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In love with an alcoholic

blueOcean6753 February 17th

Can a relationship work out and be happy together if one is an alcoholic and an addict? My boyfriend can't stop drinking and wants to and he takes pills with his alcohol. I try to help him but he doesn't want it when his mind is focused on drinking but wants the help when something happens like he gets hurt and can't remember what happened or he wrecks a vehicle. I don't want to walk away from him but his actions and lifestyle are causing major issues is our relationship and our lives.

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PineTreeTree February 17th

@blueOcean6753 Taking pills with alcohol is the stupidest thing a person could do and might just leave him in a permanent vegetative state. Do you want to fix the problems he creates for himself and you? Do you want to be physically injured, financially injured? He is unlikely to stop unless the cost gets too high for him. Unfortunately for many the cost is never too high. So to answer your question, yeah it has worked out for some couples, but you’re probably asking yourself if it’s worth it. Where is your limit and what potential future are you sacrificing for someone who loves alcohol a million times more than you? 

blueOcean6753 OP February 17th

@pinetreetree you right no matter how hard that was to read. It's the cold truth. Deep down I know it's not going to work. It's already suffered financially too and trust is not there. Then there is separation and still having to live together because neither of us have anywhere to go and can't afford anything separately the money isn't there. I don't make enough to pay everything here.

LilMissListener February 18th

I’m in the same situation right now too.

my partner is a heavy drinker.

I can’t handle it anymore.

I want to leave but can’t afford it.

im in such a rut.