Unexpected detours(Grief) and sobriety

@wonderfulKermit1936 I am so sorry for your loss. It's very understandable to want to reach for something, anything that might help in the moment but I'm so glad that you're being so strong, we are all here for you and with you.

I take myself away when I feel like sinking. New places, new people to talk to and not having to feel the emptiness of the space that once was my normal. Don't hesitate to reach out for support and talk when it feels too much. Focus on small things, add new distractions till your heart feels a bit at ease, go out for walks if that helps. Remember that it is going to be hard, no quick fixes for grief so it's okay to feel it all or not at all. With time you will find your footing till then hold on to yourself, let your loved ones hold on to you. Keeping you in my thoughts<3

I completely understand how you felel. I felt the same when my dad died. If possible, find an AA meeting. I was skeptical of them at first but they have done me a works

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@wonderfulKermit1936

I'm so sorry to hear about the unexpected loss of your mother. Grief can be an incredibly painful and disorienting experience, especially when it comes suddenly. Please don't be too hard on yourself - the cravings to numb the pain with substances are a very understandable and common reaction.

During times of intense grief and sadness, the urge to escape or avoid the difficult emotions can feel overwhelming. But I'm really glad to hear you are using healthy coping strategies like mindfulness, music, and giving yourself space. Those are all excellent tools to help you process the grief in a constructive way.

The most important thing is to be patient and compassionate with yourself. Grief is hard work, and there's no right or wrong way to do it. Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions arise, while also making space for moments of joy and lightness when you can.

You're doing the hard work of healing, and I'm proud of you for that

Take care