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Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 January 14th
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
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Things no one tells you about Self-Harm: Trigger Warning
by Jenna
Last post
 December 31st
...See more Everyone mentions the same things when they talk about self-harm. This is what I wish someone told me about self-harm before I fell into its tight gripping claws. 1) It's not only the cuts/bruises/burns/scratches that you have to hide. You have to hide the bloodied tissues, the used band-aids, the band-aid wrapper, and the thing you used to harm. 2) When you shower the dried blood drips out of your band-aid and down your body creating little dark red, almost brown, colored streams. It scares you at first because you think it's opened again. 3) It becomes an addiction. It becomes the only thing that helps. 4) It eventually doesn't help anymore but you keep doing it in the hope it will. 5) Your body will scar and at first, you will like it but eventually, you get sick looking at them. 6) On a bad day, you run out of space. 7) Your band-aids will soak through your jeans or top after a shower and make an obvious square or rectangle patch. 8) They start to smell bad if not looked after. 9) You constantly think about them. 10) Your sleep will hurt and every move you make will too when they are fresh. You act as you like it. You don't. 11) People will never take it seriously enough. 12) They itch like mad whilst they heal. 13) You eventually get frustrated if it has no effect. 14) You don't cry when you do it. You feel nothing. Not. A. Thing. 15) It's so so so hard to escape it. 16) It isn't beautiful. It isn't a fairy tale. It won't help you find love. It is a monster that ruins lives. Please think of all these things before you hurt yourself. You don't want to. I sound like a hypocrite because I do but trust me, you don't want to fall down the dark hole that I and many other people are already in. Put down your fist, blade, lighter, cut your nail short, and get help.
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SHA #4: Calming Affirmations for Difficult Moments
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 March 22nd, 2024
...See more Hello all,  Group Support organizing the month of Self-Harm Awareness Week,  the focus will be on discussing general awareness, and support, and celebrating milestones and small steps. This will be an opportunity for all of us to come together and extend our support and compassion to all who struggling with self-harm.  Life throws its curveballs, and sometimes we feel like we're drowning. You might be feeling overwhelmed and lost, and in those moments, the urge to self-harm might arise as a way to cope.   When you find yourself in those moments, having a set of affirmations can help ground you and bring a sense of calm. Affirmations are powerful tools that can shift your mindset and provide comfort in difficult times. Here are some affirmations you can repeat to yourself when you feel overwhelmed or tempted to harm yourself.  * "This feeling is temporary. I will get through this."  * "I am worthy of love and support. I will reach out for help." You deserve to feel safe and cared for.  * "I am strong and capable. I have faced challenges before, and I can face this one too." You are more resilient than you think. * "My pain does not define me. I am more than my struggles." Pain is a part of life, but it doesn't have to control your existence. You are a complex and worthy person. * "I will focus on what I can control, my breath, my thoughts, and my actions."  * "There is help available. I will find a healthy way to cope." Self-harm is not the answer. There are healthier ways to deal with difficult emotions.  * "I am worthy of healing. I will take steps towards feeling better today." Start small, with one positive step towards self-care. * "I deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion, especially by myself. I choose to be gentle with myself in times of distress." * "I am not alone in this. Some people care about me and want to support me through this struggle." * "My worth is not defined by my struggles or mistakes. I am inherently valuable just as I am." * "I have the power to choose how I respond to this situation. I choose to respond with love and understanding towards myself." * "I acknowledge my pain, but I also acknowledge my capacity for healing and growth. I am worthy of healing." * "I forgive myself for any past mistakes or shortcomings. I choose to let go of self-blame and embrace self-compassion." Please know that affirmations are most effective when repeated regularly and with conviction. Find the affirmations that resonate with you the most and make them a part of your daily self-care routine. If you are struggling with self-harm, please reach out for support. You are not alone, and there is hope for healing. We are all here with you to listen to and support you.  If you have any affirmation that you use, please share it with us here. Also, let's discuss and share our experiences with affirmations during overwhelming moments. All thoughts are welcomed.  ------------------------- Other posts in the SHA series:  SHA #3: Role of Acceptance & Validation [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/General_2451/SHA3RoleofAcceptanceValidation_325495/] SHA #2: "Safe Plan" for people with self-harm issue [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/InformationandResources_1079/SHA2SafePlanforpeoplewithselfharmissue_323303/] SHA #1: Do you think self-harm defines you?  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/General_2451/SHA1Doyouthinkselfharmdefinesyou_324983/]
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Relapsed...
by Blueeygirl44
Last post
 23 hours ago
...See more 4/5 years clean and just did it again im so disappointed in myself idk what to do
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it doesnt even work anymore
by mza24
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more it doesn't hurt anymore, it doesn't bleed enough for me, i dont know. maybe its because i dont have a very good tool for it but it used to be good enough for me. now i just keep doing it worse and more often bc its stopped being satisfying. i genuinely dont feel a thing when i do it now. its leading me to look for different tools and that will be bad if i find one.
