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Emotional abuse and Narcissim

Riverview208 July 19th, 2022

Realizing after 10 years together that my husband is a Narcissit and has been emotionally abusive to me. Yet I still love him. This all just sucks but I KNOW that I don't want to live the rest of my life like this.

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magicalOcean594 July 19th, 2022

@Riverview208

wow Riverview that hit home. i am emotionally going through the same thing after 6 years. out of nowhere he just became this MONSTER. its not fair anymore.. to me or my children, and it took a lot for me to say ok that's enough, and i still struggle with loneliness sometimes but i know that i and my children do not deserve it, and i really hope someday you find the strength to figure out what's best for you and take action, I'm glad you are realizing and i feel that is the first step to getting out of such a bad domestic violence situation, i feel all the emotional abuse this man caused me has hurt me so badly, and i know now that I'm strong enough to not take the abuse he causes such as when im telling him he needs to leave for good that he plays victim, i had to get that out of my head or i would have never left.. i cant feel bad anymore.. i don't want to live the rest of my life like this...

goodluck<3 i am rooting for you

movingonwithmylife2022 July 23rd, 2022

I just left my abusive boyfriend. We were together 11 years. I have no idea why I stayed so long. I left and I am still afraid. I worry that if he finds me I will go back. It is amazing to me how I am so weak when it comes to him. I still love him but I couldn't do it anymore. I cried daily. He told me that I was crazy and that I was the liar. He had me so lost that I really thought I was the problem! They are so good at doing what they do.

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magicalOcean594 July 23rd, 2022

@movingonwithmylife2022

i hate him and than im my heart im so empathetic but i had to learn to see through the manipulation or i would have never moved on. I hope you find peace and can move forward from that traumatic experience ❤️

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limegreenPenguin3507 August 7th, 2022

I am in a similar situation and didn't realize how bad it was until recently. There's no physical abuse but everything else you ladies are saying sounds familiar. We have been together for 5 years and he just recently like in the last couple months started to be this way. Still not sure what to do. It's a hard thing to decide what to do.

goldenWillow5016 August 22nd, 2022

I find myself in this particular situation. I'm married for five years now, and the switch from normal, caring boyfriend to narcissistic abusive husband was almost instantaneous after we got married. Two children now, and I couldn't put a finger on what this was, until he ended up in the hospital for a hemorrhage and his nurse--who was divorcing her narcissistic husband herself--checked in with me one day, because he was triggering her while she was caring for him. Now, after some extensive research, I am seeking professional help with the debilitating aspect of the abuse, and I am also taking steps to divorce because it won't stop. If anyone has any tips for additional assistance with NA, I am open, please share.