Newbie
Hello everyone,
I am new here, I don’t know how to be vulnerable with people and I think it’s affecting building and maintaining relationships. This sometimes makes me feel all alone.
@goldencrane
that's all completely understandable. you're in the right place to get support. welcome to 7 Cups!
@goldencrane
Hey, welcome! Opening up is never easy, but it’s great that you’re taking steps to talk about it. Welcome to 7 Cups!
@goldencrane
Hi! Nice to meet you! :)
Hru?
Only tell people what you feel comfortable talking about and the people you feel comfortable with.
I have this situation as well and I think it’s sometimes natural based on the way I have experienced life in adulthood. Vulnerability in front of others can be a healthy experience if the environment is safe and supportive. Also, if you know somehow that others won’t harm you. However, vulnerability in front of people who may not fit into these areas could impact a person negatively. A lot is spoken about vulnerability for people who’ve experienced traumatic experiences for instance, but maybe it just isn’t safe for people to show it unless the conditions are right. It’s a sign of strength and growth too that you are the way you are. People who truly understand overcoming emotional adversity or traumatic events for instance understand how difficult of a topic vulnerability is. On the one hand, people want to be close and feel human with one another and on the other people don’t want to be hurt and naturally avoid pain or memories that recall discomfort. It sounds like you have a desire to be vulnerable and maybe you just need to be around the right people who accept you as you are or are most willing to see you as a person rather than someone who lacks something compared to others. I hope others around you start seeing the connection you desire. If you decide to make changes too maybe others could see that. Sometimes people really desire to change their mindset and it seems like you can identify what you think may be affecting you. Good luck and I hope others begin to notice how much you have to add to this world!
@goldencrane Hi Crane, welcome to 7 Cups! It takes courage to admit that you're struggling with vulnerability. We're here to help.
@goldencrane
Sharing this takes courage, we're glad that you're here :) welcome to 7 Cups!
