How to help a male who lives with an abusive partner?
Hey! I have a friend about whom I am worried about. I am almost certain his girlfriend is abusive because she also abuses emotionally other people; me and my friends just had a serious fight with her about her emotionally abusing us. The girl herself just denies she has done something wrong. But I am terrified to think what her partner who is also a good friend of mine experiences since he lives with her.
But there is so little information about men being abused and he doesn't talk about his feelings like never, therefore I have no idea how to approach or help him. What should I do? Or where will I find good information about this?
I'll describe her girlfriend. She is terribly manipulative and constantly telling how ill she is and reacts to criticism like something unbearable for her due to her bad physical and mental health. Meanwhile she attacks people passiveaggresively and she has admitted hitting the guy. But I mostly vote for emotional abuse. She does seem to be convinced that their relationship problems are all his fault and he is an asshole (although he clearly isn't and she is). Sometimes she's nice too like an abuser is, I suppose, and publicly always kissing and hugging him.
She lives in his apartment and on his money, but I suppose that may be even making things worse for him, doesn't it? Like if he casts her out, she wouldn't have almost nowhere to go except for her mum's whom she claims not loving her although the woman is willing to give her last money to her daughter etc. It also seems, whenever their problems intensify she gets 'sicker and sicker'. (I say seems, because I don't live with them and don't know for sure but the patterns are quite certain).
I told the guy if he wants to talk he is welcome. But he just said "thank you" and nothing more.