After effect of sexual abuse and rape

Hey hope u get oversoon lemme know how can I help

You will heal. Give it time. The blame doesn't lie with you. Free yourself of all shame. Try focusing on being happy for who you are and engage in anything that makes you feel interested. I've been a victim of things you mention and I understand how it feels like a nightmare. It took me a couple of years to heal. What I did was vent a lot (in my diaries and to some people including listeners on this app), pray and listen to music. I feel healed now. I want to send strength your way. You can come out of this. Also you are really brave to share your story here. Already a step closer to freedom from the pain. ❤️

Whatever Gets You Through: Twelve Survivors on Life after Sexual Assault: Sookfong Lee, Jen, Fowles, Stacey May: 9781771643733: Books - Amazon.ca

A tough read. But what can you expect?

@Little9498

Hello, dear one.

I am glad that you found this website. This is a great place to be able to vent and tell your story. Here you will find people who have experienced what you are going through, including myself. Rape is a horrible offense. That carries a lot of after-mass effects with it.

I so can relate to the nightmares and the fear that comes alongside them. Healing takes different forms for each of us, but one of the main things that I found that help is to tell your story as often as you can. In doing so the secrets can no longer hold you captive to the silence that causes us to struggle even the more because the brain can not deal with or place it where it needs to be filed so it remembers and keeps it in the forefront of your mind as a means to keep us alert and on guard even when the danger is no longer a threat. The brain has to be able to process this so it can be filed away.

I am no expert by no means but I have been struggling with my own healing and it takes real work.

Do you Journal? If not start one that helps too. We have Trauma support Listeners that would be glad to help. Make sure they are the Trauma Listeners because everyone does not know how to talk on certain subjects. I wish you the best on your journey, and hope to see you around.

@Little9498 Hi there. I went through a similar experience, and I'm so sorry you're still feeling the effects so strongly. I was 12 at the time, and my parents wouldn't let me see a counselor for cultural and misguided reasons. I went 10 years before I sought professional help, but by then, the PTSD had affected so many parts of my brain that it took forever to treat.

I hope you can find qualified therapists to help you. Listeners are great, but trauma rewires our brain, and it's very hard for us to get it back on track because we can't see what's going on in there.

In the meantime, continue talking about it. Different people have so many perspectives to offer.

I don't know you, but I know the pain and the terror. You will get through this. You are strong enough to open up about it, and you are strong enough to come out of it more powerful than before, like iron forged in fire.