Rough marriage, selfish inlaws
After getting married, everything has rapidly fallen apart. The grooms side constantly mentions how much debt they're in from the wedding (we were unaware they couldnt afford anything) i feel like a burden living with my in laws. Nosy sister in law. 4 months into marriage his mother gets diagnosed with stage 4 skin cancer. Since i have a car and speak fluent English, i full on became her translator, chaperone, and caretaker. Gradually every single day was either appointments, treatment or trips to A&E at night.
I found out i was pregnant in February last year, on Valentines day and still attended every single appointment along with my husband. Even during the risky treatments like her radiation and chemotherapy which could harm my unborn baby. The woman would never even close her mouth to cough or flush the toilet.
I couldn't complain even if i felt like complete ***. I've been pressured to go to long distant places and all sorts while being heavily PREGNANT. And his father blatantly lied to my dad on the phone and said they didnt travel.
The one time i didnt go, he told them i'm not going and i'll throw a tantrum after i mentioned privately that i felt dizzy and didnt feel safe driving. My husband was too much of a coward to ever even support me and say anything on my behalf. His sister and her kids would stay for weeks as the MIL was terminal and she lived farther away from her. My husbands whole mood would switch and he would jump to her every demand. One time i asked him for 2 weeks to help hand wash my clothes since the washing machine had broken. The minute she asked the one time, he leapt out of bed. It may not seem like a big deal but it broke my heart. At least he bought my ice cream right?
Luckily i didnt suffer from many typical pregnancy symptoms and they all took full advantage of that. I still recieved backlash from the sister in law for not doing this or that.
How much more can i do for a family that treat me like a stranger and never let me in on their family gossip/discussions? They were all waiting like predators for me to give birth so they can smother my baby with affection.
MIL's condition worsens and she ends up passing away after a painful few weeks. She passed a day before my son was born and i know i shouldn't think this but i know for certain my son's birth was affected by all of this and that's why his centile suddenly dropped in my third semester and i had to be induced and then an emergency c section.
I STILL *** WADDLED to her ward (same hospital) as she was given a few days while being induced on dilapan.
I have been robbed of everything, i have no identity, i feel like a waste of space and a burden. MIL was the breadwinner as FIL was in and out of work practically every month, she then had financial help from the governemnt which they all lived off and now they want to live off the financial help i get from being on maternity leave and having a baby.
Landlord wants his house back and we will be deemed homeless and my FIL still expects to live with us if we do ever get a house from the council. MIL is gone, why should i live with this man? SIL feeds him all sorts of *** about me now that MIL is gone and i feel uncomfortable around this man. NONE of them have ever respected my privacy and will walk in no matter what i'm doing in my room. FIL is a cheapskate who wants to sell all my wedding furniture now because we wont have a house and will be moved to temp accomodation. I had too much pride to ever accept any benefits but now i'm paying their rent since MIL passed. Today he mentioned using the money to pay his sons wedding debt. SURELY if they couldnt afford anything they should have informed my parents. Why should i feel burdened?
I hate this culture and i hate how they are draining every aspect of my life.