Managing my fathers alcoholism
I recently learned my father got a DUI. We’ve known he had a problem and he’s overdue for treatment. The good part is that the family is supportive and taking steps now to help. But I am not sure how to approach things. How much or when to help.
I guess I am just looking for advice and support in what I should be doing or how to feel
@intellectualHuman915
It is hard to say as each persons alcoholism is personal... recovery is hard but In my experience i had to stay tough to make sure spouse followed thru and did not slip up.
My kids were tough too to make sure he knew the consequences of not following through ... If this is first DUI does not mean he learned a lesson as my family went thru 3 of them. you will need to access what he needs support or a kick in the a$$ to stay sober and this is not a game can cost a ton of money and effect family.
I am so sorry you’re going through this, you and your family. My mother was an alcoholic and it can really take hold of the family! I want to say that however you feel is ok, and it’s ok to help or not help to the degree to which you are comfortable. I know it’s cliché but it’s also true, you cannot fix his alcoholism. You might try to decide for yourself how much you are comfortable helping. Make sure you are making time and space for yourself and your own needs while your family is going through this tough time (note that these kind of boundaries make some people very uncomfortable or angry, especially in families with addiction. It’s still ok).
