PoSai le abuse, how to cope?
I have many reasons to believe that I was abused at something during my life but I don't know for sure. I am afraid of men and cannot be touched, even a hand on my shoulder, among other reasons. But how do I get passed this? How do I know one way or the other? How do I accept it's even a possibility?
@user2222
Hey there, thank you so much for having the confidence to share what you're going through. Disclosing our innermost thoughts is not at all easy, let alone when you're worrying that you might have been abused. The first step towards overcoming a fear is always to talk about it, to drag it out into the open and consider it from all sides, and to ask if it's a possibility is to begin to accept. Trust me, you will get there.
In terms of feeling uncomfortable, that can happen for a large variety of reasons, one of which is past abuse. It's a recognised phenomenon that repressed memories can only come out in later life, and if this is what's happening to you, it's really important to find a safe space where you can start to open up about it, a trained professional if that's possible.
Above all, remember that wanting to change is two thirds of the battle, and it's clear to me how much you want to be able to change the way that you interact with others, and I believe that you can change.
Wishing you all the luck and happiness possible,
Lyra
