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Lonely a d depressed-trying to get better

diligentDay1980 October 11th, 2021

Hi, I am a new member. I found this program after desperately seeking some sort of answers on Google to help with my depression. My husband recently went to jail for a DUI and left me to handle our small business. It is an incredible amount of stress to not have much support during this time. Although I am thankful for the break from him as his drinking problem is progressing to abuse. I hope to take this time to rebuild myself to be strong enough to do what I need to do to make sure I am okay.


Thanks for reading!

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PoisonCupcakes October 11th, 2021

@diligentDay1980 Welcome, I hope using 7cups for supportive resources regarding depression is a useful venture. That sounds like an incredibly stressful and difficult situation to be in, I can imagine you're very worried about him and also trying your best to balance things out with the business. I hope you can find support here and continue aiming to rebuild yourself and healing. I'm really proud of you for trying and making the best of a hard situation. You seem very self aware and I trust that things can improve better than you may expect eventually.

Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share your story.

diligentDay1980 OP October 11th, 2021

Thank you for the kind response @poisioncupcake.


The saying "one day at a time" is reality for me these days. Some days I am doing good just to get out of bed to make something to eat and feed my dogs. Other days are much more productive leaving me feeling with some sort of worth. I get through the days by setting small goals for myself. It might be something as small as taking shower or running invoices or paying a bill. If I can get those things done, then I reward myself. I have to littlerally bribe myself to function on bad days.


I am thankful that I have found 7 Cups. I plan on starting to work with a therapist soon. I really want to make the most of the time away from my husband, but I think fear is making me procrastinate signing up. I am so afraid of being alone, that I have sacrificed myself and have endured abuse. Moving forward and getting healthy again might mean that I have to do it alone and end a 10 year marriage. I am terrified that I will change and be stronger while he is stuck in his addiction to alcohol. Fear of the unknown!


HarleyQuinn333 October 11th, 2021

@diligentDay1980

Hey, I hope you turn out to be okay.


If you don't mind me asking, what kind of abuse was he resorting to?