Can someone relate( wanting to feel less alone)
I just have a question, is it okay to forget the faces of perpetrators?
I was with them for around 1 hour, saw the faces of all 4, but all I remember is useless details of their footwear, lockets, their comments, voices, etc... I was in full senses when they were rap* me
I have no names and no faces to even tell anyone...some ask if this was not a dream and it hurts immensely. I was 19 so not even small to forget...it has been around 2 years and I am crying because of people who I don't even remember...Please help...
@energeticThinker3129
Hi there. I will admit, I can relate to that. Remembering everything about the experience except the faces. I know how tuff it can be. If you ever want to talk about it here, just tag me and I'm happy to help however I can.
All the best,
Shapeshift (MJ if you prefer) ❤️
@energeticThinker
Your not alone in your suffering. I think certain things are forgotten because it's your minds way of protecting you. You endured incredible trauma and your protection mode has kicked in. Just be sure to take care of you. Your an incredibly strong survivor .
I hope your seeking professional therapy. It is the number one thing that's helped me. 7 cups is a great safe place to seek support too.
Your going to be ok just keep connected to supporters .
Your a beautiful person in case you need reminding.
Best 💜 ABB
@energeticThinker3129 I have details and faces that I don' remember also. That doesn't make it a dream if our memories are have parts missing. It can be very painful when someone doubts what you are saying. Come around here any time you need to talk. There are 1 to 1 listeners available also. I agree with what was said about you being a beautiful person.
@energeticThinker3129
I'm thinking about you energetic and I wondered if some self-help type books might help you. I have tons of them, I read alot and I'm always looking for answers on how I can find happiness after so much trauma. I know I have to find it inside myself. But first I have to love myself. I've learned so much through these books. I am struggling too with alot, and wanted you to know your not alone. Best ABB 💜
@amiableBlackberry92
Somehow I am not getting notifications properly...sorry for late response💜
Amiable it's so caring of you to keep me in your thoughts, I cannot imagine how much trauma you have endured and fought to be able to come to this level of understanding, but I can feel the pain doesn't completely ends and that it's not easy at all...
I have read few books of Brene Brown and about to read Body Keeps the Score, you seem to be a book lover😊 I would love to hear some book suggestions from you❤ and sending you safe, comforting, caring beams, ABB💜
@energeticThinker3129
I understand navigating here can be tough sometimes. No worries.
I enjoy reading Brene Brown she's so inspiring. The body keeps the score is a good guide on how trauma affects you.
I really enjoy Don Miguel Ruiz and his son Don Jr. books. I find I go back and re read them alot.
Their style is different but I find they help me the most. Here's a few titles;
The four agreements.
The seven secrets to happy healthy relationships.
The Mastery of love.
The Five attachments.
The Mastery of Self.
The power of now by Eckhart Tolle
Thich Nhat Hanh books on Buddhism really helped my sister . She said they helped her stay in the moment we are in , and breathing, and yoga practices. ( I have 3 siblings who suffered too)
The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer was great too.
I think for everyone different authors help in different ways, just finding the right ones and using what they write to help you is great discovery as you read along.
Reading and sleeping seem to be the places I find peace the most now. 3 years ago after a sunami of new traumas to add to my old childhood trauma just breathing was absolutely excruciating. Every step I took hurt....I don't trust ppl after so much that I really don't go far. Ppl scare me. I'm trying to find a way to live again. I'm in my own bubble at home where it's safe.
Maybe I'll be able to get to a place where I can enjoy life and it will be for the first time because I have not been able to enjoy anything. When all you recognize is bad ppl you don't attract the good ppl. I'm trying to change this. Trying so hard to find self worth. That's the trick loving and believing in yourself. It takes work.
I'm here and around alot if you need an ear. I hope your feeling less alone here on 7 cups. It's a good place.....Best 💜 ABB
@amiableBlackberry92
ABB hello💜 I am also keeping myself in a safe place at my home so can feel you on that, it's difficult and I am really sorry that your siblings had to suffer too...I wish you all the luck in this journey of yours to finding trust and enjoying life, you have come really far❤ and for the way forward, you will find my support in whichever ways I can❤ It's not easy to see the world through a good lens again but you deserve so much happiness and so many good things which you will for sure find one day❤
These suggestions look really good I will look them up😊 Yes I feel less alone here 💞 and exploring the place💙
@ShapeshiftSystem @amiableBlackberry92 @adventurousBranch3786
Thank you for making me feel less alone, you all are so brave and kind, thank you so much❤
@energeticThinker3129
Of course, Energetic! As are you ❤️❤️❤️
@energeticThinker3129
you aren't alone. i don't remember the faces of some of my abusers. i remember how their touch felt and i remember their "presence" idk if that makes sense? but i don't remember some of the faces
im really sorry that they hurt you in a very vile way. you never deserved any of it and its not your fault. you are amazingly brave and wish good things for you 💓
@clare7199
Thank you for replying, Clare, thank you for being so brave in letting me know that I am not alone❤ What you said makes complete sense to me and I can feel how terrible the entire thing might have been and how toughit might be to deal with...
I am very sorry Clare you had to face abuse at the same time you speaking about it and lending support shows how brave you too are❤ I am also wishing you all the good things💕
I dont remember the faces either. What I remember most vividly is the smell. Other than that it's just flashes , like a camera being moved around too quickly, jumpy and disjointed. The next day I pretended it never happened. This was over 30 years ago and I've never told anyone.
In a way I can recognize how far society has come since then, but at the same time I also wonder how can it be possible that we have barely touched the surface since then.
@lovingDrum8823
Thank you for letting me know I am not alone, loving❤ I too remember some smells and society * at so many things. And I too pretended that it didn't happen for 2-3 months actually. It can be really hard to talk about what you have gone through and it's not a compulsion too just in case you want to share and feel it might help you or others, please do at your comfort. Your story matters❤ Thank you again and best wishes💙
Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm trying to get to a place in my head where I can open up more.
@energeticThinker3129
That's how it was for me too. I saw their faces (three) but all I remember is the lead guy's jawline. I remember their sweatshirts, their shoes, but not their faces. You are absolutely not alone in this.