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advice?
by intellectualClementine5000
Last post
 Saturday
...See more honestly im new to 7cups so im not too sure on how this works, but i want to ask, ive gotten into cutting myself over the psat month the last time i relapsed was jan 1 so clean for almost 2 weeks now, trying to stop before it gets worse but i feel the urge getting louder for this addiction any advice? will share any details if required
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Read thus if you are sensitive to certain triggers and are considering watching that Robbie Williams film, Better Man
by versatileSouth9497
Last post
 Saturday
...See more Hey, don't really know if this is really random or not, but i thought id post because I recently went to see this film, and I found that some scenes were relatively triggering (one in particular), and I thought some of you might want a heads up if you want to go see it. If you are considering watchintg Better Man in cinemas (like i just did, still a great film btw) there are a few things throughout that personality bothered me a bit and one scene un particular that messed with me, and I thought I'd let yall know so your not taken by surprised by it like I was. Also, evidently a big spoiler warning/TW because im going to list some things to look out for if your considering watching it xx Razor blades are used constantly throughout the film as an implement to do lines of cocaine with. They are not used to harm anyone in these scenes, and are not on screen for long, but still, if seeing razors bother you like they bother me, just a heads up. There is also a scene I wish I knew about before going to see this as I would have probably left for it. Essentially we see Robbie at the lowest point of his life, and there is an abrupt cut to him cutting his wrists with a razor blade in a suicide attempt. If you think this would bother you or be detrimental for you to see (as it is pretty graphic and abrupt), I would recommend leaving the screen for 5 ish minutes, at the "Let me entertain you" sequence at Knebworth, specificly when (this is gonna sound weird AF out of context) he jumps into the crowd and starts battling it out with the past monkeys. I'd say your last chance to skip that scene is when he stabs the kid version of himself, then leg it tf out of there if you would rather skip the scene. Despite that, I would still recommend the film, it's very good and the cg/performances are stunning, but i thought you deserved to know and not go in completely blind like me xxxxx
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just a space to keep track and stuff.
by LoveMyMoonflowers
Last post
 Friday
...See more hi,  i don't know why im making this post exactly but i wanted a space to track how many days ive been sh free. like just having all of it in one place if that makes sense. im not good at keeping track of it in my head im always real good at forgetting and stuff  and yeah thats it im not really sure what else to say…  i don’t mind replies but they're not necessary. ❤️ this space is mostly just for me to keep track of my sh free streaks. 
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Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 January 14th
...See more Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us. Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate:  * What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others. * What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made. * What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy. * Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead? Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 
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Things about self harm, my real pain
by convivialCoconut6517
Last post
 January 13th
...See more When people ask what the worst thing about self-harm is, they usually say; having to hide everything that has to do with it, Like what you used, what you cleaned with, that sheet of paper you wrote down about what you're going through. Or the burning in that damaged area, feeling your clothes sticking to it and rubbing against the marks. And yes, they are the worst. But something they rarely talk about is hiding your feelings from the people you love. Maybe not your parents, not your family. You may think you don't have any friends, but maybe they see you as a friend. But not they either, You don't love them enough to tell them, or that they will surely tell others or laugh at you. Do you know what real pain is for me? Hiding it from someone you really love, someone you should tell everything to. Someone you want to tell everything to, but you just can't. Someone, who a part of you says they will laugh, who will say that there are people who have "real reasons". And another part of you says that they would worry about you or blame themselves for it. Someone who would say to you, "why did you hide it from me?" In your case it could be your mother, your sister, a good friend. But what about your partner? "Why didn't you tell that person who is supposed to support you in everything? And that you should have told him from the beginning?" "If you didn't do it, it's because you don't love him enough." One thing about self harm is that when you cut/burn yourself or any variant, you start crying for having done it and for believing that it would make you feel better. So you say, next time I'll do it deeper and then I'll feel better, and so on to the next, and the next. But it doesn't work in any next time. So when you realize it, you do it for the sake of doing it, because you need to. And because you think it will work the next time, you don't tell him. "When I feel better it won't be necessary." And so on, until who knows what will happen. My real pain is seeing that the person you love the most sees that you are suffering alone, that you don't want help. And that you see that you are almost losing them, just for not telling them. And that's true for anyone you love, not necessarily your partner. Shut that thing down and realize there will never be a next time. Encouragement to whoever reads this
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It's very frustrating
by convivialCoconut6517
Last post
 January 10th
...See more The other day I was in a thrift store, and I had found some cute shorts for summer, but then I became conscious of my scars and that I couldn't wear them. I've never felt so helpless over a pair of pants And I also saw a very pretty dress but I can't wear it either. And it makes me very angry, even though they will be gone before summer arrives Thinking about trying it makes me nauseous And I hate seeing people saying just stop as if it were that easy
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by urari08
Last post
 January 10th
...See more did it about 25 times in past week:/
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a heart thau listens
by umeano
Last post
 January 10th
...See more hello, I'm Yana. Helping others has always been my passion, and I believe everyone deserves someone who will truly listen and understand them. I'm here to support, offer advice, or just be that person you can talk to. I'm also planning to study psychology to deepen my knowledge and ability to help others even more. You don't have to go through things alone-l'm here for you. Let's talk. 💗
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Trigger warning: Self harm
by intellectualZebra9433
Last post
 January 10th
...See more I've been clean for many months, but today I lost it, my university called in because I haven't paid the fees yet, I know my dad is struggling but I asked them not to and told them Ill join a less expensive college in another state, I understand they're concerned and all bs but they told me that if I leave they'll be bored or miss me, I feel guilty for feeling this way but WHY AM I BEING FORCED TO SACRIFICE MY MENTAL HEALTG AND CAREER so that they wont feel empty and when we have to pay the fees my dad keeps calling me how im burden to them all of this happened today on my 18th birthday Jan 7 like all of my friends had a perfect 18th bday here i am starving, loosing appetite and self harming myself i tried not doing it so much but i could not control
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did it again :/
by mza24
Last post
 January 8th
...See more id been over a year clean until october. slowly its been getting worse. i was 2 weeks clean until yesterday evening, and the urge is here again today. i thought i at least wouldnt return to the point of doing it/wanting to do it multiple days in a row... ive doodled all over my arms, that's helped a bit. holding on x 

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