dealing with rape

Hello I went through the same thing... And I am sorry to tell you it will never go away. I was raped by my dad. I hate him. How I stopped thinking about it is I got into different things. Let's say you were in volleyball. Just change to something else. You are a different person. Find other interests. Don't let him scare you anymore. It isn't worth it.He isn't worth it.

My opinion might not mean much as someone who has never been raped. However, I believe in a traumatic experience there should an allowance for grieving. So know that your feelings are valid. And you aren't letting anyone win by acknowledging that it was a hurtful experience, which it doesn't take a stretch of the imagination to think it was. So let your feelings run their course. But know you have support, if not where you want it then where you least expect- like an online community- and that it doesn't make you weaker than the rapist for you to be hung over it while he is seemingly unperturbedby what happened.

Why is such an evil person free and still living near you? Why is anyone that does things like this free to roam around in public?

I was sexually harassed and the police did NOTHING about it, I still see my harasser almost every day He looks at the younger children in the area

One day, all of these evil people, along with ALL of the ones, who allowed these people to walk free, whom are just as guilty, in my opinion, will one day have to answer for these things they did. Whether they believe it or not, they will have to answer to the One who created them. None of us are perfect, but we also didnt ask for these types of things to be done to us.

The police have been pretty good but they cant do much until i give the full statement. I started to do a video statement but it was so difficult having to go through every little disgusting detail of what he did to me. Telling a complete stranger and knowing there was another officer watching on camera was too much, i was physically sick having to go through it. It was like it was happening all over again. I hope at some point i will feel strong enough to go back and try again-which they said i can do whenever i want to. I just wish i felt physically able to do it as i do not want him getting away with it. The awful thing is there is such a low percentage of people who get found not guilty even though they really are. I hate the fact he can walk around thinking he's got away with it but at some point, when i feel strong enough, i will go back and tell the police exactly what he did to me. I really hope he will eventually get what he deserves but if not at least he knows what he did was not ok. I just wish there was a way of keeping him away from me until i do my statement but i dont think there is until i tell them everything. So im still on edge everyday knowing i could bump imto him or he could walk past my house-which he has done as he knows where i live. The worst bit is feeling so unsafe in my own home, i dont know how i can get past that

@versatilePal31, is there any family member that could go with you that might be able to make you feel comfortable doing this? If I lived near you, I would go with you myself. I dont believe he would mess with you then. I am really sorry that you have to live through all this. I am going to say a prayer that you can rid your mind of this, as much as you can. Nobody should have to live like this.

A prayer would be good-thankyou. Id do anything to help try and reduce this. It hurts so much

Has anyone else been raped and not pressed charges? I know if someone pressed charges on him he would never have gotten to me. And the guilt and the shame of me not pressing charges eats me every day. But I just cant do it. I dont blame the other girls for not pressing charges. But what if there's a girl out there right now hating me for it.

Please dont put that guilt onto me for not pressing charges yet. It plays on my mind everyday and eats me up but if he had done it to someone before me and they hadnt gone to the police i would in no way blame them. Its his responsibility not to rape, it cant be mine. If i go through the whole court case and got found guilty he could go and do it again would that be down to me too?