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Feeling Lost

Elyse285 July 17th, 2021

For the last few months I can't shake this feeling that I don't know what to do with my life. These past months haven't been good to me, I've struggled more than I ever have and I kinda still am. Nothing is going right for me it just feels like my whole world crashed and I can't do anything to fix it, I see everyone else living their life, knowing what to do with their lives, reaching goals, just being happy and knowing that their life is perfect and their getting what they want out of it. I see this and I can't help but to be jealous and envious because I see everyone around me moving on to bigger and better things while I'm still stuck lost in a place that I can't get out of. I'm lost and unhappy and I really don't know what to do anymore.

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Viveti July 18th, 2021

I'm in a similar position but am making progress forward as well. You have to just set goals and plan out how to achieve those goals, regardless of how small the goals are. If we continue to base our success on people out there who are constantly moving forward, we will always disappoint ourselves. It's a vicious cycle and hard to break free from. As someone who is undergoing the same thing, take an hour and write out what you enjoy. Then look at careers you want to pursue, regardless of pay. That was my first step. Know that very little progress will be made and being discouraged is going to be common.

soulsings July 18th, 2021

@Elyse285 I am sorry you are feeling lost. That can be a disruptive emotion.

The problem I have is that I glorify other people's lives and make them out to be perfect and make a picture of my own life as a disaster. That is called black and white thinking.

Other people may appear to be happy and well adjusted but many people put their best face forward (called putting on the dog) and they do not show the doubts and insecurities they may feel and compensate for in their lives.

Rather than compare ourselves to others, it is more effective to compare ourselves to where we were 5 years ago and see the progress we have made. Then see where we are not yet satisfied with our progress and determine what we can do to get to where we want to be.

I find these self help guides are a place for me to start "righting the ship" and getting on with life. https://www.7cups.com/supportGuides/selfHelpGuides.php

soulsings