where do i go from here
Hey i am new here and a new single dad my wife decided to end the marriage just before christmas and she was in the arms of another man by the 26th i am at a loss for words. to be frank i lost everything in the marriage my self worth my dignity i am a shell of the man i use to be. i bent over back words and sacrificed everything for this women just to be dropped like a rock and nothing mattered she never said there was anything wrong ever but then comes to me saying shes unhappy and wont give me a reason why just ends it. i got custody of our daughter obviously so she can run around like a teenager again because i found out by my daughter wanting to call her and her ignoring the calls all day up until about bedtime so i am kinda glad she let e take her because she is the one thing keeping me from breaking completely but ive come to the conclusion it is what iit is and i should have really listened to her sister when she tried to warn me when we first started dating but i was love struck and her sister just went through a *** break up so i thought she just didn't want to see her sister happy but she took her ex baby daddies side and now that ive dealt with this it all makes sense she was either having an affair with me or she left him and started seeing me which i will believe it because of how shes acting now
but my question is what the heck do i do now i am lost....
Hi DD88. I’m a total newbie to 7 cups, and I don’t claim any special wisdom but I just wanted to say I hear you and I sympathize. I know this doesn’t change anything or lessen your pain but remember that someone else’s bad behavior and poor decision making is not your fault.
@devastatedDad88 I'm so sorry for what you have gone through. As a listener on 7 Cups, I don't give advice, but if you need advice, maybe you can visit the Expert Mental Health News & Advice at: https://www.7cups.com/experts/
The link for crisis support is https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/articles/360026238093-Crisis
(should you want to discover/look around)
@devastatedDad88
You are NOT alone!!
I'm shedding tears for you because I understand everything you're feeling and it pains me to know that someone else is going through this as well — I'm going through almost exactly the same thing right now (12 years, found out right before thanksgiving that he "met someone").
I want to emphasis that "You are NOT alone" because I'm here and I know others in this forum are as well.
If you ever want to chat I am more than happy to be here for you: to listen, to support, or even just to commiserate together.
Celebrate life ! You have a fresh new opportunity to start all over again ! Go live life and hopefully this time you’ll find someone who loves you for you and who appreciates your love ❤️! And remember, you’re not lost , just abit blurry…the tracks are right infront of you … go on … run on it with open arms and don’t look back 😉
Hey DD88,
I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through such a hard time especially during the holidays. I have gone through something similar 6 years ago (Single dad of 12 year old son) and am happy to share some ideas that worked for me. You should know that there's definitely light at the end of this tunnel and it's going to take one step at a time to get there.
@devastatedDad88
You say you are lost, You are lost because you were so consumed in your wife you forgot who you were/Are. One thing I have learned is in order to love someone you have to first love who you are. Who are you? Do you know, do you have your own identity separate from being "her" husband, or your child's/children's father? What I would suggest is to focus on you, here and now. and the things that make you happy. What makes you happy? What do you want to do? Is there something you have given up that you would like to do (hobbies, etc.)? Do some soul searching, stop and smell the roses. Take time for you.
I am really sorry for all of this
it's just shocking and sad .. nobody deserves this
but I would say u r a great person to take care of ur child please I am here if u need to talk about it
@devastatedDad88
I am inviting you to the Sharing Circle chat room where you can share with other members
of 7Cups.com ! 😊
@devastatedDad88
I am inviting you to the Sharing Circle chat room !
Here are the steps to find the Sharing Circle chat room
I am using the laptop version of 7Cups.com :
In the upper left hand corner of the 7Cups window :
1) 'Chat'
2) 'Group Chat Support'
3) 'Groups' tab
4) 'Sharing Circle'