I'm scared
TW: Aggression ? Ig
I said something snarky to my dad the other day, he had been rude to my mom and I felt like he should apologise. I texted something kinda rude and snarky.
Flash forward and he gets home from work. Slamming doors and throwing stuff. He throws open my door and starts screaming at me. He, scared the shit out of me. He keeps saying "get up get up" and I get out of my bed and I take like 3 steps towards him.
All the while he is screaming "you wanna be a man right?" (I'm a trans guy) He rushes toward me,a shoving me back, he knocks me down. I am using my feet to back myself up. Somehow in the middle of this, he slams my head into the metal part of the desk. He storms out.
He is talking to my mom, he says "you get her before I *naughty word* kill her" my mom is talking. She is telling me to go to the car. I am jogging across the grass and I can hear him inside say "where you running too?" My mom is driving my brother is talking. I'm shaking.
This happened Sunday, it's Tuesday and he never apologized. In fact, I ended up apologising. I don't know for what, or why. I just remember my mom defending him.
I'm still kinda scared he's gonna bust in my room and literally kill me or something.
I'm scared.
@LostGirl2002
You are the victom of domestic violence. Your dad has commited a criminal offence and if you dont go in person to report this, he will never get the help that he needs. You are the victom. You did nothing wrong at all. Your a victom and he broke the law and your trust. Your mom is guilty of this by looking away because she is afraid.
I am 18 in a little over 4 months, He apologized, he had a lot of stuff going on. I pushed him when he was already on edge. It was my fault. My head is fine. I'll be fine. I should've kept my mouth shut.
@LonelyMarki You were scared for your safety in the original post. It's alright to talk about that.
@LonelyMarkii
I don't really think it's your fault. People don't beat up others when they're angry, especially if the other person is just 18 and they're fully grown adults. It's not you having to adapt to his temper. Problem's his. What he did put you at high risk for your life and it's NOT normal.
You have all the right to be traumatized by such a situation, and that IS abuse. I'm sorry your mother doesn't seem to realize. Also, you don't "want to be a man", you ARE a man.
@LonelyMarki
I understand that you may think you should have kept your mouth shut (and that may be true, we all get snarky sometimes) it is never, never okay for someone to physically attack you. Never. And it is never your fault if someone does physically attack you. Never. And you're not faking, you're not being overly sensitive. You're in a complicated situation. I hope that your dad can get the help that he needs, that your family can get the help that it needs, so that you can all move forward in a healthy way. Hugs to you!!
Thats is domestic abuse. For whatever reason it is still abuse.
I m here for you, okay?
@xXrestlessXXweird0Xx
I don't know, my Dad is cool sometimes but other times he scares me. I dont know what im supposed to belive.
My mom gets mad when I express dislike for him bc I'm "hurting his feelings"
He hurt my feelings. And my head. And my brain.
She gets mad when I get her gifts and not him, it makes him upset.
I don't care? But she is persistent that I need to be nice to him because he loves me. But I'm starting to wonder if he really does love me.
@LonelyMarki
I see...
Then she