Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Wednesday 2nd May 2018

Hi Trauma Family today I want to focus a bit on the "Positive Influencers" in our lives. Positive Influencers are people that have a positive influence upon others. Positive Influencers help to shape us and to deposit something deep within us.

So before we look at what a Positive Influencer looks like, lets first look at Negative Influencers. A Negative Influencer can be a person that critizises you alot, puts you down, constantly undermines you, second guesses you, brings discouragement, is negative, patronising or abusive towards you. For example years ago I watched an episode of the TV show "The Apprentice". In this episode one of the contestants was complaining about another contestant (lets call him Jim, I can't remember his name). Jim had a habit of critizising everyones ideas, and his constant negativity drained the other contestants. One of the contestants had compared Jim to one one of the "Tormentors" in the Harry Potter Novels. While another contestant said this " It's like a hot sunny day and you are sitting on the beach with your ice cream, and you are relatively happy. Then Jim approaches, and the clouds suddenly turn black, there is a sound of thunder, and the birds start falling from the sky!"

So what does a Positive Influencer look like?

1)A Positive Influencer will believe in you when no one else does

2)Understand the power of words to build you up

3)Can see positive things about you that no one else can see

4)Might show "tough love" to get you where you need to be

5)Inspire and encourage you to push harder, and reach higher

6)Stand with you through hardships, suffering and trials, offering comfort, encouragement and support.

7)Moves in random act of kindness

8)Exhibits strong leadership abilities

When I began to look back on my life I could clearly see who my Postive Influencers were/are. Interestingly enough, I began to see the people that had "fallen between the cracks". Those whose impact at the time may not of seemed that significant, but now with hindsight, I see how influential they really were.

Here are some quotes for present/future Positive Influencers:

"Dont focus on what others are doing wrong, instead be a light in their lives, a positive influence, a difference maker" (Joel Osteen)

"The people that influence you, are the people that believe in you (Brainyquote.com)"

"To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived, this is to have succeeded. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

"Every day you are leading by example, whether you realise it or not, whether it is positive or negative, you are influencing those around you. (Bonny Cochrane)

1)So what Positive Influencers have been in your life?

2)What impact did they make?

3)If you did not have any Positive Influencers, are there any books, films, websites, stories that have had a positive influence on you? and how did this affect you?

4)Are you a Positive Influencer? If so, how are you impacting the lives of others.? For example supporting individuals on this site may seem like a small act, but it can have a great impact on someones life.

Also how has your day been? has it been a good day so far? a bad one? Let us know how you are doing

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