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be careful with your words people with trauma

itdobelikethatsometimes June 26th, 2020

hey, i hope you're all doing well.

so i was scrolling through instagram today and i came across this tik tok reposted about defamation of character or violation of personal pictures i don't know what to name it without upsetting anyone.

and it's a post about getting taken advantaged of, getting abused and violated so of course people with the same experience could come across this post and relate to it, there were a lot in the comment section.

but there were also people with no sense of compassion or respect there too, it'd be weird if there weren't any cause it's instagram.

there were leaving comments like "well maybe you shouldn't have shared the pic in the first place!" "jut don't share it! problem solved" and as an traumatic person myself, someone who has been abused before to say that reading those comments made my blood boil is to say the least.

when coming across sensitive subjects such as this one don't say anything if you don't have anything useful or nice to say, you can't imagine what words do to people with traumatic experiences.

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delightfulUnicorn38 June 26th, 2020

@itdobelikethatsometimes

totally agree with you

thank you for this post

bouncySalamander26 June 27th, 2020

@itdobelikethatsometimes

That's a very important point, sometimes!
We do have people, who believe that the blame for a particular crime lies on the victim, and that the victim must have done something to trigger what they faced. A consequence of that is-we end up questioning the victim's acts, more than the perpetrator's. Amidst all this, respect for the person's emotional well-being is lost...

We have nothing to lose in being a little more mindful-and applying a little more thought in what we comment/how we respond. It will be that tiny difference in thoughtfulness that will make the victim feel so much more supported.

Thank you for sharing, sometimes-and this is a post for all of us to keep in mind as we interact with people!Purple heart