Advice
I was wondering if I could get some advice about meth addiction from a woman's viewpoint. Like some one who was addicted to it.
@Landanchandler
Hi, I am sorry that I can't give you advice and I really don't know much about Mepth. I wanted to let you know your question. Has not been ignored. I can only offer to do some research that might be helpful and post the info. I hope that you are able to get the answers you are seeking.❤️
Thank you for your reply. I don't have any personal experience myself. I'm just trying to understand what is going on in my kid's mom's head. There are other factors to consider as well. Like mental health wise.
as an individual who struggles with meth addiction/dependency i hope this helps.
my very 1st hit was absolutely amazing id never felt anything like it and i KNEW from that point on i was forever gonna struggle . it gives a huge rush of serotonin and confidence like no other, i was so happy i felt oh so euphoric i was getting stuff done finally and organizing any/every thing, id get high start a project at per-say 4am, next i know its 12 in the afternoon and i barely even got halfway through whatever it was i thought was so important but idc bc i was distracted. it keeps you living in the moment, you don’t give a damn about nothing but what’s right in front of you, it steals your soul, robbes u of your identity, eats you alive you of anything you tnag made you you, over time u become more n more dependent and its your best friend, your only friend now, it controls you, keeps you isolated, comforts you, convinces you that its all youll ever need. after a while its like u dont even want to do it anymore its so exhausting yet i am so lost with out. when i look in the mirror i see a completely different, a stranger if u may and hate jt, i wish i never picked up the pipe that day and who knows maybe id actually be a person n not js an addict. methamphetamine is extremely dangerous because its been proven to be one of most addictive substances, again, it steals your soul, rips you of your identity, leaving you so lost and the only way tk get control and feel okay again is if its there .. waiting for u to feel anything other then the litle serotonin boost you get after consuming, its a vicious cycle, an endless one, without it you’ll start to question your existence, n began feeling there is no purpose/point to keep going, it is more then possible to get sober from methamphetamine however youll never be who u once were b4 it and youll never be satisfied/feel thag satisfaction again, its almost impossible to try n get off this without some sort of influence and or someone by your side whom is patient and understanding
i apologize for the typos and grammar
So the person I loved is truly gone? My kids mom is gone? Is there no way I can convince her to choose her kids?
I was told once that only God would know just how far she fell. I would never get the truth out of her. And with what little experience I do have with it, I can't trust any1 that has ever used it.
shes not gone, she is stuck in that loop and needs guidance, however its up to her to accept it.
Not that I'm saying I can't trust what you are saying. Thank you for your reply.
i understand, if u have any more questions or concerns feel free to tell me and ill answer the best i can given my experiences.
yes methamphetamine is very powerful but i believe anybody can overcome it, it just depends on them and their mindset.
She was arrested in March for child endangerment of another kid she has. I had already taken custody of our 3 from her in August 2022. At that time I reached out to her. I hadn't spoken to her in 3 years. I begged her to seek help. She claims she has. But I told her the only way I would trust her was unless she did exactly what I told her to do. The child endangerment charge was all I needed to terminate her parental rights. And I told her please don't make me do this. Her dad, stepmother, and aunt are all telling me to terminate her rights. I want to because its the only way I see for my kids to be safe. I want my kids to have their mom. But with everything she did to the kids and I. I can't trust her. Everything has always been a means to an end for her. As soon as she is in the clear, it's back to business as usual. Her family now sees what I've always said. I believe that she believes she has done nothing wrong. There are many other factors to consider here. Her mental health, childhood trauma, upbringing. Idk how long she was on it or what all she did in the last 3 years. But since August of 2022 she has accumulated 5 felonies, 2 misdemeanors, and 3 counts of probation violation.
I know meth, unfortunatley , so also wanted to reach out.,.
Nothing means more to me than family. I don’t have kids but my brother whom is 7yrs younger is everything and more, especially ‘technically being my half brother’ which I never speak of as blood is not everything and infact is why we are so close. I am a god mother too and to think I let down all whom I hold dearest and lost all that I am…. All that I stand for…. This is meth.
An evil that consumes your whole being, like no other and traps you within confines you can not escape and the harder you try the harder it is to know freedom is around the corner.
I wish no such understanding upon another and to understand is impossible…
trust the person before as this is the reminder needed to reflect any light
Thank you for response. I unfortunately have been on the other side of it for most of my life. I watched it kill my uncle. Send my aunt to prison twice. Destroy their kids lives. The oldest is going down the same road as them. I watched it destroy my sister. I've never touched it because of those experiences. So I know some things about it. But this is my kids mom. They know and love her. They asked me for her. I'd do anything to give them their mom back. I wish I could pick up the phone and text her. Let her speak to and see the kids. But at the same time I know any sympathy or empathy I feel for her she will take advantage of it. I'm currently trying to get the 2 of us in front of a therapist. Right now it's the only option I see and really a last ditch effort to try and get her to understand what needs to happen so she can be apart of the kids lives. If it doesn't work then at least I can say I tried when the kids are older. I'm also in the process of terminating her rights to the kids. I have no other choice really. I just pray that there is a chance to get through to her.
Hi. I am a mother who is currently in the grips of active addiction. My son was taken from me by his father after I was in an abusive relationship. I have barely been allowed to see my son for 4 years. when I have been allowed to see him, I had to jump through so many hoops and the whole visit was controlled by someone else. It's like I wasn't even allowed to visit with my son because his father or my mother just wanted to talk to me the whole time telling me that I'm a screw up or how to live my life. I know the way society looks at people who use drugs. When was the last time you looked at this woman as something other than the substances she's on? How easy or difficult have you made it for her to see the children? If she has to beg or jump through hoops then I'd say your children will not get to know their mother. she will stop using whenever she is ready to not when everyone else tells her to. Maybe try asking if she wants to come to lunch with you and the kids. I know that it's not necessarily your job to go out of your way to make things like that happen, but sometimes it feels like getting to see my son is impossible. If repairing the relationship is your primary goal, she will be resistant to it but if the children are your reason behind it just don't try and make it any more difficult than it has to be.
I cant look at her any other way than the abusive person that she was towards me. My anger towards her for what she did to me, our kids and herself gets in the way. I'm aware of it and that is my problem but it's a problem she created nonetheless. She doesn't beg to see or speak to them. She barely tries. I'm giving her more of a chance than she deserves because the kids ask me when can they see her. All I've asked her to do is seek the proper treatment for her addiction and mental health issues. I do feel sorry for her but the way I see it. If you choose drugs over your kids, if you don't have the willpower to stop. Then you don't deserve to have kids. It's weakness and cowardice. I've done my fair share but I never let it control me. Her only option im giving her is to walk away from all that and the people she was doing it all with or the next time she sees these kids will be when they turn 18 and make the choice to see her. Now with all that being said. Do I wish I could take all of that away for her? All the pain and misery she is in. The addiction and the *** up situation she is in. You bet your *** I do. This isn't something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. I'd do anything to give her happiness. But I can't. I can't even text or call her without having a anxiety attack. The best I can do is get her in front of a therapist. Which she agreed to but has yet to make an appointment. She needs to understand that she needs to convince me that she is safe and stable and has a clear mind b4 I let her back into the kids lives. But she isn't really making an effort. And I really want her too.
@Landanchandler I was never on meth specifically but it's quite simple really, why someone would abuse hard narcotics. It feels amazing. You're depressed as *** and nothing but suicide on your mind? Narcotics can take all that pain away. Loneliness was the biggest factor for me.