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my listener stoped taling to me

TeaGreenTea12 April 14th, 2023

i was chatting with a listener she stopped the conversation and im very down but it frels like this site is almost a date site where u need to wait till the right "listener" comes to you if u need it. im sad and alone

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Sunrise110 April 14th, 2023

Hi, have you tried ‘browsing’ for a listener? That way you can read bios, see when they were last active and find someone that might specifically suit your needs.

adri6363 April 14th, 2023

I agree I find the right listeners sometimes hard to I haven’t been able to connect with any listeners yet

sympatheticOrange8782 April 14th, 2023

Hi, I also had similar issues with having different listeners and mostly they stop chatting or don't really help rather criticize. Therefore I signed up for the therapy although it is not very cheap and have a single counselor and write a few times during the day.

NickyYayUwU April 14th, 2023

Aww damn, I'm sorry for you :(

I suggest you to look for a new good listener, and who knows, maybe the new listener you will find will be waaayy friendly than the previous one!!! ❤️❤️❤️🥺🥺

TeaGreenTea12 OP April 14th, 2023

becuz it seems almost like a dating app where u need to find the perfect match listener and it shouldnt be hard to get emptional support when u need it at the moment which is sad

compassionateOak202 April 15th, 2023

i'm sorry to hear that! I also had difficulty finding the right listener when I came back here to 7cups about 2 weeks ago. I think it's really hard to even find one who are available at certain timeframes.

Nvlmi April 15th, 2023

@TeaGreenTea12

I'm sorry you went through this experience. Coming to 7 Cups with the hope of a listening ear and support only to encounter a dropped or abruptly cut off conversation isn't helpful.

Is it possible there might have been tech issues on the app or network at the time or the listener was inundated with messages or occupied as well? Is it also possible the conversation might have been on a topic the listener was not experienced in or unable to support? Just a few things to possibly consider, but the only one who knows further is the listener.

If possible, It's more professional and considerate to let the member know if that is the case and to check back if allowed, or to schedule another time to talk, or to refer the listener etc.

As a trained listener also, I have additionally encountered a number of members go to the queue and when answered do not respond or leave with no notice.

You can decide to find a listener you might align with more in values or approach or seek out paid therapy on the app as well.

There are pluses and minuses to the app and in various aspects. There are also some good and great listeners as well as the ones less skilled or needing further training in cases. Please keep an open mind and gear toward areas or listeners and more that may work better for you.

All the best on your 7 Cups journey!



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TeaGreenTea12 OP April 17th, 2023

you act like im stupid with technology. i know how an iphone works. the perso dropped me when i was going through horribe depression ans thats so rude like someone ghjsotint u on a date app

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bear772 April 17th, 2023

same

bestCranberry7426 April 17th, 2023

Having used 7Cups in the past off and on for the last 6 years, it used to be you could find a listener and you would be able to have a meaningful dialogue rather easily. I would say that was the case even as early as two years ago. Now it seems like a lot of the listeners on here aren’t really here to listen. I was actually pretty shocked at how many will just ghost the conversation or will just give one word answers if they feel your issue is uninteresting to them. Sad that this place has changed so much.