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Things no one tells you about Self-Harm: Trigger Warning
by Jenna
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more Everyone mentions the same things when they talk about self-harm. This is what I wish someone told me about self-harm before I fell into its tight gripping claws. 1) It's not only the cuts/bruises/burns/scratches that you have to hide. You have to hide the bloodied tissues, the used band-aids, the band-aid wrapper, and the thing you used to harm. 2) When you shower the dried blood drips out of your band-aid and down your body creating little dark red, almost brown, colored streams. It scares you at first because you think it's opened again. 3) It becomes an addiction. It becomes the only thing that helps. 4) It eventually doesn't help anymore but you keep doing it in the hope it will. 5) Your body will scar and at first, you will like it but eventually, you get sick looking at them. 6) On a bad day, you run out of space. 7) Your band-aids will soak through your jeans or top after a shower and make an obvious square or rectangle patch. 8) They start to smell bad if not looked after. 9) You constantly think about them. 10) Your sleep will hurt and every move you make will too when they are fresh. You act as you like it. You don't. 11) People will never take it seriously enough. 12) They itch like mad whilst they heal. 13) You eventually get frustrated if it has no effect. 14) You don't cry when you do it. You feel nothing. Not. A. Thing. 15) It's so so so hard to escape it. 16) It isn't beautiful. It isn't a fairy tale. It won't help you find love. It is a monster that ruins lives. Please think of all these things before you hurt yourself. You don't want to. I sound like a hypocrite because I do but trust me, you don't want to fall down the dark hole that I and many other people are already in. Put down your fist, blade, lighter, cut your nail short, and get help.
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Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
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SHA #4: Calming Affirmations for Difficult Moments
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 March 22nd, 2024
...See more Hello all,  Group Support organizing the month of Self-Harm Awareness Week,  the focus will be on discussing general awareness, and support, and celebrating milestones and small steps. This will be an opportunity for all of us to come together and extend our support and compassion to all who struggling with self-harm.  Life throws its curveballs, and sometimes we feel like we're drowning. You might be feeling overwhelmed and lost, and in those moments, the urge to self-harm might arise as a way to cope.   When you find yourself in those moments, having a set of affirmations can help ground you and bring a sense of calm. Affirmations are powerful tools that can shift your mindset and provide comfort in difficult times. Here are some affirmations you can repeat to yourself when you feel overwhelmed or tempted to harm yourself.  * "This feeling is temporary. I will get through this."  * "I am worthy of love and support. I will reach out for help." You deserve to feel safe and cared for.  * "I am strong and capable. I have faced challenges before, and I can face this one too." You are more resilient than you think. * "My pain does not define me. I am more than my struggles." Pain is a part of life, but it doesn't have to control your existence. You are a complex and worthy person. * "I will focus on what I can control, my breath, my thoughts, and my actions."  * "There is help available. I will find a healthy way to cope." Self-harm is not the answer. There are healthier ways to deal with difficult emotions.  * "I am worthy of healing. I will take steps towards feeling better today." Start small, with one positive step towards self-care. * "I deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion, especially by myself. I choose to be gentle with myself in times of distress." * "I am not alone in this. Some people care about me and want to support me through this struggle." * "My worth is not defined by my struggles or mistakes. I am inherently valuable just as I am." * "I have the power to choose how I respond to this situation. I choose to respond with love and understanding towards myself." * "I acknowledge my pain, but I also acknowledge my capacity for healing and growth. I am worthy of healing." * "I forgive myself for any past mistakes or shortcomings. I choose to let go of self-blame and embrace self-compassion." Please know that affirmations are most effective when repeated regularly and with conviction. Find the affirmations that resonate with you the most and make them a part of your daily self-care routine. If you are struggling with self-harm, please reach out for support. You are not alone, and there is hope for healing. We are all here with you to listen to and support you.  If you have any affirmation that you use, please share it with us here. Also, let's discuss and share our experiences with affirmations during overwhelming moments. All thoughts are welcomed.  ------------------------- Other posts in the SHA series:  SHA #3: Role of Acceptance & Validation [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/General_2451/SHA3RoleofAcceptanceValidation_325495/] SHA #2: "Safe Plan" for people with self-harm issue [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/InformationandResources_1079/SHA2SafePlanforpeoplewithselfharmissue_323303/] SHA #1: Do you think self-harm defines you?  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/General_2451/SHA1Doyouthinkselfharmdefinesyou_324983/]
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Is that "normal"? (TW//self-harm)
by Marie142011
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more I'm cutting myself, but I don't cry while I do it. Actually, I don't feel anything (except the pain) and do it automatically. Sometimes I look at my wrist afterwards and then I realize what I did. I'm sometimes schocked at myself and then I start crying and regretting it. So can anyone relate or is it only me?
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Tips?
by cawsoide
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more A way to end it with the less pain possible?
Jenna profile picture
Things no one tells you about Self-Harm: Trigger Warning
by Jenna
