Sexual abuse (assault?) aged 5-14
Hi. I'm new here. Call me Rem. I thought that maybe I could share my story so far?
when I was 5, my parents hired a Molvi. A Molvi is basically the Islamic version of a priest. He'd memorised the holy Quran and was hired to teach me and my sisters the same.
he was a pedophile. Not that I'd known at the time. He would touch me...every where. I can't think of a single part of my body he hadn't touched at one point or another, over or under my clothes. It had always made me uncomfortable, but I'd been raised to listen to adults without question, so I never brought it up. Until I was 10, on occasion he'd make me touch his p*nis as well.
this molesting continued till I was 12, when I'd found out my older sister had to deal with that as well, though by that time she'd quit since she'd already finished it. I had no such luck. I tried to keep him away after that but he was very insistent. He never r**** me though. I don't have it as bad as many others here. It continued again till I was 14. At that time I'd found out that not only was I a victim of his, by so was my little sister. For about a week I took the brunt of the damage for her, until I'd had enough. I grabbed his arm and twisted it till he swore he'd never lay eyes on her again, and we told our mom about all of it right after. He got fired. As of next month, that will have been 2 years ago. As of next month, it will have been 3 months since he died of a heart attack
@warmheartedbranch9093
Hello Rem !
My name is Marcelo, I am a Listener.
Your story moved me deeply.
You endured all that abuse for a decade, but eventually had the courage to put an end to it, and protect wour little sister.
Even against absurd traditional rules and cultural norms of passive obedience to adults.
Particularly, the obedience to a religious and spiritual guide, that was supposed to uphold and instill the highest ethical standards, and feelings of love and compassion.
Now you have the courage to share your story and dennounce an appaling, generalized situation in your region.
Next October 11 will be the International Day of the Girl Child, instituted by the United Nations to honour girls like you, and promote stopping aberrant practices that are carried out against girls, under the cover of "cultural traditions".
https://www.un.org/en/observances/girl-child-day
I am crying now, thinking how you and your sisters suffered, and of all the massive suffering done by these generalized inhumane practices, embedded in the way of life of large communities in our world, that protect cruel men that attack and injure the souls of good, innocent girls.
I admire you. I feel like you are my sister. We are all brothers and sisters in this world. We owe respect, love and compassion to each other.
Cruelty must be extirpated. No cultural or traditional covers can be tolerated. From the Catholic Church, that only recently is addressing its massive practice of pedophilia by priests, to cases like you dennounce in Muslim countries.
As a Listener here, I offer you all the help I could give you. You can reach me and message me here: https://www.7cups.com/@WelcomeToChat
I can point you to useful healing resources in this 7Cups website, and reference you to other Listeners more specialized than I am in dealing with your trauma.
In any case, I remain at your disposal till the end of time.
All my love to you.
I wish you the best.
Marcelo
@WelcomeToChat thank you, so much. I didn't think I'd get such a response on this post. But this means a lot to me
@warmheartedbranch9093
Rem:
Thank you for your kind words !
I admire you and wish you all the best in your life.
I hope that during your time here at 7Cups, you take full advantage of all the healing tools 7Cups offers, and that these add peace and wellbeing to your life.
And that you continue to get involved as an active participant in this Community.
Because you have so much of value to offer all of us !
I remain forever at your disposal,
Marcelo.
