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more Everyone mentions the same things when they talk about self-harm. This is what I wish someone told me about self-harm before I fell into its tight gripping claws. 1) It's not only the cuts/bruises/burns/scratches that you have to hide. You have to hide the bloodied tissues, the used band-aids, the band-aid wrapper, and the thing you used to harm. 2) When you shower the dried blood drips out of your band-aid and down your body creating little dark red, almost brown, colored streams. It scares you at first because you think it's opened again. 3) It becomes an addiction. It becomes the only thing that helps. 4) It eventually doesn't help anymore but you keep doing it in the hope it will. 5) Your body will scar and at first, you will like it but eventually, you get sick looking at them. 6) On a bad day, you run out of space. 7) Your band-aids will soak through your jeans or top after a shower and make an obvious square or rectangle patch. 8) They start to smell bad if not looked after. 9) You constantly think about them. 10) Your sleep will hurt and every move you make will too when they are fresh. You act as you like it. You don't. 11) People will never take it seriously enough. 12) They itch like mad whilst they heal. 13) You eventually get frustrated if it has no effect. 14) You don't cry when you do it. You feel nothing. Not. A. Thing. 15) It's so so so hard to escape it. 16) It isn't beautiful. It isn't a fairy tale. It won't help you find love. It is a monster that ruins lives. Please think of all these things before you hurt yourself. You don't want to. I sound like a hypocrite because I do but trust me, you don't want to fall down the dark hole that I and many other people are already in. Put down your fist, blade, lighter, cut your nail short, and get help.
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Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Monday
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
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Sinful
by Kat926483
Last post
 Sunday
...See more I did it again and I feel so f*cking sinful. I can't go to therapy until January because money issues but I might actually snap. Its like this demon inside me craving to come back..finally I think I'm happy and then suddenly its right back..and I hurt myself...I usually just c*t or scratch but I can't drinking take this anxiety anymore, im just counting down the days until I can go to therapy. I don't have anyone else to tell and its scary to tell my mom. Because she'd probably limit everything... I don't know what to do, I want to go to heaven but..
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I cant do this😭 tw
by eylah
Last post
 December 11th
...See more Im really struggling right now, I might need surgery for a relapse injury and im struggling tonight i want to cry shut but i cant. Im trying not to relapse bc then I’ll need more surgery etc i cant do this i cant. I give up 😭😭😭
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ohhh the itching
by basilpilled
Last post
 December 10th
...See more TW!! stay safe!! 👽 i think i have a sorta twisted fascination for wanting to cut myself. i started wayyy back in early middle school and im an adult now., everytime i think im finally over it, i relapse. i can be months clean and suddenly something ticks me off and everything repeats itself. its so lame.. and its also tricky because sh is such a sensitive topic that i really dont talk to anyone about it. like yeah my friends see the scars but i dont expect them to. do anything about it. thats not their job. im not clean rn but ive been fighting really really hard not to make it worse.,. my brother left for college recently and he was the only one in my house i could really talk to, so its been super isolating. isolation is more alone time for me to have these gross fascinations that i just cant stop. anywayy…! apologies for the mindless rambling. hope everyone is doing their best 
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to much damage and i need to stop tw
by ana26baka
Last post
 December 9th
...See more uugghhh why do i do that. now i have major headache.  whenever i get overwhelmed, stressed, upset or or just feeling rly negative emotions towards myself i just h1t my h3ad many times. ive been sh-ing that way since i was like 10 and im currently 20. but ifc the older i get the stronger the hit. this time there was an immediate headache and today that headache is still present. (i took some medicine to help) i just wanna stop bc i know the damage can be really bad but im also autistic so when those feelings happen i get so overstimulated that the sh is also a stim, but its injuring so i really cant keep on.😣
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idk how to say this, but i saved my friends life yesterday. (TRIGGER WARNING)
by Helloimjay
Last post
 December 5th
...See more TRIGGER WARNING  so, my friend broke her leg and is in a wheelchair, and she needed to go to the nurse. so, i pushed her down there. in the hallway, she showed me bandages-wrap things on her arms that were to keep her from picking her scabs and from self harming.  when we got there, probably only 5 seconds after she told me that, she told the nurse she was feeling sad, and that’s why she was there. i sat down and told her she can tell me anything, that i would always be there for her, and that i will never judge her. after around 15-20 mins of talking, we had to go back to class.  as i got up, she complemented my necklace, so i gave it to her. in the hallway, she told me something along the lines of that if i didn’t help her or say those things about her, she would have committed suicide that night.  i really don’t know how i can support her other than being there for her. can someone please help? i would really appreciate it❤️

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