Another Sexual Assault, Scared
I have been sexually assaulted in the past and have been to therapy which has helped a lot but I recently found out new information. My boyfriend recently told me that one guy I used to be friends with assaulted me. I was skeptical at first because I had no recollection of this but the guy that did it has been messaging my boyfriend and threatening to assault me again if he doesn't get money from my boyfriend because he knows where I live even after me moving. My boyfriend told me that the guy drugged me, took pictures of me and took a video of him assaulting me and he even sent it to my boyfriend as proof. My boyfriend confirmed that it was me. I don't know what to think because this is completely new to me and I haven't been able to cope with it because since my boyfriend knew about it first, it was kinda just brushed aside when I found out. My boyfriend did contact the police and told them everything but I still feel numb. I'm paranoid about the guy knowing where I live and I feel like I worked so hard to cope with my past assaults for nothing because I'm starting all over again. I also feel very hurt because I thought the guy that did it was my friend and I even opened up to him about my past traumas and he comforted me. I don't know if I can trust anyone anymore.
Hi there, Lunar! I’m so so sorry to hear about what this guy did to you. What he did was terrible and he completely betrayed your trust. Your boyfriend should also not have brushed off your pain, because it’s completely valid. It’s completely understandable that you feel so horrible now because of what happened, I know I would have reacted the same way.
I know it feels like all of your hard work has gone to waste because of how this person hurt you, but that doesn’t have to be true. You put in so much effort into recovering from your trauma, and this will take effort to process too, but you’ve definitely made progress. You can’t choose what other people do, so it’s ok to let go of the awful choices that others have made to hurt you, and instead focus on the things you can do to get better and keep going.
Here are a couple of self-help guides that you might find useful:
Traumatic experiences: https://www.7cups.com/traumatic-experience-help/
Surviving domestic assault: https://www.7cups.com/domestic-assault-survivor/
Alternatively, you can try connecting with a trained active listener to talk about what happened and how it affected you. This community is here to help you, do let us know if there’s any other way we support you 