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more Everyone mentions the same things when they talk about self-harm. This is what I wish someone told me about self-harm before I fell into its tight gripping claws. 1) It's not only the cuts/bruises/burns/scratches that you have to hide. You have to hide the bloodied tissues, the used band-aids, the band-aid wrapper, and the thing you used to harm. 2) When you shower the dried blood drips out of your band-aid and down your body creating little dark red, almost brown, colored streams. It scares you at first because you think it's opened again. 3) It becomes an addiction. It becomes the only thing that helps. 4) It eventually doesn't help anymore but you keep doing it in the hope it will. 5) Your body will scar and at first, you will like it but eventually, you get sick looking at them. 6) On a bad day, you run out of space. 7) Your band-aids will soak through your jeans or top after a shower and make an obvious square or rectangle patch. 8) They start to smell bad if not looked after. 9) You constantly think about them. 10) Your sleep will hurt and every move you make will too when they are fresh. You act as you like it. You don't. 11) People will never take it seriously enough. 12) They itch like mad whilst they heal. 13) You eventually get frustrated if it has no effect. 14) You don't cry when you do it. You feel nothing. Not. A. Thing. 15) It's so so so hard to escape it. 16) It isn't beautiful. It isn't a fairy tale. It won't help you find love. It is a monster that ruins lives. Please think of all these things before you hurt yourself. You don't want to. I sound like a hypocrite because I do but trust me, you don't want to fall down the dark hole that I and many other people are already in. Put down your fist, blade, lighter, cut your nail short, and get help.
ASilentObserver profile picture
Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
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Self harm
by Kindandquiet260788
Last post
 4 hours ago
...See more If anyone needs to talk I am here I have struggled with this for along time myself! You Are Not Alone!❤️
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(Self harm)
by Alex014needshelp
Last post
 4 hours ago
...See more I do it without even crying anymore I just don't know what to think about me doing I do it because it helps me get rid of stress along that it also makes me have more stress having to wear outfit the hides it having to hide it from people that are close to me and I just don't want to do it anymore
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Self harm
by caseylh3152
Last post
 4 hours ago
...See more I have so many scars and they are pretty bad, like on my arms my thighs and my lower legs. I have been clean for a week now. My whole point is that if you're self harming please don't do it. Its really bad and its SO stupid to ruin your beautiful body like that. Your so worth it and there are people who care about you. I do. <3 :)
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Slowly realizing/ admitting this not just a “bad habit”
by TealPhotog
Last post
 11 hours ago
...See more TW: SH Hello, I know that title may sound like it’s not “real” SH, but please believe me, it is. It is closely related to stress & anxiety. Even when it hurts I have a hard time stopping. I am not sure how to talk about this without talking about the method. I don’t think I have fully admitted to myself its SH, but everything points to that. I am feeling ashamed, embarrassed, scared, and lost. I a hoping to find coping methods & support here.
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help
by pinkgirl9
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more relapsed after three months of being clean. feeling useless
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I'm confused.
by anonyHuman2290
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I don't know if this is regarded as SH but I'd really like to know. When ever I feel immense emotional pain that I can't handle,I usually hurt myself. As long as I'm holding an object, I'll keep hitting my hands with it unknowingly. I actually seems as though I'm in a trance,I don't know when I start doing it and I only stop when someone's able to snap me out of it. Is that considered SH?
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self harm feels surreal (relatable?)
by determinedSea4370
Last post
 Monday
...See more Like I was just standing in my shower, blood everywhere, holding my arm up because it felt like 'Oh, ***, this is it. I need to go get stitches again. And what if I pass out on the way to the hospital?' But, then the bleeding eventually stopped and I will go to work tomorrow like everyone else, like nothing even happened- despite all the scars and scabs under my clothes, I just smile and carry on. Like I'm looking for a dramatic moment of change, for it to be 'bad enough' for someone to tell me it's okay to take a break, that I don't have to keep living like this. But even after I spill so much blood again and again, I still carry on and on and on.  The self harm is the only way I can tell myself that my feelings are real and yes I am in fact suffering badly even if no one acknowledges it, not even myself. I have daydreams about fainting or breaking down at work, but I never do. I want to curl up in someone's lap and have them take care of me. The contrast between the horrors of my personal life and the persona I adopt at work is insane. It's absurd. It's surreal. Does anyone relate?
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trigger warning birthday and death
by stormieandpaws
Last post
 Monday
...See more today our birthday we hate birthdays due to sexual abuse on our birthdays as kid and also due to use to get birthday spanks and pinch to grow on but was more like a beating. well today little over 3 hours ago our one best friend called us her dad passed away today. this hit us very hard. due to we know her parents. so fighting thoughts of wanting to self harm to numb the feeling away right now. but we not want to give in to them either why we came online as we just not know what to do about the feeling we are feeling right now at all we will not call the hot line as we had issues with them in past big issues. we can not email counclor at community mental health as that not allowed. so we came online as thought that might help some. but this been hitting us hard since she called first time. it was only 60 min after her dad died and she found out only a few min before that. her parents go to another' state in winter so they not here were we live. also her son in rehab  right now due to binge drinking. so she been calling us we trying to do our best to support her too. we feel awful that we struggling with the thoughts of SH as we should not be. but am

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These guidelines are inspired by some communities around 7 cups! This is so we can adapt our little family to accommodate as many different life experiences and situations as possible. We recognize we cannot adapt to every circumstantial rule. However, we have outlined some of the common guidelines needed for our community. ❤️

✪ Please do not share any graphic images or descriptions of self-harm tools!

✪ Please do not mention the name of any tools used for self-harm in any area of the self-harm recovery community.

✪ Names of methods of self-harm are allowed to be shared in the group support room, but where possible please try to exchange a method name for the phrase "self-harm".

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