Dealing with a CREEPY COLLEAGUE
So , there is a person in my office who is not in my team or project or department or building.
Background story (you can skip this) : i had some work in his building and I interacted with him just for that task, after that task was over he asked for my personal number so that we can discuss the task if necessary.
Current situation : He praised me FOR NO REASON, texts me at odd hours, sent me "CUTE" emoticons
Our tenure : he is here for almost 8 years, I recently joined this compay in last December
Our job importance : this company can easily replace him (he is in management) but they can't replace me in such a short period ( I'm developer trained in some specialized techniques)
Work hierarchy : my team lead has more powers than him with same job scale as that person, so I feel secure working with my team
Relationship status : he is elder and married, I'm not
I DONT WANT A DRAMA, BUT I REALLY WANT TO SLA P THAT PERSON , IM FED UP AND SERIOUSLY IF ANYONE ELSE FOUND OUT THIS CRA P, I DONT KNOW HOW THEY WILL REACT
I don't know how my team will react on this ... I gained respect, praise, raise in my department by working hard, I can't risk any of that.
@RHassan sorry you have a person that is seemingly trying to develop interest with you. It does not sound like an easy situation.
My first instinct when I have anger rising up is to identify and take steps not to let it control me. Right now you are in a defensible situation. If you do something in anger, it may appear you are attacking them. This never turns out well.
So if they email or text you, can you just ignore that. No reaction or response often discourages unwanted interest.
I try to avoid confrontation and battles. Even if I have to excuse myself and go to the rest room, I try to avoid confrontation. Confrontation makes me feel worse.
Hope you get the support you are looking for.
It might be better if you just tell him you only want to get contacted from work e-mail. Just cross the line.
