was it abuse?
ok so this has been bothering me for awhile and i am wondering... so there was this guy that i had really liked and we were friends. he was kinda a bad boy so it was very secret. we were hanging out one time and we kissed... and it escalated. i really wanted him to like me so i let him touch me and do things.i didnt want him to at all and i was very uncomfortable so i let him do it thinking that maybe if i did it he would like me. i almsot lost my virginity to him but i didnt. fast forward 4 months and now i cant even speak to him anymore, i get scared. was it actually abuse, he thought i was ok with it when i wasnt. i let him do it when it made me severly uncomfortable.
Unfortunately because you never told him to stop i dont think this could "officially" be labeled as abuse (according to the dumb rules of society) BUT what happend is still very wrong! This guy should have asked you for permission to touch you and if you were alright with him touching you. I know that it was a tricky situation because you were afraid he wouldnt like you if you said no, but you shouldnt want to be with someone who doesnt respect you in the first place. I'm really sorry that you feel this way and i know that the experience was very scarring for you. I would advise that you seek someone to talk to about it whether it be someone from this website or a friend or relative or authority figure in your life (: